How do address your In-laws?

I guess if my MIL acted like the woman on Bacherlorette last night, I'd want to call her Mrs. even if she wanted me to call her Mom - just to maintain some distance! It' not necessarily what the woman wanted to be called - it could be what DIL feels more comfortable calling her.
 
We're from NJ and In laws are originally from NYC. I never see them without my DS so I call them what he calls them. YaYa and PopPop. My boys from a previous marriage really never called them anything, one was YaYa(add first name) and FIL first name.
The weird part is they are divorced and date steadily.

DH called my mom by her first name and calls my dad "Doc" like everyone else even family.
 
After we were married (literally, at the reception!) my inlaws both insisted I call them Mom and Dad. To this day, if I call my FIL by his name, he corrects me.

I have *never* felt comfortable calling them Mom and Dad. I think, if I had been more self assured, I would have admitted that upfront and refused to call them by anything but their names. But, I didn't have the stomach to do it. Needless to say, I'm six years older, wiser, and more stubborn than I used to be. I have been calling MIL by her name for a few months now and she seems okay. Since FIL won't answer to his name, I've been avoiding calling him anything lately. :p Seriously, I don't use any name, I just say what I want without using any name (which is harder than it sounds!).

Dh calls my mom by her name and it works well for both of them.
 
I try not to.

But when I can't avoid it, I call them by their first names.

It helps that they are in Wisconsin and we are not.

We live in PA now, but all of us(in-laws too) are originally from Texas.

Edited to add--
My husband calls my parents by their first names as well, but my parents address him as "Son".
Our kids call my parents "Lala and Papa", but don't really talk to the other grandparents much, so they get a bit confused as how to address my in-laws.
 

I call them mom and dad or by their first names....depends on the setting. If the real daughters are around...I use first names...if it's just the four of us....mom and dad works perfectly.

My husband calls my mom. mom..but calls my dad by his first name only.
 
DH and I are from NY state. We both address our respective in-laws as mom and dad. However when I refer to my FIL I refer to him as Sam.
 
Mom & Dad. My husband called my Dad - Pop when he was alive. Calls my mother Mom. They have no problem with it. Has never felt wrong to me. I am married 35 years this year. From Long Island.
 
I call them by their first names... DH also calls my mom by her first name (my dad is deceased). No one seems to have a problem with it at all. The way I look at it, I only have one mom, and to call my MIL that would take something away from her... My dad passed away several years ago, and I'll never call someone else "dad"... because they're not my dad!
 
I call my In-laws by their first names. :)

DH calls my parents Mom and Dad. :)

We are from the Midwest. :)
 
When we first got married I called his parents by their first names but DH would call my mom - Mom.

Over the years I started calling them mom and dad more, but sometimes will still call them by their first names. Really depends on if I'm talking to them or about them and the situation.

We're from the Midwest.
 
My in laws are both deceased, now. But I used to call them Mom and Dad. Only because they insisted. My DH called my parents Mom and Dad, too.

My DIL calls me either Mom or by my first name. Usually, though, she'll just call me "Grandma." Personally, I don't care what she calls me as long as she's comfortable with it (and as long as it's nice!).
 
I'm like that SIL of Lanny's - I call my ILs Mr. and Mrs. MIL is passed away now, but there was no way in heck I was gonna call her Mom, and I don't feel particularly compelled to call FIL anything else but Mr. either. Partly because I never got the warm and fuzzies from either of them, partly because in the 17 years I have been married to their son they never said to call them anything differently, and partly because I have known them since I was a young girl, where Mr. and Mrs. was appropriate. DH called my Mom and Dad by their first names. My mom addressed that with him as soon as we got married and that is what they came up with.
 
Originally posted by Lewski709
First names, but I try to stay AWAY.

:laughing: GOOD ONE

by their first names. I think Mr/Mrs is much too formal for someone you consider family.
 
I call my MIL Mother Cat and my FIL Father Cat...dont know how it started...just did....but I like it...

They treat me as a daughter and I LOVE them to bits
 




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