Marionnette
Children see magic because they look for it
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- Sep 26, 2009
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Come walk in my shoes for a week! I can match you heartache for heartache. And while I can have empathy for you, I still feel that it isn't wise to spend down ANY bank account to the point to where you think it is almost empty (but not quite).Update:
For those that asked why I didn't consult my SIL first, I did - she was out of town as it was a holiday, so I came here as others do for assistance.
For those that asked why I don't keep more money in my account - I cannot. Already working two jobs and this was a treat for my DD.
For those that asked why I would not keep track - I thought I had and with this transaction, I still would have had money left - not much, but enough.
I was really asking for advice on "how" to go about handling this, which I got, but in all the years I have been on these boards, I have never received this much criticism for how I am doing things wrong.
We all make mistakes and I am sorry if those feel that I could have avoided it all together. Yes, I could have. Yes, I should have kept track more, but I was looking for assistance as this is what I thought these boards were for, not that I would have to get all these responses about how I am not handling my money the right way.
I have received numerous PM about how others have done the same thing and that I need to have thick skin on these boards or I could be ripped to shreds and I thank you -
I will be scanning, but not posting for awhile as this experience has shown me that the "assistance and advice" days are basically over when it comes to these boards and the "what you did wrong" days are here now.
I love these boards and have gotten and shared a lot of info on them over the years but I am very disappointed in some of the responses I received. . Come walk in my shoes for a week with caring for a sick parent out of state, a husband who just got out of the hospital, a child in cheer, two jobs and a house to tend too. We are all human.
If this were a case of "I have to pick up medicine for my child and I'm *pretty sure* I have enough to cover my copay", then I certainly would have picked up the medicine and dealt with the possible overdraft later.
There's no way that I would have done this for a latte (or mochachino, or any other beverage). I would have told my child that I didn't have the money for it and that would have been the end of the discussion.
You handle your money any way you damn well please, OP. But ask yourself if cutting things so close is worth the additional stress that it caused you. Don't you already have enough things in your life to stress you out? Why would you want to add to them?