Holiday Drama! woo hoo!!!

[Mouse House Mama]

So, anyone's family start any drama yet? I am anticipating some as it just isn't a holiday unless someone is offended it seems.
How about you?

 

[DSNLvR]

So, anyone's family start any drama yet? I am anticipating some as it just isn't a holiday unless someone is offended it seems.
How about you?

Not yet, but it's still early

 

[mickeyboat]

My mantra is to ignore the drama. I don't create it, I don't get involved in it. If someone wants to vent, I will offer some non-judgmental and non-committal advice, and then try to change the subject.

Makes life a lot happier!

 

[momof1princess]

not yet, but my brother, SIL and nephew will be here for Christmas Day this year, so i expect there is LOTS of drama coming, lol.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

My side will have much drama when I ditch them on Christmas--visitng, gifts and everything.

We have a very valid reason--but due to family drama and their need to spend rumors regardless of the truth, it will be much more fun to me as they ponder the cosmos and lie about me.

Passive agressive, maybe. But they have forgotten every member of my family's birthday this year and mine is next week. IF I get a HB, then I will let them know that we can't do anything. If I don't--then as I said, it will be fun to see what crap they spread around.

The truth hasn't helped me in the past year. So I figure, why bother!!!!!




(My DH was laid off and as it stands we are figuring out logistics of giving our kids an extremely frugal Christmas and they are more important to me than my gossiping relatives. Pick a little-talk a little cheep cheep cheep talk a lot pick a little more....)

 

[java]

Well I am getting the major guilt for Thanksgiving -does that count? We can't go to my Mom's for a variety of reasons- our dogs, my dh's job, the 4 hour drive there and my dad to name a few.
But regardless of why - we can't go. Now why is that a problem. My brother is going with his family. She dangled them before me to try to get me to come- but it didn't work as I knew ahead of time that they were going for Thanksgiving only- which is not an option for us.
Instead we will go to the Thanksgiving parade in the city- come home and have a nice meal and enjoy being together.

 

[ogreenlee]

We haven't told my MIL that we're going to Disney for 8 days just before Christmas, even though it's something she's talked about doing for a couple of years now.

I just want to have a nice, enjoyable trip, and that's how we have to do it to make it so.

 

[4nana]

Nope, can have drama any day, so check it at the door! Stricting fun family holiday making special memories!

Last year we did a WDW grand gathering for Thanksgiving week. It was truly Priceless ~ once in a life time for us!!!!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I stand corrected...my drama actually started last September when we announced we were going to Cali to visit my grandparents (dad's side) in september. We WERE going to do that in December. We are looking at cancelling the trip pending any early outcomes that my DH's job will get reinstated.

My mother chewed me a knew one b/c we don't visit her often. We were just there in JUNE.

So does that count?

 

[Briarmom]

Can we have a Holiday Drama sub-forum?

 

[blana]

Well, DNieces called Sunday to tell me that they're doing T'giving at oldest DN's house this year (they're 20 & 16) rather than going to any of the families' houses for the day. They normally come to my dad's (their step-grandfather) for T'giving, then on to their dad's house. Apparently, they've decided that the stress of making 3 families happy was more than they wanted to deal with & they were going to run away from it all. They did promise to go to my grandma's for that Sunday. We'll see what happens. (I wonder if DN told me to see what my reaction was before calling her mom....)

 

[Rora]

My mantra is to ignore the drama. I don't create it, I don't get involved in it. If someone wants to vent, I will offer some non-judgmental and non-committal advice, and then try to change the subject.

Makes life a lot happier!

Good advice!!

OP- no drama here.. yet.

 

[Pumbaa_]

well my parents have decided to fly south for the winter early this year. Instead of leaving after Christmas, they will leave early December. No grandparents for christmas for my 2 nieces and 1 nephew. Can't seem to wait another 10 days.

Add to that, they are planning on leaving thier cat at home. (Have in the past). this year though the petsitter that lived across the street has bought a house, gotten 2 puppies and is now living with her fiancee 2 towns away

So, who's watching the cat?

Can we say not me? My brothers all have kids and are busy. I have 4 pets, no new ones coming in. Reason they can't/won't take it....(this is priceless) we like to leave the door open and afraid she will get out.

My parents are normally pretty good about things. Not sure what got into them this year. But this whole we are leaving all our responsibilities behind for 4 months, not flying this year. Should be fun

Be interesting to see what Christmas is like. I would love to go away for the weekend but would like to see my nieces and nephews. BUt not enough to want to cook for the ingrates (brothers have never brought a thing to dinner at my house. Sucked it up for my parents....this year we will see)

 

[nskjerven]

My side will have much drama when I ditch them on Christmas--visitng, gifts and everything.

We have a very valid reason--but due to family drama and their need to spend rumors regardless of the truth, it will be much more fun to me as they ponder the cosmos and lie about me.

Passive agressive, maybe. But they have forgotten every member of my family's birthday this year and mine is next week. IF I get a HB, then I will let them know that we can't do anything. If I don't--then as I said, it will be fun to see what crap they spread around.

The truth hasn't helped me in the past year. So I figure, why bother!!!!!




(My DH was laid off and as it stands we are figuring out logistics of giving our kids an extremely frugal Christmas and they are more important to me than my gossiping relatives. Pick a little-talk a little cheep cheep cheep talk a lot pick a little more....)

ya just gave me a new way to "see" my sisters, I never thought of this line coming from within family but oh how it applies

 

[EthansMom]

After spending the last 5 years with drama at or about every family get together at the holidays, I told DH this year that I'll be happy to do anything on Thanksgiving but I refuse to do it with his family. DH knows what I've gone through so he wisely said, "I'll do whatever makes you happy."

So, we'll either make our own dinner here at our house, with or without friends, or spend it at the home of some friends. I'd be happy enough if DH wanted to invite friends from work who don't have any other plans... at least they would be good guests.

We'll likely attend some kind of family gather at Christmas (usually the day before or after). That's fine. As long as it's not at our house... I'm happy to bring several dishes of food to share and act cordially for a few hours.

I do enjoy the family drama posts at the holidays because they remind me that I am not the only one dealing with this junk!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

ya just gave me a new way to "see" my sisters, I never thought of this line coming from within family but oh how it applies

Music Man--that number is a classic. They do sound like a bunch of hens when singing and when I realized that, it clicked.

 

[momrek06]

No drama for me....I will decorate my house as usual as I just love Christmas....but my family is all going to VEGAS for Christmas!!! We will be in La Jolla, CA for Thanksgiving.
This will be a traveling holiday season for us!!! No drama allowed!!!

 

[C.Ann]

I'm not really expecting any.. The biggest "drama" would be if I were still stuck here at the lake and my Dson-in-law had to come and rescue me via snowmobile.. LOL..

My holidays have been pretty tame the past 5 years or so.. If anyone has problems it will be my DD and her DH - via his side of the family.. They can get pretty pushy at times and don't like it when he says, "No.."

 

[Missy1961]

Can we have a Holiday Drama sub-forum?

 

[rie'smom]

Kind of- my niece, 24-I adore this girl BTW- has a boyfriend and she called my mom and said that mom needed to have Christmas lunch at her house. I told mom that I had already planned having it at my house since that's where it's been for the past 15 years. In the past 3 years, 2 of my brothers with small kids have moved to the town where I live, in fact, on our block and they both have little ones, so it's great for them to be able to run home to pay with their presents
So, now mom is having Thanksgiving lunch and I'm having Christmas lunch. Drama over