Help!!! Is my vacation ruined?!

[Willow1213]

So, I have planned a wonderful romantic trip for my DBF and I. This will be our first ALONE! Well, today (1 week from my 45 day window might I add) my father decides that we're not allowed to go alone. WHAT?! Apparently at age 22 I'm not allowed to go on vacation unsupervised. But that's not the point here... How do I do this?

We have a standard room booked at Pop, 2 double beds, and we were only planning on using one. Now that my dad insists on going we will need 3 beds! My bf and I can't sleep in the same bed now and my dad needs his own. We will have to switch to a room only ressie (and lose out on free ph and WPF&M) just because he doesn't want tickets. What are my options here? I have literally run out of ideas. We had booked the longest vacation we could handle on our budget (which is very small) so this is a big hit. He will obviously help out with costs, but the only options I'm finding are deluxe or off property.

The options I've found so far are:
Doubletree $139/night (2 room suite w/ 2dbls and pullout)
Hilton $199/night (for deluxe room w/ pullout couch)
2 rooms at Pop (such a waste) $200/night
1 br DVC ~ $200/night but is there any availability?? Still technically not enough beds, but I would make it work
We stayed at the doubletree last time and I liked the room, but hated the amenities. The pool was bad and the buses took forever. Since my dad will not be going to the parks, he will have the car and we will only have their buses. I would almost rather not go and save up for next year than stay off property again. It's just not Disney enough... *sigh*

Questions I have for the boards:
Are the trundles at POR big enough for me to sleep on? I am only 5'2".
Is there such thing as a rollaway in a Mod? Cost?
Bunk beds at AKL or WL (way too far out of budget, but with AP rates it might work)
Do Swan/Dolphin have anything that would work for us? they're a little too expensive, but worth looking at

All the deluxes are way expensive and way out of my budget. Going from POP to POR is a big step even!

I am almost in tears. I had the perfect vacation planned and now

 

[starwarsdisney]

Do you still live at home?

 

[lilyv]

So, I have planned a wonderful romantic trip for my DBF and I. This will be our first ALONE! Well, today (1 week from my 45 day window might I add) my father decides that we're not allowed to go alone. WHAT?! Apparently at age 22 I'm not allowed to go on vacation unsupervised. But that's not the point here... How do I do this?

We have a standard room booked at Pop, 2 double beds, and we were only planning on using one. Now that my dad insists on going we will need 3 beds! My bf and I can't sleep in the same bed now and my dad needs his own. We will have to switch to a room only ressie (and lose out on free ph and WPF&M) just because he doesn't want tickets. What are my options here? I have literally run out of ideas. We had booked the longest vacation we could handle on our budget (which is very small) so this is a big hit. He will obviously help out with costs, but the only options I'm finding are deluxe or off property.

The options I've found so far are:
Doubletree $139/night (2 room suite w/ 2dbls and pullout)
Hilton $199/night (for deluxe room w/ pullout couch)
2 rooms at Pop (such a waste) $200/night
1 br DVC ~ $200/night but is there any availability?? Still technically not enough beds, but I would make it work
We stayed at the doubletree last time and I liked the room, but hated the amenities. The pool was bad and the buses took forever. Since my dad will not be going to the parks, he will have the car and we will only have their buses. I would almost rather not go and save up for next year than stay off property again. It's just not Disney enough... *sigh*

Questions I have for the boards:
Are the trundles at POR big enough for me to sleep on? I am only 5'2".
Is there such thing as a rollaway in a Mod? Cost?
Bunk beds at AKL or WL (way too far out of budget, but with AP rates it might work)
Do Swan/Dolphin have anything that would work for us? they're a little too expensive, but worth looking at

All the deluxes are way expensive and way out of my budget. Going from POP to POR is a big step even!

I am almost in tears. I had the perfect vacation planned and now

Do you live with your Dad? Have you had a frank talk with him about the fact that this is a vacation for you and your boyfriend? Is he paying for your vacation? What does your boyfriend say?

I can't imagine anyone wanting to share a room, at 22 years of age, with both her Dad and her boyfriend. Daddy needs to get a room.

However, if you must, I'd go with the Doubletree. You need space. The trundles at POR are for little children.

Last option...Is there an older adult you know well-Mom, Aunt, friend, who would be able to explain to Dad that sharing a room with a 22year old and her boyfriend is just really awkward?

I hope you're able to explain this to Dad. Good luck!!!

 

[HunnyPots]

If you are 22 years old, why is your father still making the rules? I don't see why he has any say in the matter unless he is paying for the trip. I have an almost 21 year old daughter and I don't think for a minute that she would stand for her dad or I telling her "no you can't do this or that" anymore. I wish I had that power!

