High School Class of 2016/College Class 2020

[Monykalyn]

DD was worried about pre-calc-the subject of an early semester panic call about how she is failing. Needed a mid B on final to get A in class. She got a low B, so was resigned to fact she won't have 4.0. Cried herself to sleep the night after final. She just checked her grades and apparently some questions were tossed out on the final-High B now which rounded her class grade to an A! She is a happy girl right now! Very proud of her but I do wish she wasn't so hard on herself LOL

 

[jetskigrl]

Well - DD received her first semester grades and she is very pleased with them. (3 A- and 2 B+). She has 6 classes but the one that she thought she did the worst in was part of a 2-part class that receives one grade and I guess the grade in the other part brought up her overall grade for the class.

Both of the honors courses were A- and one of the B+ was Life Drawing I (which is a make or break class for her school). She was worried to be at a college where most of her grades were dependent on her artistic talent. Getting accepted based in large part on her portfolio was her first hurdle. But seeing that she can make the grades based on her talent also is very reassuring to her.

 

[jetskigrl]

DD was worried about pre-calc-the subject of an early semester panic call about how she is failing. Needed a mid B on final to get A in class. She got a low B, so was resigned to fact she won't have 4.0. Cried herself to sleep the night after final. She just checked her grades and apparently some questions were tossed out on the final-High B now which rounded her class grade to an A! She is a happy girl right now! Very proud of her but I do wish she wasn't so hard on herself LOL

I'm so glad that it worked out!!!

 

[jetskigrl]

Paper is finished!!! She sent it to my older daughter to edit and is going out with local friends tonight. She promised to be home early so she can wake up, incorporate her sister's edits and submit it before the noon deadline. I'm feeling much better. I read the paper and she will not fail (frankly, I don't think she'll even go below a B. It's really surprisingly good considering it was a last minute effort.)

I'm sure she was relieved to have it all done

 

[sk!mom]

Long time, no post....Just wanted to post an update: It's amazing what good doctors prescribing the right medications can do. Sinus infection (and all the throat issues related to that): Gone and she now has instructions from the ENT about what to do when it happens again so it doesn't get to that stage.
Weird itchy rash: diagnosed by pediatrician and treated (who also said that while she's not a fan of Urgent Care places generally, considering the substandard care DD got at the Student Health Center, maybe she just shouldn't go there anymore and just do Urgent Care. At least they won't make her take pregnancy tests when she complains of sore throat and headache.)
Eczema: Really aggravated by the cold weather, but now under control.

Now for some really good news: Just spoke to DD and she is mentally in a much better place. She's going into finals with a solid B/B+ average (which she was very unhappy about at first, but now says it's OK because she was just learning how to be in college and it took a while to adjust). She's also making plans for next semester, so I am hopeful she will at least finish out the year. Taking everything day by day.

I'm glad that your DD is now well. I just wanted to say, that my DD is now a junior and after fooling with the campus clinic her first semester, I got on my insurance website and found her a primary care doctor in her college town. The clinic was more hassle than it was worth, and my DD has a car at school, so it has worked much better to have a doctor there.

 

[okeydokey]

One semester down, seven more to go. She finished with a 3.0 which is what she needed to keep her scholarships. Cutting it a little too close for my liking. Hoping the second semester will be a bit stronger now that she knows what to expect. She lives in an off campus apartment and we live within driving distance to the University, so she is coming to stay Christmas Eve. Will be seeing her off and on over the break.

Hope you all enjoy your time off with your kids!

 

[coneeny4]

My DD was in Honor classes and received all A's so a 4.0. We are all very happy.

 

[punkin]

DD is still waiting for her grades. There's no word when they'll be available.

 

[mjkacmom]

Ds ended up with a 3.77 - really wanted that 3.8! I think he might be switching from business management to finance. He was thinking about accounting (dd20's major), but everyone keeps telling him he's too personable and good looking to be an accountant (including extended family, in front of dd20). It's true though.

 

[Arkansan]

DD won't get her grades until after Jan. 3. They are due then at 9am, so not sure how long after that they will be recorded. She does know she has a "pass" for ballet, which was only offered pass/fail. (It counted toward her physical education requirements.)

 

[MomofKatie]

DD ended up with all As this semester, But her GPA is technically less than perfect because one class was an A-. She got an A+ in 2 classes, but they don't count as over 4.0 except for keeping her scholarship, and the A- only counts as a 3.67. Weird...

 

[coneeny4]

DD ended up with all As this semester, But her GPA is technically less than perfect because one class was an A-. She got an A+ in 2 classes, but they don't count as over 4.0 except for keeping her scholarship, and the A- only counts as a 3.67. Weird...

I asked my DD about A+'s and she said her school only gives out A and A-'s.

 

[mjkacmom]

DD ended up with all As this semester, But her GPA is technically less than perfect because one class was an A-. She got an A+ in 2 classes, but they don't count as over 4.0 except for keeping her scholarship, and the A- only counts as a 3.67. Weird...

I'm pretty sure 4.0 is as high as you can go.

