Housewarming party ettiquette

[disneynutt1225]

I'm almost afraid to reply to this thread...but here I go anyway....

I think it's tacky. Without a doubt tacky. I had a coworker at my last job that actually REGISTERED for her housewarming party. Whatever happened to giving a bottle of wine or something? That's one "event" that I wouldn't be registering for, FTR.

 

[minniecarousel]

ugh - very poor taste!

On the other hand, DH's niece and her DH just bought their first home and combined a house-warming with their DS's 3rd Birthday. We gave a gift to the birthday boy and a card and gift card to Target for them. But we gave them the giftcard because we know they could use it!

 

[beckmrk04]

I'm almost afraid to reply to this thread...but here I go anyway....

I think it's tacky. Without a doubt tacky. I had a coworker at my last job that actually REGISTERED for her housewarming party. Whatever happened to giving a bottle of wine or something? That's one "event" that I wouldn't be registering for, FTR.

I guess I can see registering for it if they didn't have a big wedding or reception, or bridal shower, and this was going to be sort of replacing those things?

BUT, IMO, you don't get to have ALL THREE! Greedy. Sheesh.

And yeah, I guess Paypal would work...

 

[Shugardrawers]

We are moving into our new home in 2 weeks. You are all cordially invited. We're registered at Lowes, Home Depot and Bank of America

 

[princess pooh]

Wow, that's really bad! I usually give a gift card when one of my friends moves into a new place, but I don't like being told what to give

If she were a good friend I would still go, but I'd choose the gift I wanted to give.

 

[HoneyPooh]

I worked with a single woman who bought her first home. She registered at Target for all these household items she didn't have because before that she lived with her mom.

Seemed a little off to me but I was okay until we got the invitation to the housewarming...which was being held at her sister's house. She didn't want everyone on her new carpets at her new house and spilling anything!!!!!!! Some housewarming when you don't get to see the house.

And to top it all off, no thank you note and four of us had gone together and bought her about $300 worth of stuff she registered for.

Very tacky. Some people just don't get it and there isn't any changing that.

 

[Alice's Mom]

This is tacky, tacky, tacky.

I'm single with no prospects and I am not buying a home, so I would like donations to my ice cream fund. The minimum donation accepted will be $10 and I do accept paypal. Please PM to find out where to send it.

 

[mom2boys]

Too blatent for me.
Pull a Montgomery on them. Remeber the show Darhma & Greg. Greg's family would always sound thrilled about an invitation. They would all but commit and then say, oh wait did you say the 7th (or whatever day). Oh, I can't make it on the 7th.

 

[disneymom3]

Whoa. Beyond tacky. I think I probably wouldn't say anything and if other friends were going to be there, I would go, but I would be bringing a plant or a bottle of wine. Cheap wine.

When we bought our first house, we were the first of our friends to do so and we were just really excited so decided to throw a party. We were totally shocked when a few people brought gifts. We just wanted them to see our house!

 

[lil mermaid]

Tacky Tacky....


And IMO you are NEVER allowed to request in writing what kind of gifts you would prefer.

ITA, and what makes it worse is that it is a party they are throwing FOR THEMSELVES. Yikes....

That being said, when I go to a housewarming party Ialways bring something, but it is usually something small like flowers or a bottle of wine.

 

[Disney Doll]

It is always tacky to make any reference to gifts on an invitation.

If she is a "very dear friend" you should tell her so she doesnt make the same mistake again.

 

[MsLeFever]

Gimmie, Gimmie, Gimmie

 

[MouseWorshipin]

I thought it was very tacky to even mention gifts. I feel as though she is hosting a shindig in order to get money.

Just because she throws HERSELF a party and says that she expects a gift, but doesn't want to take any chances on your taste, so just give her money?!

OMG, this is beyond tacky. What is she thinking?!

I wouldn't go. I'd use my kids as an excuse to get out of it...but that's another thread.

 

[DVC Sadie]

Tacky Tacky....

We had a housewarming bbq- but it was more to show off the place! Some people did bring a card or a present, but we CERTAINLY didn't expect it.

And IMO you are NEVER allowed to request in writing what kind of gifts you would prefer.

Did these people have a bridal shower and wedding too? How much do they want? I mean, at what point do you have to buy your own stuff and stop expecting people to shell out for it?

ITA. It is way beyond TACKY to ask for any gift but TACKIER to ask for money. What is wrong with people? Is it a sense of entitlemeny or what?

 

[MissMinnie]

I'm sure others have noticed the "new trend" in the gimmees......it seems any and all events have become trolling for cash parties. I attended a wedding of a close relative and a few days later we were discussing the event and how much we enjoyed it and all the bride had to say is "well we didn't make as much as I had hoped"!!!! After picking my jaw off the floor I asked her if the wedding was a paid job for her. Needless to say, she didn't speak to me for a while after that. I could go on and on about the tacky things I have seen regarding parties and cash!!!

 

[Stacerita]

Tacky!

 

[azgal81]

That's the funniest thing I have ever heard. I hope every one invited comes empty handed. Who requests gifts for their party anywayse. People aren't going just to give her something.

 

[PrincessKitty1]

It is always tacky to make any reference to gifts on an invitation.
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Last year I received my first wedding invitation that had the names of the registries RIGHT ON THE INVITATION. OMG! I couldn't believe anybody could be that tacky!

It was from a 30-year-old relative whose mother had never taught him to thank people for gifts anyway, and who really does seem to think gifts are an entitlement.