golfgal said:
We are in the process of registering the kids for their new schools for next year. DS13 will be in 9th grade, high school

and they have to apply to be in the honors classes which then will roll into AP classes as they get older. DS is more then capable of achieving good grades in honors courses but he is lazy and his grades are not stellar because of that. I would like to sign him up for the regular classes this coming year and see how things go, but the counselor suggested that if we want him in honors classes he should really start in them in 9th grade.
The reality of the situation for him now is he is going to get the same grades no matter what class he is in. If he is in the "easy" class he won't try because he knows it already (right) and because he is bright will do ok on tests just from listening in class. If he is in the honors class he will most likely do the homework but won't remember to turn half of it in and since the tests will be more difficult, he will probably end up with the same grades as the regular class.
I don't want him to find himself as a junior in high school and not being able to get into college because he was lazy in 9th grade and finally figured out that you do have to put forth some effort in life (at least I am HOPING he figures this out).
Any ideas or opinions on what you would do?
I know the dilemma you're in because I've been there. My youngest daughter is 15 and a Sophomore. She is very bright and and can easily get A's in all her classes, BUT the motivation is not always there. She SAYS she wants to take honors classes but then I have to stay right on top of her to make sure she does the assignments and turns them in on time.
She has been in Honors English her Freshman and Sophomore years. She can do the work and when she puts a little effort into assignments she really excels. The problem is that she isn't as conscientious about her work as she should be. It's so frustrating for me to know she has the ability to be in honors level classes, and to see her not put forth the effort those classes require.
She actually signed up for an AP level English class for her Junior year, and her English teacher okayed it. After sitting down and talking realistically to my daughter, and after an adivsor/parent/student conference the other day, we decided that it would be better to NOT take the AP level class next year. I KNOW it would result in frustration and arguments and my checking up to make sure she is completing the work. The class also required WEEKLY reading and essay assignments all through the summer. My daughter admitted that she did not want to spend most of her summer doing school work, and I agreed with her.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that, if your son isn't motivated to do Honors level work, it could be a rough time for all of you. However, it might be a good idea to sign him up for honors level, (only those subjects that he really excels in and is interested in), and see how it goes.
I have to admit that my daughter, and she would be the first to agree, has gained a tremendous amount of knowledge in Honors English and in an advanced French class. However, it can be a toss up between getting superior grades in regular level classes and maybe a B/B+ in honors level classes. Even though she opted out of the AP class for next year, she has the option of taking it her Senior year.
All kids are different. My oldest daughter took a ton of honors and AP classes in high school. She graduated with high honors and in the top 5% of her graduating class. I never had to check up on her to make sure she was getting everything done. She was extremely motivated and did it because SHE wanted to, not because I wanted her to. Youngest daughter just does not care as much. I have told her however, that I do expect her to graduate with honors because I know she is fully capable of doing so. She is fine with that and her grades so far have all been high enough for that to happen. I know better than to push for graduating with high honors. It isn't worth the hassle to stay on top of her.
I hope this has been of help to you!! Good luck to you and your son.
