Hot topic I'm sure but....

[Sue M]

I raised 2 girls and always taught them appropriate behaviour. Yes, sometimes they acted out in public, they weren't angels. But I didn't let it go on.
They knew " indoor voices" and that hotel halls weren't a playground. I wish some adults understood the concept of indoor voices!!!

Sadly there are some pretty ignorant people out there. One stay at POR a mom let her kids run crazy up and down the outside walkway in front of the rooms running & screaming, slamming room door, repeatedly for about 30 min before I finally stuck my head out the door. Mom was coming back to room from parking lot, and asks if there's a problem . Happily it was our last day, when they moved in, we were moving resorts for split stay, otherwise I'd be asking to move rooms.

 

[nugov2]

I will get ready to be flamed but here it goes..
Do you make sure you teach your young children manners like not running up and down the hall screaming or screaming at the top of there lungs that they want cookies at 6 am while other in the next room are sleeping? We do but it's clear from our vacation last week some don't;(

Yes, most definitely I do. I will admit my middle child has some impulse control issues though and has been known to do goofy things so I can see where sometimes some issues are just a one and done deal vs a constant behavior thing. My oldest and youngest are so different and would never do that.

That's my preferred method of finding out what my kids want.

Thanks for the laugh!

 

[goofy4tink]

My absolute worst kid issues were at the Polynesian. Kids ran down the hall, banging on doors morning and night. One night, around 11 or so, the mother (I assume anyway) screamed at them...'Knock it off. People are sleeping.' as she passed my door.
Then there was the family sitting outside, eating at a table. As were we. Well, as we sat and tried to eat our lunch, their young son was chasing the ducks around.....right under our table, repeatedly. Mom and Dad never said a thing, well, other than to tell the child to try using a French fry to get the ducklings to stay with him. It was awful. My then 9 y/o dd bent down to try to feed a duck a piece of bread, I said to her (fairly loudly)...'Can you not read that sign? The one that says do NOT feed the ducks?' Made no difference to that family tho....they allowed their child to run around, screaming at the top of his lungs, chasing those poor ducklings.

 

[worm761]

I think there is a big difference between a child having a meltdown and a parent parenting and a child running wild and the parents NOT parenting. And the worst part is, my child sees the behavior and wants to do it too. Of course, I don't let her and I explain why she isn't allowed. I don't do it loudly but if you happen to be the parents of the two boys screeching down the hallway that also happen to be walking directly behind me, I'm not going to try to put a nice spin on it either. DD is allowed to run wild. In appropriate places like the playground.

I had issues twice last August. At AKL, the two boys screaming and running down the hallway coming back from the pool. They almost ran into another family and barely missed the other kids. Parents were behind me and didn't care. They told them to "go ahead, we'll catch up" and then strolled behind us. The other was at Pop Century. We added on a quick last night at Pop, going to breakfast the following morning and there were kids climbing the trees and ripping palm fronds off. Parents were right there gabbing and didn't bother to tell them not to.

 

[rainboots]

Do we know that the children screaming do not have an 'unseen' disability (eg, autism, Aspergers, etc)? Do we know if they were on a red eye flight or jet-lagged & having trouble adjusting?

I'd hate to judge a child or their parents without knowing anything about them!

 

[P'colaBeachBum]

Don't even get me started on kids running amok in the TS restaurants. The parents ignore the kids even though it's clear that they are in the way of CMs serving food and annoying other guests.

 

[disnut8]

Do we know that the children screaming do not have an 'unseen' disability (eg, autism, Aspergers, etc)? Do we know if they were on a red eye flight or jet-lagged & having trouble adjusting?

I'd hate to judge a child or their parents without knowing anything about them!

Very true but if it's 6:00 AM, no matter what the disability, the parents needs to control the level of the kids' voices.

It's kind of like being able to sleep in on a Saturday morning and the neighbor three doors down decides to mow the lawn at 7:00 AM. Every right to do it but that's not what you wanted.

 

[maxiesmom]

Don't even get me started on kids running amok in the TS restaurants. The parents ignore the kids even though it's clear that they are in the way of CMs serving food and annoying other guests.

