Help with a ridiculous situation? (long, sorry)

[Mrs.D]

Last week my husband told me a story. It was about "somehow," at his work, word had gotten around that I am pregnant (which I am not). Either someone else started this misinformation and it spread without input from DH, or someone innocently asked if I was pregnant and he said yes, just to be "funny."
Anyway, the reason he informed me of this was his upcoming company Christmas party, which was last weekend. He said "By the way, if anyone asks, you are two and a half months pregnant."

WHAT!?!?!

So, now suddenly instead of looking forward to this party, I am stressed and dreading it because I have to lie to all these strangers. DH wasn't worried, he figured no one would say anything. Have you ever known anyone NOT to say anything to a pregnant lady?
After a lot of "discussion," he said no, there was no way he could say it was a misunderstanding or a false alarm. He would not budge, and has no worries about the fact that there will not be a baby in "late April or early May."
So, we get to the party, and everything is great. About an hour and a half into the party I start to think maybe it's a big joke on me...no one asked anything. Then one of DH's bosses asks if I'm over the morning sickness yet. I was so humiliated I just stammered a reply.
Now I don't know what he's going to do. Either we're going to have to fake a really tragic event or who knows what. These people are all really nice and I wouldn't be surprised if they throw a shower or buy gifts or something. The company seems to put a lot of emphasis on being like a "family."
Any ideas on how to get out of this? I don't really want to expose my husband as a liar, but I don't have a bun in the oven.
The things these men get into!

 

[GEM]

Huh? That just doens't make any sense.

And this . . .

Either we're going to have to fake a really tragic event or who knows what.

. . is just seriously sick and messed up. I'm sorry. Ya'll need help. I really try not to step on any toes around here. Honestly, I do. But this is just bizarre. This is not just "one of those things men get into." Truthfully, if my husband got us "into" a wierd situation like that, I'd be getting him "into" a shrink.

Sorry to be so brutally honest, but as someone who has a history of miscarriage and "tragic events" in pregnancy, the thought of someone thinking about faking one for a totally bizarre reason like this is just too much.

 

[poohbears5]

That is just too wierd does your dh have a habit of behavior like this?

 

[disneymom3]

Oh dear......I am thinking you are either going to have to claim really messed up cycles and confusion or have a "miscarriage". I would have to go with the messed up cycles because no way could I diminish the tragedy of a miscarriage by making one up.

What a bizarre situation to be in. I feel for you. I am thinking I would have had to make DH admit before the party that there was a mixup--read the test wrong or something!

 

[disneynutt1225]

My only question is why on earth would your DH let the rumor continue knowing darn well that nothing is going to happen when you're going to be due? Seems like you're definitely stuck between a rock and a hard place, because even if "something tragic" happens to your "pregnancy" you're going to be getting unwarranted attention. It needs to be nipped in the bud ASAP however - you wouldn't want them throwing you a shower when you're not even pregnant. [Sentenced deleted after foot removed from mouth] Unfortunately, there's no nice way to get around this....perhaps someone else will have better insight for you, but in any event GOOD LUCK!

Edited to add: Maybe you can have DH say that your cycle was messed up and you just went to the Dr for confirmation of your pregnancy this week, and "unfortunately" it was a no-go.

 

[Mrs.D]

I don't think either myself or my husband are really sick and messed up, although I think the situation is ridiculous.
I guess I don't really need any suggestions, I just wanted to vent about this ridiculous situation my husband got himself (and me) into.
I'm just torn between not doing anything, and letting himself dig out or sink deeper...OR...worrying about it and how to fix it. DH actually likes this job, hasn't worked there too long, and I didn't want to expose him for the foolish, peer-pressure-susceptible goof that he can be.

 

[Mrs.D]

We actually have tried very hard to get pregnant for a long time, and no go. I suggested that it should be a false alarm, and he said no, I'm "too far along." And I've had "morning sickness." I think he has his head in the sand about the results of this tale he's told.

 

[Skywalker]

 

[tiggersmom2]

Last week my husband told me a story. It was about "somehow," at his work, word had gotten around that I am pregnant (which I am not). Either someone else started this misinformation and it spread without input from DH, or someone innocently asked if I was pregnant and he said yes, just to be "funny."
Anyway, the reason he informed me of this was his upcoming company Christmas party, which was last weekend. He said "By the way, if anyone asks, you are two and a half months pregnant."

WHAT!?!?!

