having problem with grown man calling 10yr dd

[Wishing on a star]

Simply change the number. My sister got a new phone and evidently the last guy to have it was a drug dealer because she got some mighty interesting calls the first few days. She called the police and they didn't care and just told her to change it. The phone company didn't care and did so without a fee.

Entirely different situation!!!

In this case, why would the police trace the calls unless there was a crime being committed??? It is not a crime to dial a phone number that is now issued to somebody else.

In this case, there is a crime being committed. There is an adult making harassing calls to a child. (and then hanging up on the father) There is no way that this is simply a wrong number. Not even a possibility... This is harassment.. And this is possibly an adult sexual predator harassing a young child.

That is illegal and warrants immediate action.

In theory, the police could maintain this number.. have an undercover female officer impersonate a young girl, and then lure this creep into a meeting. This is what sexual predator units do. Especially with all the online solicitation going on that endangers our children.

OP, do not speak to this caller again.

I hope you will report this immediately, and get your daughter a new phone number effective immediately.

 

[DrCavin]

Next time ask him if he knows what a Pinata is because he will be one if he calls again

 

[sha_lyn]

The police can't do anything once the number is disconnected. Right now, it's the OP's word against his. They do not currently have proof he's done anything, or has intentions of doing something. The police actually have to listen and monitor a call from him and document how often he calls. That's why you need a police undercover cop (who sounds like a young girl,) to answer the call & ask this man why he keeps calling.

ITA.... also a previous poster sugested going ahead and getting her a different phone/number but not shutting off the current one. ITA.
Also you can check with your cell phone provider and find out if they have a phone designed for children. I know there are some that can be programed to only accept and/or make calls from list of numbers

 

[mommytoe]

Thank you all for your replays. I have talked to dd about this. To be safe she is no longer to go anyplace with out having a group with her.

When dh gets home tonight he is calling Alltel to see what they say. We will decide from their on what to do.

I will be warning the youth leaders at church to make sure dd is always safe with them.

 

[Amlee]

I would call the phone company and explain to them what is going on. See if they have any ideas on how to catch this sicko. Because if he is willing to do this to your daughter, he might be after other people daughter also.

Next time he calls, see if you can hit send to call him back. That might make the number show up on your detail billing information. Then go after the sicko.

If that doesn't work, have the number changed.

 

[tinker&belle]

OP, I have read the thread and it is VERY scary.

I would take down the picture of your daughter too, just to be extra safe, if it were me.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Thank you all for your replays. I have talked to dd about this. To be safe she is no longer to go anyplace with out having a group with her.

When dh gets home tonight he is calling Alltel to see what they say. We will decide from their on what to do.

I will be warning the youth leaders at church to make sure dd is always safe with them.

Did this man say anything weird? Not that it matters because he shouldn't be calling and I would be mad too but I would change her phone number. You could contact the police but it just seems like maybe there is a language barrier and he thinks your dd is someone else? I hope it all works out.
BTW- not to sound like a flamer, but I would really think about maybe taking your child's picture and their names and birth dates out of your siggie. I'm just weird like that and think that's a lot of personal info. Good luck!

 

[Anewman]

Lets hope that there is just a communication issue and not a stalking/predator type issue.

I would still change the number.

 

[Amlee]

For all you know, OP, this may may have seen your DD and is watching her. He may have gotten the number from someone at church, off a contact sheet. he may be closer to DD than you realise. Disconnecting the number will drive him underground. The faster the police figure out who he is, (harmless or bad,) the better for all involved.

When I was 16 the guy that started calling me, saw me at a local restaurant. He then started following me until he found out my name and where I lived. He would call and tell me he couldn't wait to see me in that outfit that I had bought at Wal-mart. Or tell me about things that he saw me do at school.

At that point all we had was a number and a voice. I had no clue as to who this guy was. He finally made himself known to us. At that time there wasn't any stalking laws in my state. When he was confronted by my parents and they told him he would be arrested. He told them he would spend less than a few hours in jail and the first thing he would do when he got out was to blow my head off. The police said they couldn't do anything on the threat until after he had committed the crime.

He once followed me to my car after a football game. He was every where. At school, at church, peeping in my windows.

My family put the word out to others about what he was doing. Parents got to talking and he was doing the same thing to other girls and grown women. That is how we found out who he was. He called a women who recognized his voice.

The men in the community got together and ran him out.

 

[mommytoe]

OP, I have read the thread and it is VERY scary.

I would take down the picture of your daughter too, just to be extra safe, if it were me.

Thank you for thinking of that. I have taken her pic off my sig and I took off the avatar, because it had the family on it.

