How do we tell them??

[princessdisneybelle]

Thank you to everyone for all the suggestions! We're going to just tell them that's what we're going to do once we decide 100% for sure to do it. It's up to her to act like the adult here, and if she's not there then she's not there. FH and I are sick of her playing the attention game... trying to one-up everyone, and honestly we're both already worried she's going to turn this wedding into something that's all about her as it is.

Now I have to wonder if we can take a look at the pavilion without a contract or anything... we'd like to take a good look at it while we're down there over NYE so we can know if this really is the route we wanna go!

I guess my other question is... is it possible to do a custom wedding under 20,000? We'd like to just try and keep costs down so we definately can do it... and was just wondering if anyone has any suggestions.

again!

Just call, and they will let you look at it. My Mom and I did in July. We just called from our resort actually. And yes you can keep it under 20,000. I just switched to a custom and I am going to be well under that with about 45 guests.

 

[RayaniFoxmur]

Just call, and they will let you look at it. My Mom and I did in July. We just called from our resort actually. And yes you can keep it under 20,000. I just switched to a custom and I am going to be well under that with about 45 guests.

Yay! This makes me very excited... I had made a wishbook and it went up pretty high, so it's just a matter of figuring out what to cut and what not to cut what I can bring myself ect ect ect!

It feels so overwhelming right now!

 

[JJClemson]

aaaah don't FMIL's drive you crazy? Your FMIL may use the "you're moving too fast" as an excuse to protest the marriage. My FMIL is extremely jealous of me b/c "her baby boy" gives me more attention than her She was not happy when we got engaged, said we were moving too fast (we had been dating 4 1/2 years!) and said we're too young to get married (we will both be 25, mind you, she got married when she was 19).

Some people just like causing problems and creating drama for attention. You and your DF are doing the right thing by having YOUR dream wedding. And yes, you can have a DFTW for under $20k. I am having a custom w/ about 60-70 people and I am finding a way to make my check to Disney to be less than $20k. Good luck

 

[fabshelly]

I had a custom for 6300.00, fifty guests, sit-down lunch at Ariel's, flowers, cake, hair/makeup, harpist (Kat, she rocks), open bar and mini-muffins with spread while we were getting our pictures taken, so the guests wouldn't get bored. We got married at the courtyard in the Beach Club. They didn't know about it til I showed them. Ha. Now they use it a lot!

Of course, prices have probably gone up a bit since '93.

 

[SandiH]

Sort of off topic (but mentioned in your post) why did you give your daughter up for adoption?

 

[RayaniFoxmur]

Sort of off topic (but mentioned in your post) why did you give your daughter up for adoption?

Heh, I've been getting this question a lot lately...

Honestly? I needed to. I am not ready to be a mother yet, and she was a total surprised. I was not even supposed to get pregnant and when I did her father left me at 8 weeks. I'm still in college and want to finish as well as would like to see my children be raised in an environment that wouldn't rely on public assistance programs, like I would have had to before I met my FH. When I met FH he told me that I didn't have to give her up, but I didn't want to force a child on him in a relationship that was very new at the time. Some relationships don't survive the birth of a new child when they're established, I didn't want to do that to FH and I when our relationship wasn't. She was adopted by my Aunt and Uncle, who could not have children at all (she had a hysterectomy at 28). I know she'll have the best life she possibly can have there, and a life I cannot give her at this time. She'll always know me as her birth mom however, and I'll be able to have a good relationship with her as she's older.

 

[AnnieBelle]

What a mature decision that was, and I am sure hard as well. It is awesome that you were able to do something special for your aunt and uncle too. Your future husband sounds like an amazing guy!

 

[SandiH]

Thanks for sharing. It's wise of you to realize that you weren't ready to be a mother and found someone who was.

 

[RayaniFoxmur]

What a mature decision that was, and I am sure hard as well. It is awesome that you were able to do something special for your aunt and uncle too. Your future husband sounds like an amazing guy!

Thank you so much. It was very hard, but I had to tell myself it wasn't about me, it was about her... and I couldn't do her the disservice of raising her before I was ready and could give her the things she needed.

And he really is! When we met I was pregnant and he told me it didn't matter to him if I was keeping her or giving her up. He walked through the adoption process with me and was there when she was born... even went to all my doctor's appointments and sat in the c-section room with me! He stayed with me in the hospital the whole time and went to court with me when I signed the final papers. He admitted to me afterwards that he was glad he didn't get a chance to hold her until after the papers were signed (she was in NICU due to breathing complications for 5 days after the birth, and then I went to court the 6th day) because he wouldn't have been able to let me sign the paperwork! He loves her very much, and everything he's gone through with me has shown me what an amazing man he really is