irish dancer
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I was considering posting on the Behavior Challenge thread since it has to do with aggression but thought I'd put it on it's own. Looking for some help and/or guidance. Here's the situation:
DS is 9 and in the 4th grade. His dx is PDD-NOS/ASD and was received when he was 5yrs. Since 1st grade he's been in a self-contained spec ed classroom with increasing mainstreaming as the years have gone by. This year he is mainstreamed for math, science and social studies.
One big problem I have with our district is that spec ed services are spread out throughout the district which means DS has changed schools 4 times in the 6 1/2 yrs he's been in school. That also means different support staff (OT, SW, speech, etc). DS has actually transitioned pretty well each time and honestly he doesn't know any different.
What we're facing this year is completely new and unchartered territory for us though. DS has started to become physically aggressive at school, hitting, pushing, etc. Primarily this has been between him and one other student in his self-contained classroom who we'll call "Bob". At the beginning of the year I was so excited because the teacher told me DS and Bob seemed to be really hitting if off - finally a friend! Somewhere along the line though it has now turned into something entirely different. There are two incidents I'm aware of, they had an arguement one day over whether all people have two eyes or if people can have one eye. This resulted in my son hitting Bob. The second incident occurred last week. My DS, Bob and one other student from their class mainstream into the same classroom for math, science and social studies. This other student took DSs colored pencil, he took it back and Bob took it away from DS which resulted in DS jabbing Bob in the shoulder with a pencil. There was no TA there at the time so this is the version of the story the staff has pieced together. DS received an out of school suspension for both incidents. There have been a couple of other lesser incidents (pulling a child's hood at recess, pushing a child in gym when he stole DSs ball in bball).
Now yesterday we received a letter via the principal from Bob's parents stating they called the local police regarding the pencil jabbing incident and are threatening to file a report with the police if DS "comes near their child and physically handles him in a way that they see is unfit".
Help!
We've had numerous talks with DS about these issues, he knows the rule is keep hands and feet to himself, he can recite what he's supposed to do when someone is bothering him, we've put penalties and rewards in place regarding his behavior. We've never faced this type of issue before, in the past he would flee when things were stressing him out. Last year he was the receiver of physical aggression from another student so I know how the family feels but to call the police?!
Ugh, I used to dread seeing the school number on the caller id. Now I fear it!
What do we do now?
DS is 9 and in the 4th grade. His dx is PDD-NOS/ASD and was received when he was 5yrs. Since 1st grade he's been in a self-contained spec ed classroom with increasing mainstreaming as the years have gone by. This year he is mainstreamed for math, science and social studies.
One big problem I have with our district is that spec ed services are spread out throughout the district which means DS has changed schools 4 times in the 6 1/2 yrs he's been in school. That also means different support staff (OT, SW, speech, etc). DS has actually transitioned pretty well each time and honestly he doesn't know any different.
What we're facing this year is completely new and unchartered territory for us though. DS has started to become physically aggressive at school, hitting, pushing, etc. Primarily this has been between him and one other student in his self-contained classroom who we'll call "Bob". At the beginning of the year I was so excited because the teacher told me DS and Bob seemed to be really hitting if off - finally a friend! Somewhere along the line though it has now turned into something entirely different. There are two incidents I'm aware of, they had an arguement one day over whether all people have two eyes or if people can have one eye. This resulted in my son hitting Bob. The second incident occurred last week. My DS, Bob and one other student from their class mainstream into the same classroom for math, science and social studies. This other student took DSs colored pencil, he took it back and Bob took it away from DS which resulted in DS jabbing Bob in the shoulder with a pencil. There was no TA there at the time so this is the version of the story the staff has pieced together. DS received an out of school suspension for both incidents. There have been a couple of other lesser incidents (pulling a child's hood at recess, pushing a child in gym when he stole DSs ball in bball).
Now yesterday we received a letter via the principal from Bob's parents stating they called the local police regarding the pencil jabbing incident and are threatening to file a report with the police if DS "comes near their child and physically handles him in a way that they see is unfit".
Help!
We've had numerous talks with DS about these issues, he knows the rule is keep hands and feet to himself, he can recite what he's supposed to do when someone is bothering him, we've put penalties and rewards in place regarding his behavior. We've never faced this type of issue before, in the past he would flee when things were stressing him out. Last year he was the receiver of physical aggression from another student so I know how the family feels but to call the police?!
Ugh, I used to dread seeing the school number on the caller id. Now I fear it!
What do we do now?