 

[Willow1213]

I live at home, and will for another year or so. My parents are not conservative, and I am a VERY responsible 22 year old. I work full time and go to school full time at the #7 public university in the country (not to brag or anything ). Needless to say, I need the vacation.
I know why my dad did it, and that's not what I'm questioning. I just need to know how I can accommodate the extra guest. We travel almost every year as a family (with my boyfriend most of the time) so it is not weird for me to share a room with my dad. He is not paying for the whole trip (in fact, our entire package was already paid in full, TODAY actually) but he will help pay for the trip. He will drive (which is a plus!) and pay for gas and food on the way down. He's not going to the parks, so we have that to ourselves. He will help out with the room costs, we haven't really worked anything out yet.
I'm too afraid to tell my bf, he's gonna flip out

 

[MousekaMaddi]

sending u pixie dust

 

[lilyv]

Yes, and I will for another year or so. My parents are not conservative, and I am a VERY responsible 22 year old. I work full time and go to school full time at the #7 public university in the country (not to brag or anything ). Needless to say, I need the vacation. I know why my dad did it, and that's not what I'm questioning. I just need to know how I can accommodate the extra guest.

I am sorry you're going through this. My "kids" are 23 and 25 and I wouldn't have dreamed of joining them on a vacation, but that's another story.
Here's a positive tip-with the Doubletree, you'll have two rooms. If you check at mousesavers, http://www.mousesavers.com/dtguestsuites.html
look at the bottom of the page. They tell you how to book so you can get a free continental breakfast.
Onsite, two rooms are expensive. You're only other option might be the family suites. http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?p=22601432#post22601432&highlight=family+suites+

See post 4 she gives great info. Might be something to check into.

Finally, I do hope you have a wonderful visit. If you plan for a little breathing room, it might be better for all. have a wonderful vacation!!!

 

[Willow1213]

Do rollaway beds exist at disney resorts? We could afford a moderate (make Dad pay for the upgrade!) and get a rollway for a little more per night?

 

[WickedWench]

I find the situation so weird and backward! I would feel so awkward sharing a room with my BF and my dad. Travelling with a family is different that travelling just with a dad who won't even be there for the vacation. How does your BF feel about it? I know I wouldn't be able to enjoy it. Since you're obviously not willing to stand up to dad and tell him he's out of line, I would just cancel the whole trip and take it when a chaperone is not needed. Take a few short day trips with your BF instead to relax and go to disney another time.

 

[lilyv]

Do rollaway beds exist at disney resorts? We could afford a moderate (make Dad pay for the upgrade!) and get a rollway for a little more per night?

Willow I don't know. You could call Disney and ask, or hopefully someone might post. I do wish you well, both with your vacation and your studies.

 

[donaldseeyore]

I would tell DBF first if you haven't already. Then I would show dad how much you were saving by getting the free upgrade to the PH and WP & more passes. Then I would explain to dad that everyone in the room has to have the same package and explain to him what his cost would be. Dad is insisting he goes, I wouldn't change your plans. Let him know that he will have to pay the extra adlt fee, the trundle bed fee and the cost of the tickets if he insists on going since your trip has been paid in full. Also, let him know that you may be charged an extra $50 for making changes and he would need to cover that as well since it isn't in your feesible budget. Let him know that if he doesn't use his park tickets that he has to get so you don't lose out on a great deal, that they can be saved for future use by you or another family member or he can sell them on craigslist or to someone you know that may need them in the future. I seriously would not change everything and lose what you got a great deal on since he waited so late into the game to say something. I would just call and have him added on with your existing package and have him pay the difference. Be sure to show him how mucj you saved and how stupid it would be to do otherwise.

 

[lmhall2000]

I think this is a dilemma for the Cast Members! (Cue here a picture of Wonder CM in a Disney cape flying through the air)

Here's what I would do, call reservations...tell them your dilemma (let them get over the shock of your Dad telling you what to do at 22....I am not at all in shock, it's something I could see my parents thinking about but they'd never actually "do" it) beg, yes, I mean beg for some kind of code (who knows you may already have one attached to your name!) for a Deluxe room....if you stayed at YC/BC, Poly, or even CR (garden/wing rooms at these are cheapest Deluxe) you could have the Daybed option which is very comfortable for your BF....It's worth a shot and since you've already paid in full....you can easily figure out what the upgrade would be (also check on your Dad's name for a code..never hurts!)...talk to your Dad and explain the dilemma and room accomodations and that you really want to stay onsite...he may swing the extra$$ to make this work. You can always find deals on Priceline or others for offsite hotels to get a 2 BR but onsite is so much easier on the park goer!

Good luck!!
Tara

 

[sarcasticblonde]

This is just crazy. You seem to be accepting of the fact that your father has completely screwed you over so I will let that go.

If I were you, I'd cancel the trip. WDW is magical, yes we know, but 2's a company, 3's a crowd. Granted, my parents and I are very respectful of each other and I'm very responsible, but if I were in your shoes, I would tell my dad I was canceling because of him. Lay on the guilt trip. He is being ridiculous.

 

[aubriee]

This is just crazy. You seem to be accepting of the fact that your father has completely screwed you over so I will let that go.

