High School Class of 2016/College Class 2020

[Kimberlyann11]

How is your daughter doing after surgery?

Horrible. She is finding it almost impossible to negotiate with the crutches and is using the scooter almost exclusively. The problem is that we have a step to get up into the house - then a narrow entry and then about ten steep steps to get into the actual living area. She almost fell down them backwards when she very first got home. She pinwheeled her arms and everything. Awful. If I knew how bad it would be I would have rented a hotel room for these few days - although she saiys she'd rather be home with her cats and her fan. She had a portable nerve block pump for the pain. Well, the catheter came out last night and she lost all her pain control. I couldn't get either anesthesiologist to call me back or the surgeon. He called me back at 6 am super apologetic - he slept through the call. He said I could give her an extra half of a vicodin if she needed it. Well too late. I already gave her an extra and about eight oclock she was up vomiting - I assume from the vicodin. She slept all day and now she's out with her friend, OMG.

Cute story. In the recovery room, she was telling the nurse she needed to go home right away because she has a paper due at 1:30 and she hasn't typed it up yet. So funny. She has been suprised at how accomodating all the professors are. I told her they all want the kids to do well and they won't penalize a kid for having surgery. They aren't monsters lol.

Also, at the preop visit they told her that they would send her home with a catheter for her nerve block. She told me that night "Mom. I don't think I'll need a catheter, i think I can make it to the bathroom." Not that kind of catheter, lol!!!!!

 

[Monykalyn]

Argh @Kimberlyann11 Hope the pain stuff gets controlled quick for her, and that the crutch use gets better too!

 

[mom2rtk]

Horrible. She is finding it almost impossible to negotiate with the crutches and is using the scooter almost exclusively. The problem is that we have a step to get up into the house - then a narrow entry and then about ten steep steps to get into the actual living area. She almost fell down them backwards when she very first got home. She pinwheeled her arms and everything. Awful. If I knew how bad it would be I would have rented a hotel room for these few days - although she saiys she'd rather be home with her cats and her fan. She had a portable nerve block pump for the pain. Well, the catheter came out last night and she lost all her pain control. I couldn't get either anesthesiologist to call me back or the surgeon. He called me back at 6 am super apologetic - he slept through the call. He said I could give her an extra half of a vicodin if she needed it. Well too late. I already gave her an extra and about eight oclock she was up vomiting - I assume from the vicodin. She slept all day and now she's out with her friend, OMG.

Cute story. In the recovery room, she was telling the nurse she needed to go home right away because she has a paper due at 1:30 and she hasn't typed it up yet. So funny. She has been suprised at how accomodating all the professors are. I told her they all want the kids to do well and they won't penalize a kid for having surgery. They aren't monsters lol.

Also, at the preop visit they told her that they would send her home with a catheter for her nerve block. She told me that night "Mom. I don't think I'll need a catheter, i think I can make it to the bathroom." Not that kind of catheter, lol!!!!!

You poor things! I sure hope she's feeling better soon!

 

[punkin]

Poor DD called me crying yesterday because her homework was so hard and they didn't cover it in class and she's so stupid. My oldest majored in the subject, so we got on a conference call and were able to help. She hands it in this morning as required before class and during class figures out that she did next week's homework, which they just started learning how to do today. She has a huge break mwf between classes so I told her to go do her homework and hand t in during today's office hours and tell the professor what happened and why it's late.
She can apparently handle the work, but can't read the syllabus. Lol.

 

[punkin]

Oh no, @Kimberlyann11
That sounds awful. I hope she feels better very soon.

 

[Monykalyn]

Hope the freshman are having an easier time of it now. DD had another meltdown call, this time hysterical over everything(Another B in a test...better this week.

 

[wishesuponastar]

@Kimberlyann11 , what a rough time after surgery for you and your daughter. I hope she is doing better now.

 

[luvsJack]

Hope the freshman are having an easier time of it now. DD had another meltdown call, this time hysterical over everything(Another B in a test...better this week.

Bless her heart!

Dd was having mini melt downs and stressing bad for the past week or so. She was trying to do work study but the job she had was horrible hours. Instead of a few each day like most on our campus it was 12 hours on her one day she has to get her math lab hours and larger assignments done plus most of her other short day . She was staying up late and getting up early trying to get it all done. Once I realized what was happening, I told her to quit. Its not worth the stress and worry over her grades. She had a talk with her suprvisor and isn't working any longer.

@Kimberlyann11 I hope your dd is doing better. Crutches are horrible torture devices. Hope the pain is getting easier to control.

 

[punkin]

My DD is also stressed out. She feels like she's behind in math. I'm thinking of getting her a math tutor. I don't get it, frankly. Math was never a problem before. She took a new foreign language this year, so that's hard, but she feels like she has a good grasp on it. They are moving quickly. Her other two classes are very reading intensive and just take a lot of time. She's coming home for fall break, so I'll see her for a few days in mid-October.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Thought this was a really great article by Rob Lowe!

