HELP... MIL issues

[kdibattista]

Have you ever gotten so completely fed up that you and your DH/DW have cut off ties completely with an inlaw?

My inlaws are psycho and I am not kidding - crazy, unstable people. You would not even believe half of it. Well now DH and I want to start a family. DH and I don't want these people to have anything to do with our children. The problem is they live 10 minutes away!!??!! It has gotten so bad that DH said last night that he wants to move and not give them our address. We barely speak to them as it is. I never do, he does when his mom calls every few months.

I really, really need advice.

Thanks!!

 

[ChiTownZee]

We haven't spoken with my husband's brother for over 5 years.

 

[Goofball]

If my DH had a brother, I'd swear you must be married to him! Your story sounds exactly like ours, except the part about starting a family, but I worry how that will work out when the time does come. A big part of our problem is these people tell their sob story of us cutting them off to people who have no idea how nuts they are and then, because of the relative smallness of the area where we live, things get back to us that they're telling people. It's completely maddening. I wish I had some advice to offer, but I really do sympathize.

 

[Serena]

no advice from me I'm afraid, except maybe to read GoofyPoster's joke for today.

I'll just bump this up.

 

[LuvTigger]

I can relate to your situation in some ways.

If you truly believe that the situation is unable to be resolved and your in-laws are unstable, I say move and don't give them the address. Without going into too much detail, I know someone who has some psychological issues and at one time was such a "pest" to their relatives, it almost seemed on the border of harassment. If you think your in-laws could potentially become like that, you don't need the stress, especially if children are in the picture.

However, the one thing to consider is how you will explain the situation to your children once they are old enough to understand and start asking questions about their grandparents.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I would consider moving VERY far away, probably clear across the country. That usually does the trick. Sorry & {{{hugs}}}

 

[amid chaos]

Distance has been the key to our relationship with family....go, go faarrr away.

 

[CamColt]

My sister & BIL cut all ties with his family a few years back. They even moved and never told the family where they were moving to. They have since mended fences with his MIL, but the FIL moved across the country, remarried and started a new family. They have no contact with him. However they do know that my 36 yo BIL has baby brothers & sisters.

 

[kdibattista]

I just can't believe the way people behave and especially towards their own family. We have seriously considered moving away but my family also lives close and we are very close with them. I am just afraid of what will happen when we have kids

 

[Boo'sMom]

Send them to Snoopy's.....bahahahahaha..

Really..I can understand your agony..I have the same issues with my inlaws.

 

[scarlett873]

my inlaws are a bunch of nutcases too! well, my MIL is ok and one of my SIL is ok too, but the rest of my DH's immediate family is scary...we have zero contact with his dad, and i prefer to keep it that way. his brother helped to orchestrate our breakup way back the first time around (don't ask!) and his other sister is just a nutcase. his mom and one sister have our address and phone number but that's about it. we live at least 9 hours from some of his family (iowa) and the rest are in california...distance works for me!