Or how about the parents who take screaming kids into attractions and sit there, with their child screaming the whole time? Had that happen at Philharmagic. 3 adults walked in with 2 children, and 1 child was already having a fit. People all around were turning to look at them, and they couldn't have cared less. Sat there with 1 child screaming through the whole movie. It was ridiculous.

 

[disnut8]

I think there is a big difference between a child having a meltdown and a parent parenting and a child running wild and the parents NOT parenting.

I agree with this. As an older women with just my husband at Disney World (early 50s), we like to sleep in. So if a child or children go running past our door early in the morning on their way to a park, we just ignore and try to go back to sleep. However, if a child or children is/are running up and down outside our door for more than two or three times, then I get up and ask them if there is a problem. Hotel "hallways" are not playgrounds.

But, if I'm on the top floor and a child or children is/are running around on the grass on the ground level, that's fine. That's what children are supposed to do.

It's all subjective and based on each individual experience.

 

[gtpoohbear]

I like to give parents the benefit of the doubt when it comes to unruly behavior, unless they are blatantly ignoring something that is unsafe or bothering other people. We try very hard as parents to teach or kids good manners and behavior, but they can still be a challenge. Obviously, if they are doing something that affects someone else, I'm going to stop them and get them out of there as quickly as possible, but that's not always as quickly as some people would like.

Just because kids are misbehaving doesn't mean the parents aren't doing their job, some kids are just more challenging than others. My kids have both always been prone to meltdowns. They KNOW that a screaming fit isn't going to get them what they want, because we have NEVER given in to one. Yet they still do it, not because they are manipulating us or don't know better, they are simply having an emotional reaction that they are incapable of controlling at the moment. I'm not going to let them continue screaming and ruin someone's dinner, but if you see me actively trying to calm my kid down or wrangle them out the door as they are flailing and kicking, please have a little patience, lol!

We constantly tell them not to be loud in the halls or even in the room, but sometimes they still forget, or have a moment of poor judgement. And unfortunately, by the time we can correct it, the damage is probably already done. Things are going to happen when you are in a public place. Other than extreme cases, I think it's just something you have to expect and roll with.

 

[Bree]

Kids are kids.....not robots. They can't be perfect 100% of the day. Sometimes they yell and scream and run. Sometimes they have complete melt downs in the middle of the grocery store. Those instances do not always reflect bad parenting. If it is extreme behavior, do something about it instead of complaining to friends, family or on social media. Knock on the door to the neighboring room, or pop your head out into the hallway and ask them to keep it down because your family is trying to sleep. If you are shy or timid or don't like confrontation get a CM involved. There is a saying....If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.

 

[Pesky]

My children absolutely know better than to try something like that. I cannot make the same promises re my husband.

 

[Jenny Sanders]

Sometimes the parents are just as bad. Last year, the mother in the room next to us was screaming at her child and threatening to leave him/her in the room if they didn't start behaving. It was about 7am. After listening to her for something like 30 minutes, I pounded on the wall. It got quiet real fast after that...

 

[MainMom]

My kids are extremely well behaved. We have gotten compliments on their behavior in public since they were little. However, I have let them run down a hotel hall in excitement. I haven't sushed them when they are excited about what we are doing that day as we are headed down the hall to the bus stop or returning to our room. This summer we are traveling with cousins. They are older now, but still kids. I expect excitement and probably some loud voices and laughing (my 13 year old likes to be loud, I think it's a teenage girl thing) in the hall, on buses, etc. Unless it's an inappropriate conversation or out of control I probably won't sush them. I don't plan on them being out at 3am though. We might be out at 5:30 or 6am. Maybe they will be too groggy to be rambunctious?

 

[winterwhite]

I'm 30 with no kids.

This year has been the WORST with bad behavior.

I accidentally kneed a kid in the face yesterday because he decided to just bolt across the dining area at top speed. Mom watching and giggling and saying "oh, come back here!" Watched a kid who couldn't have been older than three hit the ground HARD chasing his older sister through the lobby, parents encouraged him to get up and catch up to her!

There are a million places to let your kids burn off steam here. There is no reason that your kids can't wait quietly in line or while people are eating.

