Help?

[lovelyrita]

So, I am just starting to look at Disney Weddings, dreamed of having one since I was a little girl. The big snag I'm coming across is because my Fiance and I are still in college (I'm graduating next fall and he graduates Spring of 2012).
We don't know if we should get married while he is still in school (maybe over spring break in March of 2012) and live apart for a month and a half? Maybe we should wait until June (our original wedding date was June 16th until I convinced him that Disney was the way to go)...
Any suggestions?

 

[PartofDisney'sWorld]

I think that this is just one of those things that you both have to sit down and figure out what is best for you guys. Both me and my DF are still in school and we are not graduating until Spring 2012, and we are getting married in July 2011. Granted, it's not "ideal" for people to get married while still in school, but we are quite a bit older than the average college age student and we are able to make it work. We specifically picked the summer because we wanted to be sure it didn't conflict with school and that we are able to take a honeymoon. So I think it would work for you guys for whatever time you wanted to get married, it just depends on what works for you.

If you get married over spring break, can you not live together until he graduates? Do you not want to live together before you get married?

 

[disneylizzylou]

My fiance and I are both still in school too and we had that long discussion about when to get married, and we found that for us personally it was easier to wait until we graduated. The problem with trying to plan while still in school is that you are both so busy with your schedules you may not have the time to go together and do a site visit (and I found that very important because the place that I thought I wanted to get married ended up not even in the running after we saw it in person!) and it would be hard to do a planning meeting at the same time if your school schedules don't match up (they say you can do planning meetings over the phone but you know you're going to want to go in person ). I think whatever you decide you should both feel comfortable with, after all it's your wedding!!

 

[elleinad16]

We got engaged in 2009, after our junior year of college. We decided that finishing school was our priority, but being engaged through senior year definitely kept us faithful and reliable through the good and bad. We're getting married 11/11/11...so 2 1/2 years of being engaged is just what we have to do.

 

[Boston Disney Bride]

My husband is still in still going for his masters degree. We got married this past June and he graduates in Spring of 11. It worked for us because he is older than the average student and was the best decision for us!

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

Honestly, if it were me, I wouldn't want to get married over spring break! Think about it--- you'll probably have homework to do and whatnot, and can you imagine having to think about homework during your wedding week?!?!

I'm getting my master's right now, and I'm planning on getting married during winter break next year. (DF isn't in school anymore.) It's definitely something you'll have to think about!!

 

[*Pixiedust1438*]

I personally wouldn't do it over Spring Break. Me and DF are both in school (I am full time, and graduating in May, he is part time, and has a ways to go, but he has a good full-time job as well). I really wanted to do like a March or April wedding, but decided there was no way we could do it while I was still in school, it would just be way too much. I don't see any reason you need to wait until DF is done with school, but I would deff. suggest doing it in June, rather than over Spring break, not to mention hotels and flights will be much more expensive over Spring break, so that is something to keep in mind as well. Congrats on your wedding and good luck deciding.

 

[FutureMrs.B]

I'm currently working on my Master's and we will be getting married next November. (I won't be done by then.) It works for us but much like the other posters we are both a little older than typical college students. It's a personal choice and it has to be something that works for both of you. It is something that will add a little bit of extra stress but in the long run I rather get married next year than wait to do it. Good luck!

 

[kjg5]

I just started a Masters program that I hope will get me into vet school, so I have give or take 6 years of school left, and I'm 29 (I have 2 BA's), so getting married while in school was really our only option if we want to have a family. DF didn't go to college and he works several jobs to support us. We're getting married in May, which we chose because it would give us the whole summer to be fun-loving newlyweds before heading back to school. I think June is the way to go- you won't want to go your separate ways after the wedding. I think that is you do it over spring break, you'll regret waiting a little longer to have time to really enjoy it and soak it all in. School's too chaotic, even over break. What if you have an exam the first day back? You wouldn't be able to enjoy your honeymoon- and you deserve too!

 

[PrincessShea]

I assume you are both undergrads.

Wait until you have both graduated and secured jobs.

 

[lovelyrita]

Thanks everyone, you've given me things to think about.
Looks like we are waiting until after he graduates, but I'm not happy about it (lol)
It will be easier, you are all right, and then we don't have school to worry about...just jobs and the like. That is why I plan to graduate early (this time next year)
I am going to be the one to find a job and apartment so we have somewhere to go after our Disney wedding.
I wish it wasn't so far off though (a year and a half) so we could start doing some planning.

When is it to call and start the process? Is any time "too early"?

 

[nickandlarisa]

We waited until my husband was done with his Masters. We had a two year engagement and all of that time was spent long distance. Though not fun at the time, but it was better for us to finally be together after we were married and be settled.

I'm also an advocate of waiting until after college to get married. We met as college freshman at age 19 and didn't get married until we were 28. So you don't have to wait THAT long, haha, but I think its good to get a sense of the real world first, then tie the knot! Enjoy college, and enjoy wedding planning, two great things you only get to experience once!

 

[ChocoKat]

Talking from experience here, I think it is wise that you decided to wait.
DH and I got married when we were still in college.
We did so in a very small civil ceremony since we were paying our own way through school too.

Now that we are established adults with careers we are doing a vow renewal through Disney and inviting our families like we couldn't do the first time around.

 

[DisneyLove121]

I'm totally on the same boat here!! I'm graduating this spring and my DF will be graduating the same time but wants to go onto to get to get his masters. We're still trying to figure out what we want to do. Eek! I'm already getting so excited to start planning for my Disney wedding!!!

 

[disneylizzylou]

It's never too early to call! Depending on the type of wedding collection you pick seems to make a difference on when they will start seriously talking to you. I've heard that escape brides they won't really start talking to you until you are at least 12 months out (just what I've heard). I'm a wishes bride and I called back in March to talk to them (and I wasn't even engaged yet!) and they took down my information and set me up with a consultant right away so I was able to make connections and start asking questions 2 years out from my wedding.

 

[lovelyrita]

It's never too early to call! .

Really? hmmm...I may be able to get this ball rolling then! I was thinking I would need to wait another 6 months (we are getting married June 2012)...
It would be great if I could get a jump start on some of this stuff!!