I just finished reading the article (posted below) then I came across this post. Sorry I didn't read all the replies, but what I noticed after reading the OP's posted article, it read differently than what I read..........I think the OP was the Associated Press paraphrased article about this column by the Original writer David Brooks:
What get's me is this article seems less harsh on the parents, than the article in the OP - but the basic information is somewhat the same. Don't you just love the media, with the ability to slant the meaning to fit their purpose.
Anyway, if anyone is interested - this is the column by David Brooks:
Killer's parents survivors, too
David Brooks - New York Times
Tuesday, May 18, 2004
After I wrote a column a few weeks ago about the 1999 shootings at Columbine High School, I got e-mail from Tom Klebold, the father of Dylan Klebold, one of the shooters. Tom objected to the column, but the striking thing about his note was that while acknowledging the horrible crime his son had committed, Tom was still fiercely loyal to him.
Which prompts this question: If your child commits a crime like that, what do you do with the rest of your life?
Tom and Susan Klebold have not really spoken to the press about all this. But the lawsuits against them are being settled, and they trust The New York Times, which is the paper they read every day, so they were willing to have a long conversation with me.
They are a well-educated, reflective, highly intelligent couple (Dylan was named after Dylan Thomas). During our conversation they discussed matters between themselves, as well as answering my questions. Their son, by the way, is widely seen as the follower, who was led by Eric Harris into this nightmare.
The Klebolds describe the day of the shootings as a natural disaster, as a ''hurricane'' or a ''rain of fire.'' They say they had no intimations of Dylan's mental state. Tom, who works from home and saw his son every day, had spent part of the previous week with Dylan scoping out dorm rooms for college the next year.
When they first heard about the shootings, it did not occur to them that Dylan could be to blame. When informed, Susan said, ''we ran for our lives.'' They went into hiding, desperate for information. ''We didn't know what had happened,'' she said. ''We couldn't grieve for our child.''
That first night, their lawyer said to them, ''Dylan isn't here anymore for people to hate, so people are going to hate you.'' Even as we spoke last week, Tom had in front of him the poll results, news stories and documents, showing that 83 percent of Americans had believed the parents were partly to blame. Their lives are now pinioned to this bottomless question: Who is responsible?
They feel certain of one thing. ''Dylan did not do this because of the way he was raised,'' Susan said. ''He did it in contradiction to the way he was raised.''
After the shooting, they faced a simple choice: to move away and change their names, or to go back and resume their lives. Susan thinks about leaving every day. ''I won't let them win,'' Tom said. ''You can't run from something like this.''
So they live in the same house and work at the same jobs. Susan works in the community college system. ''It's amazing how long it took me to get up and say my name at a meeting, to say, 'I'm Dylan Klebold's mother,' " Susan says.
In general, Tom said, ''most people have been good-hearted.'' Their friends rallied around. Their neighbors call to warn them if an unfamiliar car lurks in the neighborhood. There is a moment of discomfort when they hand over a credit card at a store, but there have been few bad scenes. One clerk looked at the name and remarked to Susan, ''Boy, you're a survivor, aren't you?''
The most infuriating incident, Susan said, came when somebody said, ''I forgive you for what you've done.'' Susan insists, ''I haven't done anything for which I need forgiveness.''
When they talk about the event, they discuss it as a suicide. They acknowledge but do not emphasize the murders their son committed. They also think about the signs they missed. ''He was hopeless. We didn't realize it until after the end,'' Tom said. Susan added: ''I think he suffered horribly before he died. For not seeing that, I will never forgive myself.''
They believe that what they call the ''toxic culture'' of the school --- the worship of jocks and the tolerance of bullying --- is the primary force that set Dylan off. But they confess that in the main, they have no explanation.
''People need to understand,'' Tom said, ''this could have happened to them.''
My instinct is that Dylan Klebold was a self-initiating moral agent who made his choices and should be condemned for them. Neither his school nor his parents determined his behavior. Now his parents have been left with the terrible consequences. I'd say they are facing them bravely and honorably.
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