Right, advice on how to handle it personally, ie: drink tea, volunteer at a shelter, focus on the good times etc.... I was not asking for a shrink session on perceived faults I may have as a mother, or people to assume things and go all bat poop crazy as another DISer would say (still my favorite saying from here).
Nevermind.
I suppose in fairness my title was How do you handle it? But yeah, I was mostly venting and maybe thinking generic advice, like How to handle it when the kids go to college threads. How do you handle empty nest? etc....
Nope, but as I posted in a different thread on what your major faults are, one of mine is trusting people/assuming people are going to be kind and good. OOPS! My bad.You must be new here.
I'm so sorry. I don't understand what you mean.Ah, but you must consider the sources.
You don't believe most of the people are trying to give you the best possible information based on what you have shared and what they have asked? And, if you genuinely believe that people are trying to be harsh and cruel, would your response to that really be, "Ooops, my bad?" I mean, I work in a field where people share difficult and painful feelings all the time. My default assumption is that others are REALLY trying to provide helpful and supportive information, even if they get over zealous. When I feel they are not, I simply redirect them. Most of the time, they just need information and context-then they can support and help their peer. I have not read any statement indicating that someone thinks you are a bad mother. In the absence of detail, people will ask for detail. That is what good, loving, honest, supportive people do.Nope, but as I posted in a different thread on what your major faults are, one of mine is trusting people/assuming people are going to be kind and good. OOPS! My bad.
