How can I get DH excited about trip?

[Stephaniecmc]

All he sees is $$$ signs everytime I talk about our trip. I cannot be the ONLY one with a Grumpy DH, right?

 

[leagirl12]

Mine's not grumpy but he sure doesn't get excited. It is like this every year...and it is so frustrating. I want him to be excited with me!!! I totally feel your pain!

We were originally going to go to Washington DC this year and then changed it a few months ago to WDW. We decided at first to keep it a secret from the kids but I couldn't take it anymore and we finally told them. We gave them a card that said Surprise, We are going to Disney World - June 2008. They looked at it and put it down with no excitement whatsoever....all I could think was he has passed the gene on to them....AAGGGHH!!!!

Turns out they didn't realize it meant this year because we had been teasing them about Disneyworld and saying we would go back when they were teenagers so they thought it was for when they were older.

I would be miserable if I didn't have them to share this with since DH is such a dud about vacations.

 

[lilybrooke14]

DH is the same way. He says he'll get excited in October. Our local Disney store is closing, so I grabbed him a t-shirt with Grumpy on it. He even wore it the other day.

Embrace the Grumpy.

 

[Stephaniecmc]

DH is the same way. He says he'll get excited in October. Our local Disney store is closing, so I grabbed him a t-shirt with Grumpy on it. He even wore it the other day.

Embrace the Grumpy.

I see you're going in October...us too! We're staying at the BWV. This is our first time ever and we're going to MNSSHP.

Thanks for all the encouragement, I now know that I'm not the only one who has to deal with this.

 

[Disney Mommy 3]

My Dh isn't grumpy about it--just not as enthused as I would like!! He always thinks $$$$ first. Which if he didn't, we wouldn't be financially able to go--he's a very good business man-I am VERY proud of him! But, he always has a blast and is very excited b4 we leave. I think they are just doing the job of provider and thinking WOW how much $$ is this gonna be before it's over!!HA! But hey- at least he's letting ya'll go and you will have a wonderful time when you get there. I just try to talk to all ya'll when I am planning a trip and keep him from hearing it every breath!! It really does help!!

 

[Stephaniecmc]

My Dh isn't grumpy about it--just not as enthused as I would like!! He always thinks $$$$ first. Which if he didn't, we wouldn't be financially able to go--he's a very good business man-I am VERY proud of him! But, he always has a blast and is very excited b4 we leave. I think they are just doing the job of provider and thinking WOW how much $$ is this gonna be before it's over!!HA! But hey- at least he's letting ya'll go and you will have a wonderful time when you get there. I just try to talk to all ya'll when I am planning a trip and keep him from hearing it every breath!! It really does help!!

I guess that's how he, just not showing as much enthusiasim as I would like. My DS will turn 4 2 months before our trip and he can't wait to go to Mickey's house! I'm just excited to be going in the first place!

 

[Catkramer]

Oh yeah! I have to drag my husband and in stead of knowing where we are going to eat and what all we are going to do, he just wants to know what I am going to spend. He says that he will get excited once we get there. But honestly, it takes him a while to get into it. I keep thinking that the more we go , the more he will start liking it. But so far, it isn't working.

 

[nikkistevej]

My DH has the Grumpy t-shirt too. LOL

 

[Aubrielle]

My DH is definitely not a grumpy about trips, be he is also nowhere near as excited as I generally am. I think he likes it that way because I end up doing all the planning, and he is just along for the ride! Once we are there, he has a great time.

I guess not everyone can be a crazy, mouse-a-holic, trip planning freak like me!

 

[james'mommy]

Mine does not get anywhere as excited as me for the planning. And while we are there he stresses about work.

 

[princessreilly]

My DH was always grumpy too- I got him a grumpy shirt as well. But I totally have him even more addicted than me now. They say a way to a man's heart is his stomach. Tell him about restaurants there and if that doesn't work,find the ones you think he'll like and make adrs. Also find attractions you think will make him happy. When he finds stuff he likes there too and sees his family happy, he's bound to be hooked! Trust me, if my DH did yours will

 

[katie111]

My husband is like this about every vacation & it drives me nuts. I'll show him a bunch of hotels on the computer & he'll be like "they all look fine, whichever one you think is best". He has no opinion on anything travel related. He says its because I like doing research and I have the time (and desire) for it and he doesn't. Usually I'll do the research & then tell him the price & he'll be like "what??". Its like he has no idea what things cost because he never prices anything. But yet he only wants to stay at really nice places. I think its because he travels quite a bit for work and they always go to top resorts but everything is paid for. He'll want me to plan a trip for X amount and doesn't realize that airfare alone for a family of five is going to cost that much. If he would getting into the planning just a little he would realize theses things. Luckily if I just nag him enough he gives in and we've gone on some really great trips.