For the person above who won't shush her kids in the hallway at 5:30am because they're excited, please slide $5 for coffee under the door as you pass. If you're going to wake me up at that hour because your group is too special to have good manners, the least you could do is buy me coffee.

 

[Jenny Sanders]

Too funny Winterwhite! Being on vacation is no excuse for poor behavior. I have 4 kids, and would never tolerate running or screaming through the halls late at night when other guests may be sleeping. There's a time and a place for running around...take your kids to a park.

 

[kiki02]

I will get ready to be flamed but here it goes..
Do you make sure you teach your young children manners like not running up and down the hall screaming or screaming at the top of there lungs that they want cookies at 6 am while other in the next room are sleeping? We do but it's clear from our vacation last week some don't;(

No flames here and I agree!

 

[maxiesmom]

Kids are kids.....not robots. They can't be perfect 100% of the day. Sometimes they yell and scream and run. Sometimes they have complete melt downs in the middle of the grocery store. Those instances do not always reflect bad parenting. If it is extreme behavior, do something about it instead of complaining to friends, family or on social media. Knock on the door to the neighboring room, or pop your head out into the hallway and ask them to keep it down because your family is trying to sleep. If you are shy or timid or don't like confrontation get a CM involved. There is a saying....If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.

I don't agree that one guest should have to ask another guest to keep it down, or they are part of the problem. If I'm sleeping, I'm obviously not dressed in clothes to go meet the neighbors. By the time I would get dressed (trying not to wake anyone in my room who may have slept through the noise), put on shoes, grabbed my room key or magic band, and went to confront the neighbors, I would be wide awake. No guest should have to tell another to keep it down late at night or early in the morning. That should already have be rules of courtesy known to the parents of the children being loud. If the noise continues it is not a one time oops, it is obvious the parent knows and doesn't care.

 

[LilyWDW]

Kids are kids.....not robots. They can't be perfect 100% of the day. Sometimes they yell and scream and run. Sometimes they have complete melt downs in the middle of the grocery store. Those instances do not always reflect bad parenting. If it is extreme behavior, do something about it instead of complaining to friends, family or on social media. Knock on the door to the neighboring room, or pop your head out into the hallway and ask them to keep it down because your family is trying to sleep. If you are shy or timid or don't like confrontation get a CM involved. There is a saying....If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.

While it is true that kids are not going to be perfect 100% of the day, parents should be parenting 100% of the day, no just ignoring and allowing bad behavior. Is the child yelling, screaming, and running outside of the rooms? Then mom and/or dad need to put a stop of the behavior right away. Is the child having a melt down in a store or restaurant? Then mom and/or dad need to get up off their behinds and remove the child so they are not bothering others. It is NOT my job to parent a random child who is acting up. That is on the parents.

As long as I see a parent (or other adult with the child) attempt to reign the child in and deal with the problem, I am a lot less annoyed by it.

I HATE the phrase "kids will be kids". It is simply an excuse to let a child act up without the parents stepping in.

 

[gogo]

There is such a thing as middle of the road when it comes to kids behavior. Screaming in hallways, no matter what time of day, or restaurants isn't acceptable. Running in restaurants, or around adults chasing one another isn't acceptable. If a child has an outburst and the parent(s) are working with them fine. I really try to appreciate how hard it can be at certain times with kids Most parents have been in situations that are beyond hard to control. I've been in situations where some adults are so intolerant of the slightest thing. I think most people know normal behavior and what's excessive or plain annoying to others. It's hurtful to see adults glare at kids who are just excited and having a good time or accidently bump into an adult (once) and assuming no one was hurt. The problem is poor behavior that is not corrected or behavior that can cause injury to the child or others around them.

I couldn't disagree more with telling someone to knock on a neighbor's door or even sticking your head out in the hallway. If I did decide to put my head out in the hallway, I would be hard pressed to open my mouth to someone else's kids. People are so hot headed, you might get more get more problems than screaming kids in the hallway. I'd suck it up and call the front desk. The only exception I would make is harassing animals. Even, then, I would watch what was going on and see if the animal was in danger of being hurt. I can't stand to see this behavior. It's beyond ignorant.