Help my Dh died.(Updated again post #218)

[minkydog]

I can't even imagine how you feel. I am so sorry for your pain and loss.

 

[PrincessKell]

I am so sorry for your loss. If there is anything I can do please let me know.

 

[KristiMc]

I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[nikkers]

I am sorry for your loss! I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[lynetteSC]

no advice, but you are in our prayers definately!

 

[sk!mom]

I am so sorry for your loss.

As far as the trip goes, I think to me it might depend on how much help your parents or inlaws would be to you. Can any or all of them step up and kind of be in charge of the trip? Would they be able to take over with your children if need be so that you can care for your self?

WDW to me is a demanding trip and would likely overwhelm me at a time when I would be so fragile. However if your traveling companions could/would just take over then I can see that it might be good to get away with your children for a time.

Do whatever feels right/ best for you. WDW will be there when you are feeling up to it if you need to cancel now.

Peace be with you.

 

[famofsix]

I can't believe I'm posting this. My soul mate of 25 yrs died without warning yesterday. We have a big family trip with my 77yo parents and my MIL schedulaed for Sept 5th. I do not want to go. My soon to be 6yo who was planning on spending her Bday at WDW is asking if we are going. My 11 and 13yo girls are also ossilating between wanting to go or not to go. I have know idea what the right choice to make is.

God help me.

I am so sorry for your loss

 

[GoHerd1028]

At one of the most difficult times in your life I am praying that God will grant you peace in the days ahead and be with you and the rest of your family in a way that you have never felt before.

Don't rush any decisions yet about your trip. It might be a good thing to go just to have some distance from the tragedy that has just happened and give you something else to think about. If something were to happen to me I would want my wife to go on the trip.

We are praying for you!

 

[princess&her4princes]

I'm crying for you as I type this.....I don't even know what the right thing to say is, other than I'm so sorry for your loss and hope that God will help guide you through the difficult journey you have in front of you.

 

[elan]

So sorry for your loss. I will be thinking of you in the days ahead.

 

[starann]

Hugs as you get through the next few days. I hope you find some peace.

 

[Folklore]

I am so sorry for you loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your kids.

When I was in high school my family and I had a really bad month that started with our minister dying, my grandma dying and our dog dying, all suddenly and unexpected. My grandma died about a week before we were due to go on vacation. We decided to still go and actually left a couple of days after the funeral. It was hard but it got us smiling again and by the end of the trip we were sharing all the good memories of her and celebrating her life.

 

[Mommy2JulietJocelyn]

I am so sorry .

 

[Maryr1]

My prayers are with you.

 

[GoofyG]

Praying for you and your family, and for peace in your Heart!

 

[bumbershoot]

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss.


I've only experienced the loss of my mother (who was very close to me) and my FIL, but with my mom, I had a great need to get AWAY. Away from the apartment where my stepfather phoned me to give me a head's up on the situation, away from the YMCA where I got the phone call she had passed away, away from the restaurant I went to eat at and some other places I went that morning (I had a "spa day" planned with my girlfriends and didn't cancel b/c I needed them to keep me, well, from doing anything drastic). Just away. Even when I traveled for the funeral, after that was done, stepdad and I had to get AWAY, and went to my brother's place a state away from where we had been.

So the urge to go "away" might be there, and it might be very healthy to go.

I really think you should still go, but maybe reschedule for a later date. That way you have gotten over the shock a little, and can get away. These first few weeks are going to be terribly busy for you--dealing with arragements, life insurances, pensions, estate.......believe me, I went through it with my mom.....

So, if you can postpone your trip maybe for about a month, I think it would be easier for you. And I say easier meaning by that time you will just want to get away from it all, and it might be a good thing where you can be in a frame of mind to celebrate your husband instead of just mourning him.

I think I agree with TSNCS.

But then, you have young children for whom time passes more slowly, so I would definitely follow their lead if you can.

 

[disneybridetobe]

My sincerest condolences go out to you and your family.

 

[adsrtw]

You have my deepest sympathy for your loss. I pray that your family finds comfort and eventually healing. I hope that you are able to feed from the strength of this large group of cyber friends.

As far as advice goes, I think it is too soon for you to make a decision.

 

[twins4mimi]

I am so sorry. you will be in my thoughts and prayers!!!

 

[jenrein]

I am so sorry for your loss I too agree with the group, I think the trip would help, but maybe back it up a couple of weeks. I am sure he would want you to go too. My thoughts will be with you. Going to give everyone one more hug and kiss goodnight