So, now suddenly instead of looking forward to this party, I am stressed and dreading it because I have to lie to all these strangers. DH wasn't worried, he figured no one would say anything. Have you ever known anyone NOT to say anything to a pregnant lady?
After a lot of "discussion," he said no, there was no way he could say it was a misunderstanding or a false alarm. He would not budge, and has no worries about the fact that there will not be a baby in "late April or early May."
So, we get to the party, and everything is great. About an hour and a half into the party I start to think maybe it's a big joke on me...no one asked anything. Then one of DH's bosses asks if I'm over the morning sickness yet. I was so humiliated I just stammered a reply.
Now I don't know what he's going to do. Either we're going to have to fake a really tragic event or who knows what. These people are all really nice and I wouldn't be surprised if they throw a shower or buy gifts or something. The company seems to put a lot of emphasis on being like a "family."
Any ideas on how to get out of this? I don't really want to expose my husband as a liar, but I don't have a bun in the oven.
The things these men get into!

Wow...I'm just speechless! I just don't understand why two adults would concoct such a fabulous lie....hell...even my 11 year old is more mature than that.

 

[GEM]

Sorry, but I still think you need to worry less about how to get out of this wierd situation and more about what would possibly lead a grown man to tell (or go along with) a crazy lie that he had to know was going to blow up in his face.. That just doesn't suggest a really stable, mature individual.

I would have DH go in to work at some point over the next few days and say that you lost the baby.

And for anyone suggesting that she fake a miscarriage . . .you know good and well that if somebody came on here and posted about how they found out that a co-worker and his wife faked a miscarriage to cover up a false pregnancy, there would be 15 pages of posts about how messed up that was and how they needed serious counseling or something.

This has got to be the most messed up, bizarre thread I've read on here in a long time - and that's really saying something!

 

[poohbears5]

say it over cooked and just hurry and

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Woah, what a bizarre thread.

 

[Mrs.D]

Quote:
"I just don't understand why two adults would concoct such a fabulous lie....hell...even my 11 year old is more mature than that. "

It wasn't two adults, by the way, only one. Thanks for reading.

OK, I've had enough. Thanks for your comments. Time for bed. I think I will just let DH handle his mistake, and if there are any further developments I will worry about it then.

 

[Alice's Mom]

maybe "hysterical pregnancy" but at the same time I knew someone so desperate for a baby that suffered this and it was tragic for her when she realized there was nothing.

I'm just not sure why your husband would even let this get out of control in such a way. You were saying that his place of employment wants to be like a family, so now no matter what you say, you are toying with peoples feelings that care about you, which is truly unkind.

 

[GEM]

Quote:
"It wasn't two adults, by the way, only one. Thanks for reading.

Nope. You went along with it at the Christmas party, making it your lie as well. So, that's two.

Seriously, what did you think people were going to say about this??

 

[tiggersmom2]

Quote:
"I just don't understand why two adults would concoct such a fabulous lie....hell...even my 11 year old is more mature than that. "

It wasn't two adults, by the way, only one. Thanks for reading.

OK, I've had enough. Thanks for your comments. Time for bed. I think I will just let DH handle his mistake, and if there are any further developments I will worry about it then.

Well, you went along with your husband and reinforced the "fact" that you were pregnant. Now, you are saying:

Either we're going to have to fake a really tragic event or who knows what.

By that statement it shows that you ARE involved.

I won't say anything else......I think this is just really .....bizarre.

 

[Beth76]

We actually have tried very hard to get pregnant for a long time, and no go. I suggested that it should be a false alarm, and he said no, I'm "too far along." And I've had "morning sickness." I think he has his head in the sand about the results of this tale he's told.

You two need counseling. There's more going on than you're telling us. I'm sorry, but this is not the kind of rumor that should go on for more than a day. As soon as your husband heard this he should have said, "I'm sorry that's just not true." Not, "Oh, she's having morning sickness." And for you to perpetuate the rumor and consider lying about a miscarriage is even more unfathomable. I'm sorry you are having trouble conceiving. But, lying about pregnancy and miscarriages is not going to solve that. Have you ever heard of Karma?

 

[disneynutt1225]

.you know good and well that if somebody came on here and posted about how they found out that a co-worker and his wife faked a miscarriage to cover up a false pregnancy, there would be 15 pages of posts about how messed up that was and how they needed serious counseling or something.

This has got to be the most messed up, bizarre thread I've read on here in a long time - and that's really saying something!

You're right, it was foolish to suggest.

 

[MoniqueU]

WOw my husband would know better because I would hit the bar before I took my coat off.

 

[minnie56]

Sounds like a bigger problem than 'faking a pregnancy' to me!