 

[MomofKatie]

Not at DD's school. An A counts as 4.0, A+ counts as 4.33 and A- counts as 3.67. But the 4.33 only counts toward their "scholarship retention" GPA, not their official University GPA that would qualify them for Deans List (at least 3.5) or Presidents List (4.0). So, even though DD got 3 A+ grades (she informed me it was 3, not the 2 I thought earlier) and only 1 A-, she still ends up with less than a 4.0. I don't like it, but it is what it is...

 

[snoodledoo]

Well, things are going from bad to worse with DD. We told her that rent would be due Jan. 1 (in addition to her car insurance) since she was no longer a FT student. She was gone for the entire week after Christmas, staying with her friend who lives in a dorm. She finally came home last night to gather more clothes and supplies and was headed out again within 15 minutes. DH tried to initiate a conversation with her about what is going on, what are her plans etc. She didn't bother to sit down or put her bags down for this brief chat. To sum it up, she's been very busy working out, helping at tennis, hanging out with friends, and the holidays, so she hasn't had much time to look for a job. She's only making enough money to be able to go out with friends, not enough to pay rent. So, she is just going to stay with friends instead of live at home, where she would have to pay rent. I guess we just see how long her friends want her freeloading off them?

I don't understand this. She hasn't had a job since August and quit school in October.
How did we get here?
Why is she like this?
Where do we go from here?
She tells us nothing. When she was gone last week, I had NO communication with her. DH would periodically check in with her via texts and ask if she was ok, are you coming home etc.
Everything was fine over Christmas, so it's not like there has been any arguments or anything. This whole situation is making me sick.

 

[mom2rtk]

Well, things are going from bad to worse with DD. We told her that rent would be due Jan. 1 (in addition to her car insurance) since she was no longer a FT student. She was gone for the entire week after Christmas, staying with her friend who lives in a dorm. She finally came home last night to gather more clothes and supplies and was headed out again within 15 minutes. DH tried to initiate a conversation with her about what is going on, what are her plans etc. She didn't bother to sit down or put her bags down for this brief chat. To sum it up, she's been very busy working out, helping at tennis, hanging out with friends, and the holidays, so she hasn't had much time to look for a job. She's only making enough money to be able to go out with friends, not enough to pay rent. So, she is just going to stay with friends instead of live at home, where she would have to pay rent. I guess we just see how long her friends want her freeloading off them?

I don't understand this. She hasn't had a job since August and quit school in October.
How did we get here?
Why is she like this?
Where do we go from here?
She tells us nothing. When she was gone last week, I had NO communication with her. DH would periodically check in with her via texts and ask if she was ok, are you coming home etc.
Everything was fine over Christmas, so it's not like there has been any arguments or anything. This whole situation is making me sick.

I'm so sorry.

I think you're right though. You're going to have to see how long it takes for her friends get tired of her freeloading. If they still have parents paying the bills, it might be a while.

Please take care of yourself.

 

[jetskigrl]

Well, things are going from bad to worse with DD. We told her that rent would be due Jan. 1 (in addition to her car insurance) since she was no longer a FT student. She was gone for the entire week after Christmas, staying with her friend who lives in a dorm. She finally came home last night to gather more clothes and supplies and was headed out again within 15 minutes. DH tried to initiate a conversation with her about what is going on, what are her plans etc. She didn't bother to sit down or put her bags down for this brief chat. To sum it up, she's been very busy working out, helping at tennis, hanging out with friends, and the holidays, so she hasn't had much time to look for a job. She's only making enough money to be able to go out with friends, not enough to pay rent. So, she is just going to stay with friends instead of live at home, where she would have to pay rent. I guess we just see how long her friends want her freeloading off them?

I don't understand this. She hasn't had a job since August and quit school in October.
How did we get here?
Why is she like this?
Where do we go from here?
She tells us nothing. When she was gone last week, I had NO communication with her. DH would periodically check in with her via texts and ask if she was ok, are you coming home etc.
Everything was fine over Christmas, so it's not like there has been any arguments or anything. This whole situation is making me sick.

Oh no, I'm so sorry I agree that you might have to wait until her friends get tired of supporting her before things will change.

 

[Aliceacc]

I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time Snoodledoo. Know that at some point she'll grow up and decide that the Peter Pan thing just won't work, and that she'll need to get a job.

As for us, I think we have a slight change in plans for next week. My son has an Amtrak ticket for his return on Tuesday. But he has a month's work of clothes, not to mention his X box, and asked whether there's any way I could drive him back-- he simply doesn't want to lug all that stuff through Penn Station in NYC, then home on an Uber.

So I said I would drive him down on Saturday, provided:
- that the "flurries to 2"" of snow they're predicting for us on Friday is that.
- my trip to Urgent Care this afternoon doesn't show that I've done too much damage to my wrist. I was closing a window at school yesterday and pushed hard on the window pole, and my wrist is sore and swollen. Not bad enough to call into work, but sore enough that I know I need an Xray today. Assuming that it's no worse than I think, the 3 hour drive each way shouldn't be a problem.