 

[luvmy3]

Entirely different situation!!!

In this case, why would the police trace the calls unless there was a crime being committed??? It is not a crime to dial a phone number that is now issued to somebody else.

In this case, there is a crime being committed. There is an adult making harassing calls to a child. (and then hanging up on the father) There is no way that this is simply a wrong number. Not even a possibility... This is harassment.. And this is possibly an adult sexual predator harassing a young child.

That is illegal and warrants immediate action.

In theory, the police could maintain this number.. have an undercover female officer impersonate a young girl, and then lure this creep into a meeting. This is what sexual predator units do. Especially with all the online solicitation going on that endangers our children.

OP, do not speak to this caller again.

I hope you will report this immediately, and get your daughter a new phone number effective immediately.

Honestly, you do not know that. It really could be a wrong number situation, they recycle cell phone numbers all the time. It doesn't mean he is harrassing her. Him hanging up on the father doesn't mean that either, there could be another explanation for that. I still think the OP should take every precaution just to be on the safe side.
It is a scary situation and I would definitely contact the cell provider. They will have a record of what calls come in.
OP you should answer the phone and tell him that you are not the person, ask him for a the name of who he is trying to reach, then explain to him that this is no longer that persons number, that they now have a different number. I would not mention your dd to him at all. I think you should get your dd a cheap tracfone for now so that she has one to use, and you can keep the other number. If he keeps calling after you explain to him that the person he is trying to reach no longer has the number, contact the authorities.

 

[sha_lyn]

The OP has stated that he is now asking for the DDs name after he has been told to stop calling. Sounds like a lot more than just a harmless wrong number.

 

[luvmy3]

The OP has stated that he is now asking for the DDs name after he has been told to stop calling. Sounds like a lot more than just a harmless wrong number.

I must have missed the post where she has said he called back after he was told to stop.

Okay, I re-read and the only thing I can find is in the first post. The OP states that he had called multiple times and spoke Spanish to her dd, hung up on the dad, and then she spoke to him. Has he called back since the OP talked to him?

 

[sha_lyn]

Maybe I am reading more into the last sentence of the OP

He has been told not to call. I was very nice, but would not answer his questions about my dd or let him talk to her.

But IMHO I take that to mean he has continued to call after being told to not call or that he has the wrong number etc.

 

[JodyLynC]

Definitely involve the police. They now have ways of dealing with possible child predators.

Before doing so, write up every conversation to the best of your recollection. Try to include dates and times if possible. The more information you have, the more they will have to work with.

As a PP stated, once the police have the information and your cell phone number, they can take over that number and set up a sting.

 

[luvmy3]

Maybe I am reading more into the last sentence of the OP



But IMHO I take that to mean he has continued to call after being told to not call or that he has the wrong number etc.

I was taking it as she had told him not to call, but was nice about it and didn't disclose any info about her dd or let him talk to her, in that same conversation

 

[Missy1961]

And maybe he doesn't understand what they are saying, and he is calling back trying to figure out whose number it is.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Okay, I am gonna risk some points here...

It is NOT his freakin' business who's phone number it is.

If he called once or twice, and did not reach the party he was trying to call, he would obviously know that he must not have the correct number.

He has called a young girl SEVERAL times a day... That is harassment.
He has hung up when an adult male answered..
He has pressed the well meaning but misguided 'polite' mother for more info.

The writing is on the wall here.

My daughter would not have that phone in her hands.
I would get a new phone or number, and alert law enforcement (there is a phone harassment division.. the local keystone cops may not be the place to go) and they can issue a court order that is necessary for the cell provider to forward all information and to trace and tap that number.

 

[sha_lyn]

Okay, I am gonna risk some points here...

It is NOT his freakin' business who's phone number it is.

If he called once or twice, and did not reach the party he was trying to call, he would obviously know that he must not have the correct number.

He has called a young girl SEVERAL times a day... That is harassment.
He has hung up when an adult male answered..
He has pressed the well meaning but misguided 'polite' mother for more info.

The writing is on the wall here.

My daughter would not have that phone in her hands.
I would get a new phone or number, and alert law enforcement (there is a phone harassment division.. the local keystone cops may not be the place to go) and they can issue a court order that is necessary for the cell provider to forward all information and to trace and tap that number.

ITA

 

[lovemygoofy]

What kind of controls are on the phone? I know that some kids phones have the capability to block all phone numbers besdies specific ones and also have built in GPS in the phones. Maybe ask your wilress company about the controls on the phone or the capability to switch to another phone/plan with such options.