How come? MIL again. ...and then there was facebook rotfl

[Wishing on a star]

I just think everyone is making this out to be a bigger deal than it is....in my eyes the OP was just venting and making conversation.

Ohhhh, I would be a-okay if that was what I saw here.

It is not the venting, but the various and obvious facts about their situation that have been disclosed that reveal the true story.

The OP posts here, several times now, with all of this "carp" and is quick to reply within 60 seconds to name-call anybody who isn't completely supportive....

Man.... just WORLD CLASS!!!!!
Right up there with the best.

 

[SpecialK]

LOL! If you read the cheesecake thread and thought it was actually about cheesecake, you need to read it again. It was about her MIL being a demanding bully.

Or the daughter-in-law being a passive-aggressive control freak.

 

[RunningGirl]

Wow. Amazing to me lately the attack mode mentality around here. A vent is a vent. When your friends call you up to let off some steam about something do you lend a sympathetic ear or do you lecture them about how it's really all their fault? Usually people just need to express their frustration and then they can get on with getting along quite happily. Why is everything here turned in to such a major drama? Sometimes there is no hidden agenda or twist.

OP, I get it. ILs can be difficult but we try to keep the peace to make life easier on our spouses. I really don't see how that's thinking your spouse has to choose between you and his parents. Sometimes you just have to vent about it. Then you move on.

 

[Mama-san]

OP...I get it. I followed the cheesecake thread and this one as well. I do get where you're coming from. Sounds like MIL is a minor annoyance in an otherwise good life. Seems to me your just wanted to vent a little and thought others might enjoy following along with the craziness.

I think you're doing what is best for your family (DH & kids) and your heart is in the right place.

Best of luck!!

I just think everyone is making this out to be a bigger deal than it is....in my eyes the OP was just venting and making conversation.

Ditto. I didn't know there was a rule that you could only post about your dead cat or what to name your dog.

 

[LuvOrlando]

I know!!! The nerve of the OP posting on a thread to find support and not being appreciative of being attacked. What is this world coming to!!!!!! She wanted a sympathetic ear and actually expected one. The nerve, the absolute gall... Doesn't she know anyone who has a problem should be slapped repeatedly and be grateful for it.



In case you don't get it, that's me laughing in some faces

 

[bookgirl]

I don't have a mother in law but for what it's worth I just saw it as a vent, and I DO know what it's like to have PITA relatives and sometimes you just have to suck it up and then imediatly go to your friends and VENT, VENT, VENT. And if the PITA gets a little villanized it's not an indicator of massive dysfunction or passive aggression or masochisim it's just life and sometimes you just need to rag on someone to an imparital third party so that you don't go postal in their face or choke yourself laughing in front of them.

 

[WDSearcher]

Wow. Amazing to me lately the attack mode mentality around here. A vent is a vent. When your friends call you up to let off some steam about something do you lend a sympathetic ear or do you lecture them about how it's really all their fault? Usually people just need to express their frustration and then they can get on with getting along quite happily. Why is everything here turned in to such a major drama? Sometimes there is no hidden agenda or twist.

OP, I get it. ILs can be difficult but we try to keep the peace to make life easier on our spouses. I really don't see how that's thinking your spouse has to choose between you and his parents. Sometimes you just have to vent about it. Then you move on.

Exactly. A vent is a vent. But here it's followed by, "Oh ... guess what happened today" and "The plot thickens ... here's an update" and "check out post 35 ... there's more!" The OP isn't venting, she's narrating. A vent would be implying that the OP would get it out of her system and then let it go. Not seein' that here ...

 

[LuvOrlando]

I KNEW IT! I was just waiting for the shoe to drop and today must have been a slow day on The View because MIL's sister totally sucker punched me on Facebook

My son is sick, really sick and has been for a few days. His Asthma is a mess and he has an infection. Anyway I was posting how he was doing and DH's Aunt kept posting about what a nice week my kids had last week. I knew she was baiting me but I didn't take it. Then this morning she posted a boo-hoo-hoo story about how it's such a shame MIL was in the hospital alone and home alone for days when we were having so much fun. I didn't really respond, but DH went on there said what really happened and said people who don't know whats going on shouldn't say anything because they end up looking stupid.

What a bunch of wack-a-doos, I'm not even mad... more amused

BTW, since Christmas the only time I've spoken to these people was the New Year's Day conversation & the Gatorade conversation.... sigh, I bet they just can't wait to NOT get me something for my birthday next week

 

[ols386]

Good heavens, LuvOrlando, why don't you just try and ignore the disfunctional drama that comes from your MIL, and NOW, her sister. You are letting yourself get sucked up into ALL of the drama. I realize that MIL lives right next door to you, but still, you'd be better off if you find a way to either ignore it or let her words go in one ear and right the other. But you don't do that. You let yourself get all caught up into the whole sitatuion(s).

 

[OceanAnnie]

That's a whole lot of drama. Sometimes a person can get in a fog when it's so much, so often. But at some point you gotta get off of the crazy train and not participate. It sounds like you have to a large degree, Luv. Living next door makes it almost impossible to not get sucked in from time to time.

You can find humor in it and that is good for you. Really good. It seems you will never go without a good chuckle. Just don't get on the crazy train. Watch it go by and wave.

 

[HM]

With your latest post, I'm wondering why you'd even have your 'crazy' relatives on your friend list at Facebook. Maybe it would be better to stay off Facebook for a good long time and not give ANYONE any fodder to play around with.

 

[LuvOrlando]

I am waving at that train as it circles the yard, enjoying the show and waiting to see how it ends

I thought about deleting her from my FB but then it would seem all huffy, and I don't want to seem bothered... trust me, knowing them this is much more irritating.

 

[ols386]

I am waving at that train as it circles the yard, enjoying the show and waiting to see how it ends

I thought about deleting her from my FB but then it would seem all huffy, and I don't want to seem bothered... trust me, knowing them this is much more irritating.

Just don't jump on that train.

 

[minniecarousel]

I am waving at that train as it circles the yard, enjoying the show and waiting to see how it ends

I thought about deleting her from my FB but then it would seem all huffy, and I don't want to seem bothered... trust me, knowing them this is much more irritating.

What is better than deleting someone as a friend is "hiding" all their posts. Much cleaner that way!

 

[eh24fan]

OP...I totally get your stance on all of this

My MIL is a REAL piece of work and we just don't talk to her anymore. She and FIL were married for 27 years and about a year and half or 2 years ago she up and left. Just decided she was done being married.

They were 17 when they married, my DH was born when they were 16 & 17, then they had another child when DH was 15. So she hooked up with 12yr old BIL's football coach, cheated in FIL, and left. She has lied to us about so much stupid crap, crap that doesn't even matter. She has treated me like crap for about 4 years now, when prior to that she ADORED me...as in I've known this family for about 20 years now. It was bizarre how she turned on me. Then the she did the same to everyone else.

She has had no contact with us for about a year now, her choice. My DH hasn't exactly reached out to her either. I've emailed her pics of our kids a few times, but the only response was thanks. We've seen her 2 times at BIL's basketball games, both times she just ignored us...the kids included. DH told her he wasn't going to deal with her lies, drama and BS anymore. Her response was just to cut off all contact. Whatever! But we still have to deal with it to an extent in that we try to maintain our relationships with his brother...who lives with her. UGH