Holiday Drama! woo hoo!!!

[Eeyore'sthebest]

Very expensive from California and my dad is too sick to travel.

Sorry to hear about your dad. And I guess if you're living in CA, you may already have nice weather. Me, I look for any reason to leave the northeast in the middle of winter.

 

[okeydokey]

We moved a thousand miles away and do not travel for the holidays, so no drama for us at all!!

 

[LoveDisney!!!]

Discussing Thanksgiving last night with my mom I can already tell there's going to be at least some drama.

Why not have a quiet dinner with your fiance and avoid the drama?

 

[LoveDisney!!!]

We moved a thousand miles away and do not travel for the holidays, so no drama for us at all!!

 

[cc1013]

Typically, I HATE Thanksgiving. My parents are divorced and that combined with having to see my in-laws totals 3 houses in one day. Arghh.....

Plus, my in-laws tend to plan at the absolute last minute (imagine getting a call on Thanksgiving telling you where you are expected to be that day), which always adds to holiday stress. No matter how much we try to encourage early planning, it never happens.

So this year, DH and I said, 'FORGET IT!' We are going on vacation and will be spending Thanksgiving at a Hawaiian luau!

We will see them all for Christmas of course, but at least we can get out of the Thanksgiving madness! Our families aren't particularly thrilled with the idea, but they'll get over it.

 

[LisaNJ25]

We are going to see Disney On ICe Thanksgiving day.. we used it do it every years for years when my older 2 kids were younger.

My 27yo sister wants to know when I am going to grow up and cook for thanksgiving

 

[Disney Darling]

We moved a thousand miles away and do not travel for the holidays, so no drama for us at all!!

That's us too!! We moved a bit over 600 mileas away so no drama for us either. But before we moved, we had enough drama between mine and DH family for 10 families!

 

[2girlsmom]

I'm a little nervous about family drama this year, hopefully not too bad, but we found out this week that my bil and his family are coming home for Thanksgiving for their first visit home in like 10 years, and staying 3 days, so dh wants to make sure to spend plenty of time with them while we can. I love my dsil and am looking forward to seeing the kids who are now 17 and 14, we were military so haven't seen them in at least 5 years for a couple hours, and before that was when my 11 year old was 1! However, my bil and I have some issues, he sounds a lot like the BIL mentioned earlier, this is the guy who yelled at HIS OWN WIFE over her not having their son fast enough when she was in labor, something over which he and I nearly came to blows at the time when I dragged him out of the labor and delivery room so he would stop. Plus he and one of my other bil's fight every time they see each other, they both think they are right about EVERYTHING.

 

[Plannin'Shannon]

So this year, DH and I said, 'FORGET IT!' We are going on vacation and will be spending Thanksgiving at a Hawaiian luau!

That sounds incredible! I would love to do something like this one year. I'm sure you'll have a fantastic Thanksgiving!

 

[SleepyMom]

Normally we avoid a lot of drama on my side, but have a few issues on DH's side. This year we are going to flip that I guess

The drama has already started and it is over the list of names everyone has for Christmas, it can only go downhill from there. Thankfully it is just the one person creating the drama, the rest of us get along great and actually enjoy our time together.

We will spend Christmas Eve day with DH's family, the past 5 years or so we have been doing it this way and it really does help with most of the drama because we avoid it by only being there a short time. We drive up (2 1/2 hours) in the morning and head back home around dinnertime, so we can go to church and then spend Christmas Day home alone with just us. This year they have decided not to draw names (yay!!!!!) and will do a game/gift exchange.

We used to ask DH's family to come see us so we wouldn't have to drive EVERY year, but I was told that would ruin their traditions of how they do Christmas Guess we weren't supposed to have a tradition of our own, cause we were expected to be there. So, we do the few hours Christmas Eve day and it is so much easier and we finally have some traditions of our own.

We usually do Christmas with my side the week or two after Christmas, depending on when we can all get together at the same time. (We have 2 in law enforcement, 1 fireman and one 911 operator, so none of them work regular hours and we have to find a date that works for all). It is usually very relaxed and we all have a great time.

For Thanksgiving we plan to stay home alone and cook a traditional meal for the 3 of us, and hopefully 4 if oldest DD can come home. The Drama Queen from my side invited herself and her DH a month or two ago, but since she is in a tizzy over the Christmas list at the moment, I think we will decline that offer! I am really looking forward to a quiet day at home!

 

[JohnsPrincess]

Holidays on my side are full of laughter and happiness. Holidays on Dh's side are full of nastiness and whining and generally just aweful!!! Christmas 07 I'd had it. I told Dh we were boycotting Christmas with his family for at LEAST 5 years. Lol. No complaint from him. Last year he was in Iraq so I went to London with my sister and parents. This year he & I and my mom and sister are going to Disney and then on a Disney Cruise. Next year I think my family will come to our house.