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/...off_to_college_an_excerpt_from_love_life.html

Have a tissue on hand when reading!

 

[Pea-n-Me]

My DD is also stressed out. She feels like she's behind in math. I'm thinking of getting her a math tutor. I don't get it, frankly. Math was never a problem before. She took a new foreign language this year, so that's hard, but she feels like she has a good grasp on it. They are moving quickly. Her other two classes are very reading intensive and just take a lot of time. She's coming home for fall break, so I'll see her for a few days in mid-October.

The college must provide some resources, right?

 

[punkin]

Thought this was a really great article by Rob Lowe!

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/...off_to_college_an_excerpt_from_love_life.html

Have a tissue on hand when reading!

I totally cried. How sweet and how true.

The college must provide some resources, right?

Apparently not. She has an appointment to go speak to her professor this week so I hope he can recommend something.

 

[Monykalyn]

Thought this was a really great article by Rob Lowe!

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/...off_to_college_an_excerpt_from_love_life.html

Have a tissue on hand when reading!

And now my eyes are leaking too despite the many cups of dehydrating coffee!

 

[jetskigrl]

Horrible. She is finding it almost impossible to negotiate with the crutches and is using the scooter almost exclusively. The problem is that we have a step to get up into the house - then a narrow entry and then about ten steep steps to get into the actual living area. She almost fell down them backwards when she very first got home. She pinwheeled her arms and everything. Awful. If I knew how bad it would be I would have rented a hotel room for these few days - although she saiys she'd rather be home with her cats and her fan. She had a portable nerve block pump for the pain. Well, the catheter came out last night and she lost all her pain control. I couldn't get either anesthesiologist to call me back or the surgeon. He called me back at 6 am super apologetic - he slept through the call. He said I could give her an extra half of a vicodin if she needed it. Well too late. I already gave her an extra and about eight oclock she was up vomiting - I assume from the vicodin. She slept all day and now she's out with her friend, OMG.

Cute story. In the recovery room, she was telling the nurse she needed to go home right away because she has a paper due at 1:30 and she hasn't typed it up yet. So funny. She has been suprised at how accomodating all the professors are. I told her they all want the kids to do well and they won't penalize a kid for having surgery. They aren't monsters lol.

Also, at the preop visit they told her that they would send her home with a catheter for her nerve block. She told me that night "Mom. I don't think I'll need a catheter, i think I can make it to the bathroom." Not that kind of catheter, lol!!!!!

Hugs to your DD. I hope she is feeling a little better now and is able to get around easier.

Bless her heart!

Dd was having mini melt downs and stressing bad for the past week or so. She was trying to do work study but the job she had was horrible hours. Instead of a few each day like most on our campus it was 12 hours on her one day she has to get her math lab hours and larger assignments done plus most of her other short day . She was staying up late and getting up early trying to get it all done. Once I realized what was happening, I told her to quit. Its not worth the stress and worry over her grades. She had a talk with her suprvisor and isn't working any longer.

Sounds like a good decision. We talked about DD getting a part time job but we also thought it might be too much for her to juggle that with the first year of school so we told her to just concentrate on school this year.

Thought this was a really great article by Rob Lowe!

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/...off_to_college_an_excerpt_from_love_life.html

Have a tissue on hand when reading!

OK - I'm definitely saving that one until no one else is around to see me cry

My DD is also stressed out. She feels like she's behind in math. I'm thinking of getting her a math tutor. I don't get it, frankly. Math was never a problem before. She took a new foreign language this year, so that's hard, but she feels like she has a good grasp on it. They are moving quickly. Her other two classes are very reading intensive and just take a lot of time. She's coming home for fall break, so I'll see her for a few days in mid-October.

Hugs to your DD also!!

Stress seems to be the theme this week. I got my first call from DD in a panic this week too, but hers is about her dorm. She is in a quad but the 4th girl never showed up so it has been the three of them sharing the room (DD and her roommate in one bedroom, the other dorm mate in her own bedroom but all three using the 4th bed as extra storage area). But she found out that another girl is moving in. The stress though was that DD was talking to this girl and mentioned they only had 3 in her room. She likes this girl OK but her roommate really doesn't like her (I guess she has been a little pushy with the roommate since they are from the same city, etc). Anyway, the girl requested a room on her floor and theirs is the only room with an empty bed so that is where the housing director put her. DD's roommate was so upset that she went to the housing director to ask that the girl not be assigned to their room (DD went with her for moral support but she doesn't care if the girl joins them so she said she kept quiet). But her roommate didn't have a valid reason for not having her in the room other than she doesn't like her.

But DD feels bad because she mentioned to the girl that they had an extra bed and is now worried her roommates are upset with her for saying something. But I assured her that it was the decision of the housing director which room she was assigned to and of course they know there is a space in their room. For all they know, their room is the only room with a vacancy.

