High School class of 2011

[geffric]

grades are in????

wonder what DS got?? Ill have to ask him when he gets home from "hanging with friends"\

cruisnfamily - really that B more than off sets the D.. was it in a flunk out class or one she isnt very strong in??

 

[cruisnfamily]

grades are in????

wonder what DS got?? Ill have to ask him when he gets home from "hanging with friends"\

cruisnfamily - really that B more than off sets the D.. was it in a flunk out class or one she isnt very strong in??

All the classes were Gen Eds. Human Biology is the one she really thought she was failing in....that was the C. Psychology was a C-, English Composition B, and the D was in College Algebra. Which kills me. She actually tested into much higher math on the placement test but we chose for her to do the easiest math that would meet the Gen Eds since no math required for her major. And as far as she kept telling me all semester "math is really easy". So I was thinking A or B. The D was a big surprise. I guess she knew she had slipped but had expected B or C, not D.

As far as the offset.....not near enough. She needs a 2.75 for the year to keep her scholarship. Not looking good right now!

 

[geffric]

was she in the algebra for engineering students?? that is a hard class..

 

[cruisnfamily]

was she in the algebra for engineering students?? that is a hard class..

Nope, just regular college algebra. Bottom of the line, general education math.

Next semester=Statistics.....

 

[disykat]

Last night my son had a party with over a dozen of his friends here.

It was interesting on many counts. First, dh and I went out to dinner the first part of the evening instead of being a constant presence. When we got home, we wrapped presents in our bedroom and evesdropped when we could.

It was interesting hearing snippets of what they were saying (It's hard to evesdrop effectively from too far away!) One conversation that happened close to our door was about grades. All my son's friends were honor students in high school. My son did really well this term, but I heard him say "it was under 4.0 but over 3.0." I'm guessing he figured out his was really high compared to the others.

We went to bed, and actually to sleep while they were still here. When we got up this morning they had cleaned everything, wiped the kitchen counters, the whole deal. They're good kids, no worries about alcohol etc., but it's still weird to totally stay out of it.

 

[trip]

So the grades are in....D, C-, C & B. That's a 1.93 GPA. But we've had a couple of talks about school and she understands that in order to return in the fall she'll need very marked improvement this next semester. Keep your fingers crossed!!

Is she on academic probation for having below a 2.0? Does she plan on repeating the D in math? If she does it will help her GPA. Freshman year is hard for lots of kids. You said she is a sorority - she'll probably be on social probation for the semester. That may help her. Good luck to you and her!

 

[cruisnfamily]

Is she on academic probation for having below a 2.0? Does she plan on repeating the D in math? If she does it will help her GPA. Freshman year is hard for lots of kids. You said she is a sorority - she'll probably be on social probation for the semester. That may help her. Good luck to you and her!

I don't think they'll be any repercussions from the school. The website says:
A student who has 18 graded hours or less will be placed on Academic Notice when his/her cumulative grade point average (GPA) falls below or equals 1.80.

She is not planning to repeat the math as she earned the credit hours and it satisfied the general ed requirement and that's all she needed it for. No math needed as a hospitality major.

There are repercussions for the scholarship where she needs a 2.75 by the end of spring semester.

She does think that she will be on probation with her sorority due to GPA this semester. She's unclear on the details of what exactly that will mean. Anybody know?

We're hoping this has been a wake up for her and we will see upward trending of the grades this next semester. If not, she's coming home for Community College and that won't be fun for any of us! So let's hope it's not necessary!

 

[Disneycrazymom]

I hope she can go back feeling confident and ready to have a better semester.

How is Christmas break going for everyone? DS actually went to a wedding today. Odd on a Wednesday but he said it was very nice! Also odd to think he is old enough to be going to friends weddings! He has had a good break. Nice combination of family time and friend time. I am happy it has gone this well.

I hope everyone has a nice New years and all our kids stay safe!

 

[geffric]

Holidays have come and gone..DS is back from his trip to NYC ( had super fun) and working at Legoland.
Still with gf, and signed a lease for an apartment next year with 3 other guys..

he didnt want to go to WDW during sping break..( sob) with me.., so he is not going..

oh well...next drama to come..

 

[minkydog]

DD18 is getting a little crabby. I know it's "that time" but she's really out of sorts. She's supposed to go back to school Sat*Jan7* and I think she's looking forward to that(although she'd never admit it.) We're going to celebrate her dad's birthday Friday night before she goes, eat dinner at our favorite seafood place. She's going to make her dad a special cake for the event.

I think I'm really going to miss her. She doesn't get a break until mid-March. I work for the school system and we get a mid-February break. I think DH & I may have to take our camping stuff down there and stay for 3-4 days so we can visit her and take her out to dinner and a movie.

 

[bluesaturn]

I have some questions for all you experienced college-student parents...