If I were you, I'd cancel the trip. WDW is magical, yes we know, but 2's a company, 3's a crowd. Granted, my parents and I are very respectful of each other and I'm very responsible, but if I were in your shoes, I would tell my dad I was canceling because of him. Lay on the guilt trip. He is being ridiculous.

I agree 100%. I wouldn't dream of telling my adult kids what they could and could not do. I respect them too much to even think about it and even though I know they respect me, I also know they would look at me like I had two heads if I even attempted to tell them what to do. You are 22 y/o, not 2 y/o. Stand up to your dad. I can't see your boyfriend putting up with this. If you can't stand up to your dad, for whatever reason, then I'd just cancel the trip. I can't see your boyfriend being comfortable staying in a room with you and your dad. It may cause problems (arguments) for you guys down there.

 

[hammie59]

I would tell DBF first if you haven't already. Then I would show dad how much you were saving by getting the free upgrade to the PH and WP & more passes. Then I would explain to dad that everyone in the room has to have the same package and explain to him what his cost would be. Dad is insisting he goes, I wouldn't change your plans. Let him know that he will have to pay the extra adlt fee, the trundle bed fee and the cost of the tickets if he insists on going since your trip has been paid in full. Also, let him know that you may be charged an extra $50 for making changes and he would need to cover that as well since it isn't in your feesible budget. Let him know that if he doesn't use his park tickets that he has to get so you don't lose out on a great deal, that they can be saved for future use by you or another family member or he can sell them on craigslist or to someone you know that may need them in the future. I seriously would not change everything and lose what you got a great deal on since he waited so late into the game to say something. I would just call and have him added on with your existing package and have him pay the difference. Be sure to show him how mucj you saved and how stupid it would be to do otherwise.

I find the situation so weird and backward! I would feel so awkward sharing a room with my BF and my dad. Travelling with a family is different that travelling just with a dad who won't even be there for the vacation. How does your BF feel about it? I know I wouldn't be able to enjoy it. Since you're obviously not willing to stand up to dad and tell him he's out of line, I would just cancel the whole trip and take it when a chaperone is not needed. Take a few short day trips with your BF instead to relax and go to disney another time.

I agree with both of these. I remember way back many years ago, I also took a disney vacation with then boyfriend (now husband) at the ripe old age of 23. Like you, I was going to school full time, working, and paying for all my own bills, including the trip. My mother, who was very strict, didn't give me any trouble. Heck, she drove us to the airport. Good luck!

 

[stemikger]

You said your parents aren't conservative, but too me it sounds like they are. Unless your dad has reason to believe you will be in danger, he needs to let you go and be an adult.

I'm a father of a 13 year old and when my daughter reaches 22 (even if she is still at home) I would let her go alone. I wouldn't even think of joining them unless they wanted me to.

Forgive me for dissing your dad a little, but it seems a little creepy too me. He has to let his little girl be an adult now.

Now, I don't know your story and sorry for not giving you the advice you asked for, but instead of accomodating your dad, have a talk with him and tell him what you just told the board.

Good Luck.

 

[JPN4265]

I live at home, and will for another year or so. My parents are not conservative, and I am a VERY responsible 22 year old. I work full time and go to school full time at the #7 public university in the country (not to brag or anything ). Needless to say, I need the vacation.
I know why my dad did it, and that's not what I'm questioning. I just need to know how I can accommodate the extra guest. We travel almost every year as a family (with my boyfriend most of the time) so it is not weird for me to share a room with my dad. He is not paying for the whole trip (in fact, our entire package was already paid in full, TODAY actually) but he will help pay for the trip. He will drive (which is a plus!) and pay for gas and food on the way down. He's not going to the parks, so we have that to ourselves. He will help out with the room costs, we haven't really worked anything out yet.
I'm too afraid to tell my bf, he's gonna flip out

You might as well go and cancel the trip. When your bF finds out the new plans, he is going to be looking for a new gf.

 

[kaytieeldr]

I know why my dad did it, and that's not what I'm questioning. I just need to know how I can accommodate the extra guest.

You can't. If your dad insists on going, and ESPECIALLY since he refuses to participate in the package you booked, he needs/gets his OWN room. Period.

 

[Esmerelda]

Forgive me...but I can't imagine how "unmagical" this trip will be with your dad in the room I can't imagine your BF being too thrilled with this idea? Maybe its time to have a heart to heart with dad and make him understand you are not 13 anymore...you are an adult. (just my 2cents worth)

Now to answer your question: yes, at PO there are trundle beds that would accommodate 3...then there are deluxes...they have daybeds...or bunkbeds (this would be even worse to me...). My suggestion; stay where you are at and tell dear old dad that you will get him his "OWN" room because three in the room is a 'crowd'. Please understand, I came from very strict parents growing up also...but once I was an adult...I made my own decisions.

best of luck to you....let us know how all of this turns out....

 

[dmslush]

Why not have your dad book a separate room at pop, room only? Then if YOU CHOOSE to go along with him busting up your trip, you and BF keep the dining plan, but have him sleep in the extra room.