Also, he's so grumpy in the days leading up to vacation. He always says he'll get excited when we get there. I know he gets stressed about missing work and tries to get on top of things before we leave but its still annoying. Can't he show any excitement at all?? Once we arrive and he turns off all his devices we usually have a great time but it would be nice to have someone to share the planning with once in awhile. My friends who aren't even going with us usually know more about our itinerary than he does.

 

[mom~of~2]

My DH isn't really grumpy... it's more that he's COMPLETELY uninterested in the vacation planning process (while I love the planning). He has no interest in what I've planned until about a week before we leave for a trip. When I try to run ideas by him months in advance, he gets annoyed by me. Then, a week before the trip he starts asking about the details and I get annoyed by him (lol)! Anyways... for our first trip to WDW, he was the one who admitted that he was teary-eyed when he saw DDs reaction when we walked into Magic Kingdom. DH ended up loving our WDW vacation and now we're in the process of planning trip #2 (he's still completely uninterested in the planning process but I know he's going to love what I plan!)

Wait until you get there - your DH may surprise you!

 

[Love_Goofy]

My DH was actually very excited at first. He did the resort booking (but I did a lot of the research) - but he took it two step further than I had planned. Very excited. But he thinks I was planning too much until I went to my dinner reservations - didn't get any of our first choices at 175 days out. He wanted to wait longer....... But he said the same as other have said "he will get excited the day before we leave". DD4 keeps asking if we leave tomorrow - going for Halloween. rincess:

 

[Catkramer]

My DH isn't really grumpy... it's more that he's COMPLETELY uninterested in the vacation planning process (while I love the planning). He has no interest in what I've planned until about a week before we leave for a trip. When I try to run ideas by him months in advance, he gets annoyed by me. Then, a week before the trip
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OMgosh! That is so my husband! He is completely uninterested, and then calls me the control freak. If it wasn't for me, we would be eating quick service all week long. On our last trip, we had it out the last day and I told him fine, you are in charge. Half the stuff was missing from the back pack, he forgot the autograph book and that was when we finally caught up with Snow White. And I was like "Yeah, it isn't that easy, uh???"

I am not a control freak, I am just organized. I hate getting to the park and then thinking, oh man, we forgot something. So I always ask him up front where he wants to eat, where he wants to stay. And he always shrugs it off and says "this is all you. Just tell me where to go when we get there."

ugh, these husbands.

 

[nov02mom]

I've got a "Grumpy" at my house too!! My 5 year old old him the other day he "needed to get excited about Disney DAD" LOL.

It's not just Disney he's not excited about- he HATES leaving home to go anywhere.

 

[pgee]

Wow, maybe as a man I should not post but here goes

This might be a shock, but he maybe he doesn't want to go??? Perhaps you should take a hint? Plan a vacation that he desires or give him the option to stay at home.

I do all the planning for every vacation but then my wife does all of the clothes selections, meds etc etc. I pack everyone. I wouldn't dream of going on a vacation where she did not want to go? We are lucky because we sit down and go over the final plans. She does all the financial stuff but gives me a budget to plan.

Maybe you should go with the last resort when it deals with getting men excited.... A bit of Mickey Goofy time in the sack as motivation......

 

[Catkramer]

Wow, maybe as a man I should not post but here goes

This might be a shock, but he maybe he doesn't want to go??? Perhaps you should take a hint? Plan a vacation that he desires or give him the option to stay at home.

I do all the planning for every vacation but then my wife does all of the clothes selections, meds etc etc. I pack everyone. I wouldn't dream of going on a vacation where she did not want to go? We are lucky because we sit down and go over the final plans. She does all the financial stuff but gives me a budget to plan.

Maybe you should go with the last resort when it deals with getting men excited.... A bit of Mickey Goofy time in the sack as motivation......

You know, you are right! That is how I got my husband to go this last time. I had him at the ESPN center with 200.00 cash and it was Superbowl Sunday. Made it all about him.

However, the rule is in our house that if he wants to go somewhere else, he has to get off of his tushie and plan it. He has access to the bank account and the internet too. I am all for going somewhere else, but he needs to speak up and make some decisions. So until then, we are headed to Disney. My kids are only small for so long and once they are teens, then they will probably out grow Disney and want to go some where else and then probably want to bring their families back when they get married.

And I have also told him that he doesn't HAVE to go either. He can stay home. I have plenty of family that loves to go. So my husband is certainly not forced to go. He just grumbles the whole time.