What do you do when your kid seems to not like their college all that much and also thinks like they were sold a bill of goods about some important aspects (in this case, certain educational programs) of their college? I don't know what to do...grades are very good, social life seems ok (other than there being too high a girl to guy ratio). DD's general statement about college is that 'at least it's better than high school'...but my college student seems so miserable to go back today. The problem is that this school seemed to be the best fit, there really isn't anywhere else, so what can my kid do? And, independent of her major, DD can't drop out of this other program she's in, if she does that she would then instead have to take general freshman-level classes for her prerequisites and that would basically negate all the upper-level course-work she's already done, so now she feels like she *has* to stick with this program for all four years.

I kind of feel like I've failed my kid. I think a lot of is is that she misses her dad & I & our pets. She doesn't want to go anywhere for Christmas, just wants to stay home and is tired of airplane travel and having to pack up all her stuff. She only gets a little over 2 weeks, I wish she had more of a holiday break like minkydog's DD

agnes!

I'm from MD, and I'm wondering if VA is similar. Every year there are tons of freshmen who leave their out of state private colleges to attend an in state school. I remember this from when I was in high school/college and with my sister. I think a lot of kids become focused on finding their "dream school", and fall in love with a school and the experience they think they will have. And when a school can't live up to that dream, it can be very disappointing. I don't think it helps that private schools tend to "sell" themselves more. Of course it makes sense for them to do it, but it might lead to more disappointment if students put a lot of emphasis on the fit of the school.

I don't know anyone who came home and switched to a state school that was unhappy with their decision. Everyone I know actually did really well after transferring, and had less debt in the end! And when I mean come home, I don't mean live at home. Most people still live in dorms and have that experience. But there's a big difference when you can hope in your car and drive 2 hours to see your family and have a weekend at home.

I'm not saying she needs to go to a state school, but clearly she wouldn't be a failure if she decided to transfer or picked somewhere closer to home. I'm sure you know that, maybe she just needs to hear it? Also, I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but do you think she might be depressed? You previously said she was really unhappy in high school and now she is unhappy in college. I totally believe that it could be a bad match between her personality and the schools, but maybe there's something else going on?

 

[agnes!]

There could be something else going on, but I think it's mostly that high school was basically hell on earth for her and now she's in purgatory...not quite hell but certainly not quite "heaven" either. The way they set up the dorms for most of the freshmen hasn't helped. Her dorm is almost brand-new but it has no separate social/study spaces...no lounges to hang out in on the floors (just a small lobby down on the first-floor that people walk through), no quiet/study rooms *AND* housing stuck almost all the freshmen in triples - six girls/boys in a space meant for four - so these kids are virtually living on top of each other. She said that the other dorms seem to have a good sense of community/belonging but hers is like living in a hotel.

She's thinking of trying to take a summer school class at home to free up her schedule next year a little bit and is going to talk to her academic counselor about that within the next few days, so I think that will help - not that she'll get the answer she wants but just talking to someone will help. She did find out at least that she can possibly drop out of the program she's in and that the classes she's already taken this year *will* transfer into the general ed program so that's good (she won't lose a year's credits...someone had wrongly told her that she would have to basically repeat a year!! ). In my opinion, not just because of this but because of all sorts of other things, the college & its affiliated organizations (clubs, etc.) could really help students out (especially their freshmen) by communicating information a little better, I think they assume people already know things that the college/clubs/groups haven't actually communicated to anyone.

agnes!

 

[bluesaturn]

There could be something else going on, but I think it's mostly that high school was basically hell on earth for her and now she's in purgatory...not quite hell but certainly not quite "heaven" either. The way they set up the dorms for most of the freshmen hasn't helped. Her dorm is almost brand-new but it has no separate social/study spaces...no lounges to hang out in on the floors (just a small lobby down on the first-floor that people walk through), no quiet/study rooms *AND* housing stuck almost all the freshmen in triples - six girls/boys in a space meant for four - so these kids are virtually living on top of each other. She said that the other dorms seem to have a good sense of community/belonging but hers is like living in a hotel.

She's thinking of trying to take a summer school class at home to free up her schedule next year a little bit and is going to talk to her academic counselor about that within the next few days, so I think that will help - not that she'll get the answer she wants but just talking to someone will help. She did find out at least that she can possibly drop out of the program she's in and that the classes she's already taken this year *will* transfer into the general ed program so that's good (she won't lose a year's credits...someone had wrongly told her that she would have to basically repeat a year!! ). In my opinion, not just because of this but because of all sorts of other things, the college & its affiliated organizations (clubs, etc.) could really help students out (especially their freshmen) by communicating information a little better, I think they assume people already know things that the college/clubs/groups haven't actually communicated to anyone.

agnes!

Oh poor thing that's really frustrating. It's especially hard when you live far away from home because you're really stuck in the dorm all semester. You can't just run home for a weekend to get some peace and quiet.

I guess I would wonder why she hated high school and really dislikes college so much. Is it just characteristics of the particular schools? Or something about the social structure of being in HS or college? It sounds like she's been unhappy for the last 4 1/2 years

If she's not in love with the school, maybe she's better off moving to a school closer to home. At least then she would have the option to come home sometimes, not travel as much, etc. I hope she finds a solution that works for her!

