Help my Dh died.(Updated again post #218)

[lucigo]

I wanted to offer my condolences as well. My DH of 12 years died in 2000 when my kids were 11, 9 and 5. When I look back on those first weeks they are just a blur. The world stopped and we got off. We did go to Disney 4 months later and it was quite therapeutic. If you could postpone just a few weeks you might be in a much better frame of mind, and if not, at least its a way to go and be with your kids away from the everyday world. My prayers are with you and your girls!

 

[Snowy-girls]

I am very sorry for you+your childrens sad loss of your husband+there father.Sending hugs,prayers+thoughts your way.Take care.x.

 

[fortheluvofpooh]

I am so very sorry for your loss.

 

[mrsltg]

OMG. I am so sorry. My prayers are with you and your family.

As far as the trip - ask the kids and let them decide.

 

[swald91]

So very sorry to hear of your loss. I know what it's like to lose someone quickly-without warning. Not a husband-but my brother. It takes time. I believe you learn to deal with it over time. As far as your upcoming trip goes, I don't know what I would do either. I would talk with your family and decide together. Keep in mind if your husband was looking forward to this trip-I'm sure he would want you to go. Some decisions are so hard to make at this difficult time. Hold tight to your family...they will be your rock. God Bless all of you

 

[rie'smom]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your soulmate and your children's father.

As for the trip:
If your children want to go,then go with them or have someone take them. When my son was 10, his dad, my ex died. The doctor said not to disrupt plans, so we went ot Tennessee as planned. It's so important to have continuity and normalcy in their lives.

 

[bethy]

I am so very very sorry. Hang in there and if you don't go now you can always go a little later when you and your girls need a little Disney therapy and alone time to focus on each other.

God bless you and keep you.

 

[Whipperwhirl]

Im also very sorry for your loss - If I were in your shoes I think I would try to think of what DH would want me to do. Huggs - Whip

 

[sk!mom]

I am so sorry for you. I have a soulmate of 28 years and can only try to imagine how hard things are for you right now.

Please know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers today and in the difficult days ahead.

May God Bless you.

 

[chipper10]

I am so sorry for your loss. I just cannot even imagine what you are going through. I would take it one day at a time. I think it would be good if you are able to take your trip, but if you are not ready I would postpone it. My prayers are with you and your family.

 

[jewjubean]

im so sorry about your loss..I cannot imagine how you are feeling right now. I know this might not help you but it sure helped me when a close friend died, but my grandmother always said "there's a reason god took him away because some little boy or girl needed a father" I hope this helps and my prayers are going your way.

 

[3AUTigerFans]

I am so sorry for your loss! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!

 

[AngieWin]

So sorry for your loss. I would take into consideration everyone's opinion of whether to continue with the trip or not. And as others have said, if he would want you to go, please do go. I have read of quite a few stories of memorial trips to Disney and special events people have done in their loved ones memories.

 

[DiznEeyore]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers for comfort, strength and healing.

 

[TSNCS]

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my father suddenly this May, and we all had a family trip scheduled for August. It was nice to get away, but the sadness was still there. I really think you should still go, but maybe reschedule for a later date. That way you have gotten over the shock a little, and can get away. These first few weeks are going to be terribly busy for you--dealing with arragements, life insurances, pensions, estate.......believe me, I went through it with my mom. It has been three months, and she is still sorting through paperwork. If you have any questions about that kind of stuff, feel free to pm me. I will remember you in my prayers, and your children. I am 34, so I am more mature to lose a parent, but it hurts nonetheless. Especially when it is suddenly. My parents were vacationing in Cancun and my father had a heart attack. It was a nightmare....still feel like I am walking in a dream and am going to wake up any moment.

So, if you can postpone your trip maybe for about a month, I think it would be easier for you. And I say easier meaning by that time you will just want to get away from it all, and it might be a good thing where you can be in a frame of mind to celebrate your husband instead of just mourning him. I am still mourning my dad, of course, but now I can think of the good times without breaking down. I hope the Lord gives you comfort in your time of need, and remember to let your friends and family take care of you. It is the only thing they can do right now to help you....so let them.

Tiffani

 

[dogodisney]

May God Bless you all and give you strength to get through this.

 

[Mimi in SC]

So sorry to hear about your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[DizneyGurly]

I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.

 

[Nancyg56]

I am so very sorry for your loss. I really cannot tell you what to do, you may need to take some time to think about it. My Mom passed on 2 weeks before my family trip was planned. We went but I know that this is entirely different. I can tell you that I needed the respite that the trip gave me, I was not able to think before we left so just being away and not having to think helped me.

 

[JerJan]

DisorBust....I am so sorry for your loss.... I know how you must feel....My Husband passed away (unexpectedly) on July 12th and we had a Disney trip planned for August 3rd through August 14th. I wasn't sure if taking our DD's 8 & 16 by myself was possible or if I (we) could even do it so soon (and alone)???!!! We did it, BY OURSELVES, and I'm so glad we did. Disney was our families special place and it was nice to share it with him (in spirit). We even saw our first shooting star the first night that we were at Vero Beach and my little one "Swears " it was "Daddy" telling her that everything was going to be OK...........

If you need to talk, PM me..... and may your husband rest in peace and God Bless you and your children.......