How can I persuade my DS to ....??

foxylady

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My DS is 15 (nearly 16), and if you have read my trip reports, you will know that he dances.

He started dancing when he was 3, and still enjoys it. He has taken a lot of exams in tap, modern, ballet & jazz, all of which he can count towards university points when applying for courses.

Despite the fact that he still enjoys it, he doesn't want to go into the industry, he is aiming for something to do with sports coaching.

However, he has been offered, what we think is a fantastic opportunity!

Arts Ed, one of the top musical theatre colleges in the country, have offered DS's dance teacher the chance to send one boy and one girl down to one of the Easter courses they hold, and she has asked him. This course is like a week's scholarship and we only have to pay for his food and transport down there. The cost of teaching is free.

DH & I think it is a great opportunity, and are happy for him to miss normal school for a week, even though he has his GCSE's this year (he did well enough in his mocks). He can't see the point as he doesn't want to dance for a career. We keep telling him that is is worth it, as it gives him a chance to try out university life (even though it is only for a week). He can also put it on his CV and use it on his entry statements when applying to uni.

When he comes back he still has 4 weeks before his first exam, and we have told him he can revise whilst down there, as he can take his laptop with him.

The other pupil from the school really wants him to go, as she doesn't want to go on her own (and she is 18 already). His dance teacher wants him to go as she would really like him to carry on his dancing further, but she also thinks it will improve his self confidence (he can be quite shy, despite the fact he gets up on a stage and dances solos!). All his friends at the dance school say they would jump at the chance and would go like a shot.

Any suggestions as to how we can try to persuade him to go. Perhaps bribery might work??
 
He can't see the point as he doesn't want to dance for a career. We keep telling him that is is worth it, as it gives him a chance to try out university life (even though it is only for a week). He can also put it on his CV and use it on his entry statements when applying to uni...

I can't stress how important it is to have a non-academic CV that stands out - not just for Uni but also for the first job. An opportunity like this shows he has a level of excellence and has worked to hard at something - all Universities want focused, dedicated students. Whatever subject he goes onto study this will stand him in good stead. Also impress upon him that whilst he doesn't want to be a dancer, in the field of sports coaching the more practical experience you have, the more varied opportunities come your way. Don't give up without a fight! Good luck...:thumbsup2
 
im sorry but i don't think you can persuade him.....its his choice and you can only support that :grouphug:

he may well end up regretting it later tho :)
 
It sounds like a fantastic opportunity but if you force him to go he may end up hating every minute as he doesnt want to be there. I would just encourage him to go and then leave him to make up his own mind, maybe if he thinks there is no pressure he will decide to go.

Or of course there is always bribery!! ;)
 

Its a toughy......but all you can do is point out that Yes you know he doesn't want this to be his chosen career but if 2 CV's land on a desk for the same course/job and the person reading them can see that one of them stuck to something (i.e. didn't have 27 hobbies!) and took every opportunity offered then this would stand out by far. It doesn't matter what the "something" is - it's the committment which everybody wants to see.

Good luck
 
It's a toughie! kids sure know they're own minds these days and sometimes the more we try and persuade them for their own good the more they can become obstinate. I think the only thing you can do is keep talking to him and hope he sees sense. Good luck.
 
Thanks all for your replies.

Just to let you know that DS had a dance lesson tonight and his teacher asked the question.

HE SAID YES!!!! :banana: :banana: :dancer: party: :jumping1:

All I have to do know is inform school, but as Arts Ed is a HE establishment, I hope I have no problems.

His week starts on 16 April, so I will let you all know how he got on when he gets back.

Thanks for all your advice and help.

One very proud mum!!:yay:
 














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