DD said her other roommate hasn't said much about it but DD offered to have the new girl room with her if the other girl didn't want to room with her (I don't think the other girl has a problem with her). But DD's roommate jumped on that offer and said she was moving into the other room and DD can room with the new girl. It seems extreme to move because the roommate that dislikes the new girl is already sharing a room with DD so she wouldn't have to share the bedroom with the new girl anyway. But maybe she is upset with her.

 

[Kimberlyann11]

Bless her heart!

Dd was having mini melt downs and stressing bad for the past week or so. She was trying to do work study but the job she had was horrible hours. Instead of a few each day like most on our campus it was 12 hours on her one day she has to get her math lab hours and larger assignments done plus most of her other short day . She was staying up late and getting up early trying to get it all done. Once I realized what was happening, I told her to quit. Its not worth the stress and worry over her grades. She had a talk with her suprvisor and isn't working any longer.

@Kimberlyann11 I hope your dd is doing better. Crutches are horrible torture devices. Hope the pain is getting easier to control.

Oh, things are going better. The pain was temporary, now she just has to deal with not being able to walk. Disability services is getting her a ride to class so that helps. I am going out to visit this weekend and then she is home next weekend.

Since she had to drop marching band, she lost touch with all those friends she made the first week so she is very lonely. Her roommate made friends, but all they do is party and DD wants to stay away from that for now. She wants to transfer closer to home, but she is going to stick out the year and see how it goes.

 

[mom2rtk]

Oh, things are going better. The pain was temporary, now she just has to deal with not being able to walk. Disability services is getting her a ride to class so that helps. I am going out to visit this weekend and then she is home next weekend.

Since she had to drop marching band, she lost touch with all those friends she made the first week so she is very lonely. Her roommate made friends, but all they do is party and DD wants to stay away from that for now. She wants to transfer closer to home, but she is going to stick out the year and see how it goes.

UGH, I hadn't even considered how that would affect her band friendships. That's a big blow her first semester there. I hope she settles in and finds some new friends. Bummer that the roommate is a big partier.

 

[Arkansan]

My DD has had some roommate problems, too, but not really of the personality conflict variety. Last week, her roommate dropped a bomb (seemingly out of nowhere according to DD) that she was moving out! The (former) roommate hasn't left school, she just moved into a single room across the hall from her old room. This is strange on several fronts--the college has a larger than expected Freshman class so has a whole dorm full of forced triples across campus, the girls (again, according to DD) hadn't had any major problems (they weren't close friends, but coexisted fine). And, in my experience, this school considers the roommate/dorm/communal living (only one cafeteria, shared PO box, very few singles only reserved for upperclassmen, etc.) to be VERY important in terms of personal development and doesn't just allow people who have only lived together for a few weeks to decide they don't like it and move out. Due to privacy, no one can tell DD anything about the ex-roommate so she is feeling that she did something "wrong."

They also aren't really telling her when/if she will get a new roommate. It is unlikely for the rest of this semester, as they REALLY encourage people to work out conflicts and compromise (unless there is something major) and it is a Freshman floor so I don't think an upperclassman would want to move in. Her ex-roommate is a swimmer and never really spent a lot of time with DD or the other girls in the floor--just her teammates. DD just feels bad. I'm sure it will be temporary and she'll adjust to her double closet space and privacy very soon, but I feel sad that she is missing out on a traditional rite of passage and a key component of the "college experience" we all talk so much about. I do hope the ex-roommate is ok, as with no information it is natural to jump to worst case scenarios.

 

[luvsJack]

Oh, things are going better. The pain was temporary, now she just has to deal with not being able to walk. Disability services is getting her a ride to class so that helps. I am going out to visit this weekend and then she is home next weekend.

Since she had to drop marching band, she lost touch with all those friends she made the first week so she is very lonely. Her roommate made friends, but all they do is party and DD wants to stay away from that for now. She wants to transfer closer to home, but she is going to stick out the year and see how it goes.

I feel for her. I am glad the pain is better and getting to classes. But the friend thing can be hard. Dd has some friends at another school that are unhappy for that very reason. Are there other things she can perhaps join on campus? For instance, dd is planning to become a "diamond girl" which is just a bat girl for the baseball team. Its kinda silly but its a way to meet more people. Maybe some clubs or something?

 

[Arkansan]

Yes, the friend thing is very hard! Maybe some of DD's ex-roommate's problems are caused by that. She only wanted to be friends with her teammates and never really tried to make friends with my DD or anyone else on their floor. And, due to "captain's practices," had little other free time.

Contrasted with my (overcommitted, as usual) DD who is in a college choir, a lab choir, and has joined a dance group, a theatre group, and the club lacrosse team plus works 5 hours/week at her work-study job. So far, DD has many acquaintances but no close friends. That will come. It takes time.

 

[punkin]

My DD is also having issues, roommate and otherwise. She's moving out of her room into a double. I hope the new roommate is a better fit. Her current roommates were good girls, but there was an obvious lifestyle mismatch from the beginning.
She's also absolutely panicking about math. I'm at a loss about what to do there. I'm almost ready to tell her to just withdraw and take a W and focus on her other classes.