He's been extended

[DisneyJen0504]

I am so sorry. Hang in there. You will get through this.

 

[720L]

Tell him thank you from my family also. So sorry you have to go through this.

 

[cynsaun]

I'm so sorry for you and your family. Thank you to him for serving our country, and I will be praying for his safe return.

 

[bubbleprincessmom]

Thanks guys! I'm just having an awful day today. The lawnmower broke a belt, the kids are fighting and I'm just so alone. DH was able to come home in March for 9 days of R & R but he just wasn't "here" that's what scares me the most about the extension is the longer he's gone the more the war will mess with his mind. I just don't know that I can hold up for another year.

 

[palmtreegirl]

I'm sorry this is happening to your family, it's just not right.

 

[Pin Wizard]

I'm so sorry he's been extended.

I'd be out there plugging to get new recruits to get their numbers up!!

Welcome to the single parent's nightmare...only we don't get a break at all from it. Being DH died when I was pregnant, DS has never had any special event with his dad.

You'll get through all those things without him being there like I have and will. Ugh...I don't even want to think of DS's driving!

 

[kaylajr]

Monica, i'm so sorry.

I am so grateful for men like your husband who put their lives on the line and leave their families to make our world a safer place.

Feel free to come here and vent anytime.

couldn't have said it better myself

 

[Dan Murphy]

So very sorry to hear about the extension BPmom. My thanks to him, and you guys, for all he, others like him and families like yours do for others. I wish I could say/do more. He and you are in my prayers of safekeeping and thanks.

 

[AmyA]

I am so sorry to hear this and I understand only too well where you are coming from. My DH is in Mosul right now...he left in August '04 and his orders are through August '06. Our girls were 3 and 8 (almost 9) when he left---Julia will be in kindergarten when he gets back and Emily will be in middle school! It's almost too surreal for me (or my DH) to comprehend.

I know how hard it is...it's not only that you are solely responsible for the kids, the home, the finances, and, if you work outside the home, work, but that your support person, the one you would normally "decompress" with, isn't available. I am lucky--I get to "talk" to my husband 3 or 4 times a week, usually twice by phone and twice by IM. However, it's not like I can just call him up whenever I have had a particularly bad day or if I just need to hear his voice. Also, he has such a hard job I don't like to whine and moan to him too much (most of the time at least ) because I am afraid it will make him worry about things he has no control over. I don't know about you, but I have sort of numbed myself over the past 10 months. I have always been a big "think ahead" person, planning things months in advance, eyes on the future, etc. However, now, while he's gone, I've noticed that I can only, literally, think about maybe a week at a time--and usually, I have to just focus on all the tasks that I have to get done each day. When I start thinking long-term and focus on the fact that Lance has missed an ENTIRE school year and we are not yet even halfway through this, well, it gets to be awfully overwhelming.

Sorry for the long post, but I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I wish I could offer you some comforting words that would make things better. Please know that your family, and all of our military families, are in our thoughts constantly. Also try to remember that you CAN do this. Yes, it totally sucks, but you can do it.

 

[Keli]

Oh, I am just so sorry! This is such a horrible blow to you guys. It stinks to high heaven. I wish there were words to convey how badly I feel for you and your family.

I almost came to hate our military for things like this when our dd's former bf Titus was in Iraq. He was one of the first in and at first his deployment was for six months, then they said 7-9. Then his CO got up and gave a speech designed to lift moral (which was very low at that point, they were surviving in bad conditions, sometimes even low on rations) and said "I can't promise you that you'll be home for thanksgiving but I can promise you you'll be celebrating christmas with your families" Titus came home in february. They just kept extending his stay and the whole time he was slowly losing it over there. My heart goes out to you more than you'll ever know.

 

[Sleepy]

I feel so badly for you. As a navy family, we understand how you feel. I agree that we need our spouses too. The children need their father. We, as a family, miss out on so much....holidays, anniversaries, birthdays, fathers day, recitals, birth of children....the list goes on and on. But, we all know the motto......the family was not issued with the sea bag. We are not first priority. Hang in there. We are strong. It;s ok to feel sad and resentful. Focus on the children and one day at a time.

 

[SplshMtn99]

From one army wife to another, I am SOOOOOO sorry!

 

[Alice28]

Oh man................I'm so sorry!

 

[mom23boys]

I am sorry your DH tour was extended. God bless him and all of the Military they truly are special people.

 

[Beast fan]

Monica .....

Please tell one of my heroes, your DH, that most all of us will be thinking about him on Father's Day.

Dave

 

[Serena]

I'm so sorry.

 

[Jynohn]

I'm sorry I'm late coming into this but I just wanted to let you know that my heart goes out to you and your family. My husband left for training a year ago this July and I honestly don't know how we've made it this far. I'm finally beginning to see a light at the end of the tunnel and would be devastated if I were to hear that he was extended.

Your family is in my prayers and thank you, your children and your DH for all of your sacrifices.

 

[Mimi Q]

 

[PaulaSue]

I am so Sorry. Speedy Get Home Safe Vibes!!!!!