 

[disykat]

DS has a friend who hated first semester and is now going to the local community college hoping to transfer to a different school in the FALL. DS and his friends all feel terrible for him, but are trying to assure him that schools CAN be a good fit and that this will be a positive change. Nice kid and I'm glad he is willing to change schools or do what it takes to be happy.

DS was itching to get back to school (started last Tuesday) and we had to take him early on Monday. The Dorm opened at 10 and he was there by 11. I'm happy for him, but I found this drop off almost harder emotionally than in September.

Did anyone see the video this morning about the football mom so unhappy that her son chose Alabama over Louisianna? I could kind of relate! I didn't think my son chose the right school either. I think I did a better job of hiding that and letting him make his own choice though - LOL! Anyway, my child obviously is happy with his choice!

Football sort of reminds me that we're really just spectators and cheerleaders in this thing. We suit em up, send em out, and stay off the field! Then we patch em up and send em back.

 

[agnes!]

Oh poor thing that's really frustrating. It's especially hard when you live far away from home because you're really stuck in the dorm all semester. You can't just run home for a weekend to get some peace and quiet.

I guess I would wonder why she hated high school and really dislikes college so much. Is it just characteristics of the particular schools? Or something about the social structure of being in HS or college? It sounds like she's been unhappy for the last 4 1/2 years

If she's not in love with the school, maybe she's better off moving to a school closer to home. At least then she would have the option to come home sometimes, not travel as much, etc. I hope she finds a solution that works for her!

In high school it was a string of bad situations, starting with an incompetent & vicious teacher her freshman/sophomore years (for a subject she loves) up to a drama-lama classmate spreading nasty gossip against her senior year. Mostly, though, it's that she's not a rah-rah type (nothing wrong with being rah-rah, I admire folks who are "happy socials") and she's also a deep thinker, likes to have fun and hang out but not at all into the 3 Ds..."Drama", Drinking with some Drugging thrown in (like the overwhelming majority of kids at her old high school). When she did a Meyers/Briggs personality test (whatever it was), she's like 5% of the population so she'll not have an easy time in her life finding folks who think like her...moving closer to home, none of the schools anywhere near here have quite the program she's interested in and I'm not sure any of them would be any better of a fit (though it would be nice for her to be able to come home for a quick visit now and then).
I knew we'd all miss each other but I think all of us underestimated how homesick for home she would be and how homesick for her her Dad & I would be, but when people asked me where she was going to school and I told them, I would always say "It's got to be done." Doesn't make it easier for us parents, but our kids have to be able to leave us behind and go on with their lives. I'm hoping that since she has more classes in her major this semester that she'll start to feel more-acclimated to college-life.

The dorm situation is stressful for all these poor freshmen, she doesn't have roommates/suitemates who steal/lie/bring in overnight 'guests', but having all these kids live on top of each other causes friction and stress. They have one bathroom (yes, one shower and one toilet but - oooooo - two sinks!) between all six kids.

agnes!

 

[linnylu]

Agnes, your poor DD's situation has me worried for my DD who is a senior in high school. She's highly considering attending college 12 hours from our home. Granted her dorm is much better than your DD's dorm situation. She'll have a private room in a 4 bedroom suite and share a bathroom with only 1 other girl. I actually posted on the Dis boards asking if I should "let" my DD to attend a school so far from home, and boy did I get roasted. The word let must have done it.

If you had it all to do over, would you have tried to talk your DD out of attending a school where you had to travel by plane to get home- or is it a good live and learn situation?

I hope that she has a much better second semester.

 

[trip]

There could be something else going on, but I think it's mostly that high school was basically hell on earth for her and now she's in purgatory...not quite hell but certainly not quite "heaven" either. The way they set up the dorms for most of the freshmen hasn't helped. Her dorm is almost brand-new but it has no separate social/study spaces...no lounges to hang out in on the floors (just a small lobby down on the first-floor that people walk through), no quiet/study rooms *AND* housing stuck almost all the freshmen in triples - six girls/boys in a space meant for four - so these kids are virtually living on top of each other. She said that the other dorms seem to have a good sense of community/belonging but hers is like living in a hotel.



agnes!

Hopefully, when she returns for second semester the overcrowding in the dorms will be corrected. She should head for the library for quiet study time. I never expected to do "serious" study time in the dorm. Too many distractions there.

 

[disykat]

My son was also tripled. He is happy though, that after break some of their lounge areas will no longer be used for overflow housing. It'll be nice to have more places to go. Lounge areas are so important, especially if you're tripled!

We were kind of hoping one of his roommates might move out, but even if he had, apparently there are still some kids in overflow that would have been moved in.

One night he was skyping with us, wandering around the dorm with his laptop trying to find a place where we could hear each other. Twice he found a quiet area only to be "invaded" by other kids. There's a hallway in the basement by some utility closets where he ended up! It's a small enough space that it doesn't get shared if someone is already there.

 

[geffric]

AGNES -

i am speechless..i wish i could help you..

has she looked at Colleges that Change Lives - both a book and a website..it is about small school that deal with special kids ..

 

[agnes!]

I think a lot of this would be assuaged if she could just have a teacher or two at college (an adult other than her dad & I kwim?) believe in her as a professional, like a mentor.

agnes!