 

[EMom]

Truth be told, it's just BIL I want to avoid. We're going to WDW for the holidays and coming back just before Christmas. BIL keeps pressing DH for our itinerary. I told DH to cross his fingers and fudge about our return date. If BIL doesn't know we're home, we're in the clear.

 

[VillageMama]

It took a while but I finally put down firm boundaries about our holidays. My years of having my children living in my home are limited and I will not have our holidays ruined... so no more spending them with my mom or in-laws. (My dad and stepmom are more than welcome.)

At the last Thanksgiving at which I invited my mother, she showed up and critiqued my recipes. It bothered her that I was not putting celery into my stuffing. I don't like celery. Apparently it's a must-have for her because she left my house... went to the store... bought celery and other ingredients... and came back and proceeded to make her own batch of stuffing. Who does that??

There was more crap and it ended up with me hiding in my laundry room, drinking wine to give me the strength to get through the day.

Happy holidays, everyone!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

We are going to see Disney On ICe Thanksgiving day.. we used it do it every years for years when my older 2 kids were younger.

My 27yo sister wants to know when I am going to grow up and cook for thanksgiving

We've been married 11 years and I've only hosted 1 Thanksgiving where I cooked and 1 thanksgiving where I didn't cook, but everyone came over.

The other 9--we've gone to relatives.

I kind of like NOT cooking on Thanksgiving.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

At the last Thanksgiving at which I invited my mother, she showed up and critiqued my recipes. It bothered her that I was not putting celery into my stuffing. I don't like celery. Apparently it's a must-have for her because she left my house... went to the store... bought celery and other ingredients... and came back and proceeded to make her own batch of stuffing. Who does that??

Sounds like a stunt my step-mom would pull.

And my DH hates celery, so stuffing wherever he goes is always celery-free if he is expected to eat it.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

My 27yo sister wants to know when I am going to grow up and cook for thanksgiving

Tell her that you're waiting for her to cook Thanksgiving dinner and you have no intention of growing up - EVER!

At the last Thanksgiving at which I invited my mother, she showed up and critiqued my recipes. It bothered her that I was not putting celery into my stuffing. I don't like celery. Apparently it's a must-have for her because she left my house... went to the store... bought celery and other ingredients... and came back and proceeded to make her own batch of stuffing. Who does that??

Sorry to hear that. And I'm with you, I hate celery.

Sounds like a stunt my step-mom would pull.

I'm a stepmom and I would never do that to my SDs. That's just wrong. I eat whatever is put in front of me. How stinkin' rude!!!

 

[lovetoscrap]

I realized last night that there may be some minor drama from my kids ( 9 and 13) . We will probably go to my inlaws for Thanksgiving--FIL is an amazing cook and we all love everything he makes, and he loves to cook for us. But he HATES turkey. In fact he hates most everything that is "traditional" to Thanksgiving. He made a full Turkey and trimmings last year but has said he won't this year.

No problem as far as DH and I are concerned, but the girls were talking about looking forward to Thanksgiving and turkey and green bean cassarole and everything else. I will plan to make a full turkey dinner either before or after Thanksgiving for us at home, I just hope that they aren't upset that they have someting else on the actual day of Thanksgiving. They can both put on a good sulk and it would be unfortunate if they had to spend dinner sitting in their rooms!

Well, no drama here! Talked to my inlaws and he is just opposed to the Turkey so he is making individual Cornish Hens for everyone (YUM) and we will still have all the traditional sides so my kids will be happy. In fact they will probably like the "little tiny turkeys" better than the usual huge turkey!

 

[ilovejack02]

No drama here wooo hoooo!!!

I am so blessed that my inlaws and my side of the family all get along.

I told everyone up front when we got married that they would love each other and we would spend the holidays as one big happy family at MY house lol. I dont do this running around house to house crap. I am an only child so this works out pretty well . Sometimes my bil comes with his family sometimes not , and that is ok with us. We want everyone to have a special holiday and do it their way , we just want to stay home and if you want to see us you know you have to come to us. Now I do make a big effort to see all the family cousins, aunts, uncles etc.. during the month and spend time with everyone.

Now my inlaws have moved away and it all is working out ok, they come to visit and I did play the dutiful DIL last Christmas and Thanksgiving at the in laws and we spent both weeks with them and my family was ok with it. I dont have to do it again for about 5 more years because that is how long it will be before he can take off that time period. ( they switch off each yr at work who can take off the entire month between Thanksgiving and xmas so it is fair)

While this thread is super funny to read it is also pretty sad. The holidays are supposed to be a happy time, why cant people just drop the drama !!!

 

[okeydokey]

There was more crap and it ended up with me hiding in my laundry room, drinking wine to give me the strength to get through the day.

Happy holidays, everyone!

You poor thing, but that's a great visual!

 

[ilovejack02]

You poor thing, but that's a great visual!

LOL that is a great visual, I can just picture her, running her hands through her hair, leaning on the washer and swigging from a jug of wine ; ).