Help Please -- -quickly Wwyd

[agentpleakley]

You may all think I am the biggest jerk -- but this is what has developed today ... we leave next week and I just told my mother that we were going (out of an attempt to avoid the current situation). Within minutes, my mom calls me and tells me that my welch of a little sister (she's 33) just took 3 days off work, so she can go and crash on your floor.

I already explained to my mother -that Disney will not let her stay in my room as it will be over the max allowed (there are 4 of us). I am right on this I know, but I can't remember/find what Disney does if they find out.

I'm trying not to be mean but -I am tired of paying for my sister all the time. Moreover, I don't want her crashing in our room b/c I don't want to risk my vacation for her.

It's Christmas -- I don't want to start a family war -- WWYD

 

[alldiz]

I would without a doubt tell your sister that you would be happy to
check if there are any rooms available for her......BUT.....
she IS NOT STAYING ON YOUR FLOOR.

Who else will be in the room....just curious....

Sounds absolutely insane that anyone would invite themselves on your
vacation
Kerri

 

[agentpleakley]

I would without a doubt tell your sister that you would be happy to
check if there are any rooms available for her......BUT.....
she IS NOT STAYING ON YOUR FLOOR.

Who else will be in the room....just curious....

Sounds absolutely insane that anyone would invite themselves on your
vacation
Kerri

It's me, DH, and our 2 kids. She is a mooch.

 

[dburg30]

Let her go. You'll be away from her all day as you have ticket and she doesnt . She wants tickets and food, she can pay .

 

[helenk]

How will she get there?? Are you flying or driving? If you are flying do not let her know your airline and flight times, and if she has no money do not buy her a ticket.
If you are driving, just leave without her and do not let her know what hotel you are staying in...how would she find you?

 

[cobbler]

All of the above suggestions sound good. Besides if she does crash on your floor and leaves the room she won't be able to get in, and since she won't be on the registered list, she won't be able to get a room key and will be locked out all day.

One good dose of that and/or having to sit in the room all day with nothing to do might cure her tag-a-long habit with you.

 

[themilesfamily]

Here's my two cents.

If you don't want her to go, just tell her no and mom no. She will not be crashing on your floor.

If they want to make a federal case out of it, that's their problem. It may be unpleasant in the short term, but in the long term they need to understand that you have boundaries that are not to be crossed.

As this has been an issue in the past, it's time to put a stop to it. Maybe being told no occasionally will encourage your sister to finally grow up and stand on her own two feet. Don't enable her immature behavior! (Like Mom appears to be doing!)

 

[agentpleakley]

I already explained to my mother -that Disney will not let her stay in my room as it will be over the max allowed (there are 4 of us). I am right on this I know, but I can't remember/find what Disney does if they find out.

Anyone know the answer to this???

 

[WDW4ever]

Call a random resort and ask. Hypothetically of course...

 

[TXYankee]

Call her dight away. I would be nice, but firm. Tell her that this is a trip just for your family (the 4 of you) to bond. The transportation arrangements and reservations ect.. are made and ONLY 4 to a room. Let her know that you and her family enjoy spending time with her. If she would like to use her vacation time to visit with your family. Great!! Just let you know in advance. You do, however have plans for next week! At 33 she should know better then to go through your Mom and not call you and ask if she could join you!! Deal with your sister and keep Mom out.

Good Luck!! Have a great vacation!!

 

[Luv2trav]

You can probably get the occupancy limit from their website. Looks like you are staying in a moderate and they are all 4 people limit with the exception of a few suites.

 

[wezee]

My older sister and her hubby tried to but in on our 25th anniv. trip last year, at the last minute. Luckily it was my Mom who called her and told her she needed to plan her own vacation. This year DH and I planned to take my Mom & Dad to WDW (a first for them) and once again my sister called and asked to go along at the last minute. I told her no, we could not change our ADR's on short notice, and there would be a slim to none chance that the resort had an avail. room. When she called and complained to my Mom..... Ma told her this vacation had been planned for 7 mos. with just the four of us and that's the way it would stay.

My big Sis did not talk to me for 2 months, but when we went to WDW again this past Oct., she, for once, did not try to but in.

Tough love hurts initially......but sometimes is necessary for the long haul.
Good luck and you definantly have my sympath y. I am sure you are very excited and busy planning a great vacation for your family and should not have to experience this turmoil.

 

[Kim1964]

I think you should be straight with your sister and tell her she is not invited on your trip. Period.

It may make the holidays uncomfortable this year, but if you don't put a stop to this, it will continue to be a problem. How many times do you want to go through this?

Good luck.....I hope she's grown up enough to handle it.

 

[rosiep]

Oh I know it's hard to stand up to family. You hate to make waves...but the truth is they're taking advantage of you, and the onus of wave making should be on them.

I hope you find the fortitude to say "no". This is your family vacation and no one has the right to intrude on that.



Just so you know: I have learned to say "no" and it has cost me some relationships and earned me respect in others. The ones I lost were not worth keeping...

Best of luck to you
Rosie

 

[vanyel]

All of the above. Just remember you need a vacation with your dh & kids and having sis sleeping on the floor (which violates the maximum occupation of your room) would take away from your family experience. And don't let Mom or sis make you feel guilty.

 

[missypie]

You must tell her no. If she gets mad and doesn't invite herself on any more of your vacations, so much the better! I thought I had the mooch- sister-to-end-all-mooch-sisters, but yours has mine beat!

 

[DiznEeyore]

I agree with everyone who just said to tell your sister no. Why on earth would you allow her to ruin your family's precious time together by butting in like that? Someone can only take advantage of you if you let them, sister or not!

 

[TJA]

I keep trying to put myself in that situation. What I think I would do is call Disney and see if the extra adult is allowed in your room. If not, then you are home free. If an extra adult is allowed in the room, then I'd seriously consider changing resorts to one where the extra person is not allowed. This way, you can take a nice way out. If this doesn't work, then I do believe I would gently say that it's a vacation just for my family of 4 and maybe another time it could be an extended family vacation. Of course, keep in mind I know nothing about your family situation. I am speaking entirely on how I'd handle my own family, and it would be very gently.

 

[iuki]

Tell both your mom and sister that you called to see if you could get a roll-out bed put in your room, but that you were told you could not exceed 4 people in the room due to safety regulations. If she still insists, tell her you could use a babysitter while you and your husband spend some time alone.

Have a wonderful time.
iuki

 

[bab31]

Let her go. You'll be away from her all day as you have ticket and she doesnt . She wants tickets and food, she can pay .

NO!