He's dying to get back to school. Everyone here is back at school all day. His friends who have stayed home are either in school (his best friend is now a Senior in HS) or working more hours than he got this break. Everyone is living their own lives, and his is kind of on hold as he waits to get back to school. As long as the dorms are open-- and he assures me that there are kids back at school already-- then I'm OK with the drive. (My husband is working Saturday, so he's out of the picture.) My 13 year old said she would tag along, so I'm not driving home alone.

I can always cancel the train ticket once I get home.

 

[indimom]

I'm sorry for how things are going Snoodledoo. It sounds like she's just a little lost right now.
I don't think even she's going to enjoy camping out with friends for long, so just give it some time, and she may start to realize she's better off at home or back in school (whatever school that may be).
And I think you're taking the right approach (avoiding the drama, and just stating your expectations). Stay strong and give her some time. She's young, she has the time. When her cashflow runs out (it will eventually if she's not working) or her friends burn out on her stay or she sees them moving on without her to bigger and better things, she may start to realize that this pattern isn't going to be fun for long.

DD did fine this semester and is excited to be getting back to school next weekend. One of her friends has lost a roommate for spring semester (not coming back to school) and asked her to move rooms and join her. She's considering it because she gets along better with this girl than her current roommate (they were planning to change housing next year anyway since roommate is in a sorority now), but she doesn't want to hurt her feelings or burn bridges by making the move early. Luckily, she's got a few more days to make a decision. I guess we'll see how it plays out.

Her grades are also good. She was a bit annoyed that her A- in Spanish dropped her grade under a 4.0. But, seriously, complaining about any grade over a B sounds a bit obsessive to me.

She's debating about a mission trip opportunity over Spring Break. While I think it sounds nice, she would have to come up with her travel expenses (that's not something dad and I are willing to fund); and I'm not sure she can raise that kind of cash in time. I doubt she'll take it out of her savings, she's pretty stingy about that (lol). We'll see. She's starting to look at jobs near campus because she's hating that she's spending more than she's bringing in right now.
She held off on buying most of her books for second semester because she learned quickly that you don't always need everything on the list, and those materials are Expensive! A huge change from first semester when she insisted on having EVERYTHING for the first day of class because that's what the syllabus said. lol.

She's also thinking she's got a good shot at an officer position in the club for students in her degree field next year. That would be great since the officers arrange for speakers and tours of the hospitals where students spend their final year (so she'll get to know the coordinators at the hospitals well). And, of course, it gives her something extra to put on her resume when the time comes.

It's been nice having her home these last weeks. I missed the girl time. As I hoped (really hoped), she and her brother actually get along better now that they have had some separation, so that's been nice also. All in all, a great break. I'm gonna miss her even more next semester.

 

[mjkacmom]

I'm sorry for how things are going Snoodledoo. It sounds like she's just a little lost right now.
I don't think even she's going to enjoy camping out with friends for long, so just give it some time, and she may start to realize she's better off at home or back in school (whatever school that may be).
And I think you're taking the right approach (avoiding the drama, and just stating your expectations). Stay strong and give her some time. She's young, she has the time. When her cashflow runs out (it will eventually if she's not working) or her friends burn out on her stay or she sees them moving on without her to bigger and better things, she may start to realize that this pattern isn't going to be fun for long.

DD did fine this semester and is excited to be getting back to school next weekend. One of her friends has lost a roommate for spring semester (not coming back to school) and asked her to move rooms and join her. She's considering it because she gets along better with this girl than her current roommate (they were planning to change housing next year anyway since roommate is in a sorority now), but she doesn't want to hurt her feelings or burn bridges by making the move early. Luckily, she's got a few more days to make a decision. I guess we'll see how it plays out.

Her grades are also good. She was a bit annoyed that her A- in Spanish dropped her grade under a 4.0. But, seriously, complaining about any grade over a B sounds a bit obsessive to me.

She's debating about a mission trip opportunity over Spring Break. While I think it sounds nice, she would have to come up with her travel expenses (that's not something dad and I are willing to fund); and I'm not sure she can raise that kind of cash in time. I doubt she'll take it out of her savings, she's pretty stingy about that (lol). We'll see. She's starting to look at jobs near campus because she's hating that she's spending more than she's bringing in right now.
She held off on buying most of her books for second semester because she learned quickly that you don't always need everything on the list, and those materials are Expensive! A huge change from first semester when she insisted on having EVERYTHING for the first day of class because that's what the syllabus said. lol.

She's also thinking she's got a good shot at an officer position in the club for students in her degree field next year. That would be great since the officers arrange for speakers and tours of the hospitals where students spend their final year (so she'll get to know the coordinators at the hospitals well). And, of course, it gives her something extra to put on her resume when the time comes.

It's been nice having her home these last weeks. I missed the girl time. As I hoped (really hoped), she and her brother actually get along better now that they have had some separation, so that's been nice also. All in all, a great break. I'm gonna miss her even more next semester.

Encourage her to take that trip. Dd20 was on the fence about spending $5000 for a 2 week class in Greece over this break (most frugal person I know, works every weekend to pay rent, takes out loans for tuition). She is having the time of her life, and would probably regret not going. You are only young once!