He's been extended

[bubbleprincessmom]

There will be no happy homecoming for us this summer. DH left one year ago for training and than on to Iraq. We have done our time, we have missed him,loved him and supported him and the army. We were told one year. We had dreams for his return. They were all just wiped away. The army says they need him more than we do!!! He is a civil affairs officer and they are terribly short these guys (cause they are being deployed to death!!!). We have been notified that he will be staying for another year. Oh but the good news is after that time,unless congress passes a new law, they can't keep him any longer (due to his reserve status) and he will retire with 29 years of service. WTH!!!! WE NEED HIM!! My DS just turned 15, who will teach him to drive??? That was suppose to be a father and son time. Fathers day on Sunday? My DD (10) won't be able to make her daddy breakfast in bed or give him a present with him moving locations we don't even have an address yet to send him one. My heart is so broken right now. I was prepared mentally for the year, I don't think I can do this one. I'm crying so much right now I can barely see the screen. What are we going to do? He does feel they are getting the job done and that they should be there, but he has a job here to do as well, to raise our children....two years out of their lifes is such a high price to pay!!! Thanks for letting me vent.

God bless MY solider and his children who wait for him

monica

 

[Miss Jasmine]

I'm so sorry. I know you will find the strength to get through this.

God bless your DH, you and your family. Thank you all.

 

[WeirdEyes]

I'm truly sorry!

 

[DisneyCP2002]

I'm so sorry to hear this

 

[chrissyk]

I am so sorry. I can't imagine how sad and angry you must be feeling right now. Feel free to come here anytime to vent when you need an ear and some support.

 

[elliemae1192]

I'm so sorry. My cousin is in the Army and has spent alot of time overseas away from his wife and 5 children. I just don't see how his family copes. God bless your husband for his dedication and sacrifice and sending prayers that he will stay safe and be home soon.

 

[luvmy2sams]

to you and your family. I am truly sorry for everything you're going through. God bless you all.

A friend of mine is going through a similar situation. Her DH is a psychologist in the reserves and was called up for a 6 month stint in Iraq. That was 1.5 years ago. He's due home next week, but the army is now "strongly encouraging" him to volunteer for another year. Otherwise, they'll most likely call him back up within 3 months. He's got three little girls (8, 6, and almost 2) that miss him terribly. They all feel so helpless.

 

[NMAmy]

Oh, Monica, I'm so sorry to hear this. My very best to you and your family. I can only imagine how hard this is to bear.

 

[tinaluis]

Monica,
I'm so sorry to have that your husband's "tour" has been extended. It is so unfair that our government has changed the rules halfway through the "game". I can only imagnine how devastated you all must feel. I'll pray for you all and I'll also pray for an end to the horrible mess in Iraq.
Tina

 

[jellymanoffspring]

Oh Monica,

My monitor is blurry.....I am so sorry that his tour was extended! I know how I would be counting the days to my Dh return and I can only begin to imagine how you must feel!!


Big hugs to you and your children a Thank you for your sacrifice is not good enough but I do Thank you for all you are giving to our country.....

Praying for your DH safety and for his safe return ......
and that this next year moves swiftly by until he returns to your loving home!!

 

[JennyMominRI]

There will be no happy homecoming for us this summer. DH left one year ago for training and than on to Iraq. We have done our time, we have missed him,loved him and supported him and the army. We were told one year. We had dreams for his return. They were all just wiped away. The army says they need him more than we do!!! He is a civil affairs officer and they are terribly short these guys (cause they are being deployed to death!!!). We have been notified that he will be staying for another year. Oh but the good news is after that time,unless congress passes a new law, they can't keep him any longer (due to his reserve status) and he will retire with 29 years of service. WTH!!!! WE NEED HIM!! My DS just turned 15, who will teach him to drive??? That was suppose to be a father and son time. Fathers day on Sunday? My DD (10) won't be able to make her daddy breakfast in bed or give him a present with him moving locations we don't even have an address yet to send him one. My heart is so broken right now. I was prepared mentally for the year, I don't think I can do this one. I'm crying so much right now I can barely see the screen. What are we going to do? He does feel they are getting the job done and that they should be there, but he has a job here to do as well, to raise our children....two years out of their lifes is such a high price to pay!!! Thanks for letting me vent.

God bless MY solider and his children who wait for him

monica

I'm so sorry..That's really rotten... I hope he stays safe and comes home to you soon

 

[Blondy876]

Oh, honey, I'm so sorry. That's not fair. My God bless you and your family and give you all the strength to get through another year.

My brother was stationed on the USS Abraham Lincoln and he was gone for a long time. He left behind him at home a wife, a dd with cerebal palsy and a son who was born premature and had many developemental issue from that. His ship was enroute home, we were all planning a welcome home party for him. They stopped his ship in Australia and sent them back for many more months. It's a terrible feeling.

Please when you do talk to him again make sure you tell him "Thank you" from my family. Thank you doesn't isn't enough but it's all I have.

 

[Hillbeans]

Monica, i'm so sorry.

I am so grateful for men like your husband who put their lives on the line and leave their families to make our world a safer place.

Feel free to come here and vent anytime.

 

[Auggietina]

Monica
I know this is little, very little, but understanding what you are going through, it is a small light... You can subtract his leave days from the end of when his orders are up. So, since if I understand, he is now on 2 year orders, which I think is 60 days of leave time, so he will actually be gone for 10 more months instead of the 12. Like I said its not much, but I know how long a 'year' sounds!!! My dh just got home from being away from home for 16 months. It sucks! I know how bad it sucks!!

 

[Freyja]

I´m so sorry. I hope you have good friends and family to help you get through this. You should all be very proud of him (I´m sure you are )

 

[4nana]

Ohhhh Monica {{}},

I am so sorry honey and feel your pain . I pray for our military families and wonder when the toll they are taking will all end. May God bless your family and give you all strength and courage through this hardship.

Our son is due home fr Iraq in August, we hope. He was deployed to Korea for 1 yr, then straight to Iraq for another year. He also has received word once his unit returns to US, that within a year they may need to be deployed back to Iraq for another year. As much as he loves serving his country, like many, he is going above and beyond the call of duty. He has only seen his new bride of 1 1/2 yrs for 3 wks . Thankfully, she lives close to us and we can cry on each others shoulder when needed. With news he may only return, he is feeling so torn between his obligations. Yet, friends in other branches are only doing 6 mo tours.

I have heard the same story from many military families recently. Seems there is such a shortage and our recruiting has fallen some 40/50%. I am wondering if/when the draft is coming back.

Best wishes for all your soldier and family. I will keep you and yours in my prayers and hope you can find light at the end of the tunnel.

Until then... may all our soldiers stay safe and strong ^i^.

for your family!!!

 

[Kitty 34]

So sorry to hear this. Monica. What a bummer that must be!

 

[cats7494]

I am so sorry to hear that!
My BIL goes back in September for another year - they have 2 little girls, a 2 year old and a 3 year old.
I agree with you, Daddies should not be away from their children for so long!

 

[L107ANGEL]

I am so sorry for you and your family May god bless you and you family and thank you for your sacrifice. I will keep your husband in my prayers for a safe return. We are always here if you need a shoulder

 

[scoutsmom99]

I'm so sorry I will keep your family in my thoughts.