Have you spent any/or many nights away from your Spouse?

[Disneycrazy!!]

yep...my husband lives in another state, while working...and i stay home with the kids.

 

[Binnie]

Count me amongst the military spouses who have spent a heck of a lot of time sleeping away from their spouse.

We've been married 9 years, and of that, he's been at home for maybe 1/2 of that time--if I'm lucky.

Of course I've banished him to sleep in the guest room many times, too. He's a horrible snorer!

 

[Hazzard101]

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Posted under my DH's name.

 

[HsvTeacher]

My DH used to travel for work, and he would be gone for about a week at a time. He also goes on guy trips (hunting in Mexico, fishing in Alaska) with his dad. I love that they are able to spend time together, so it doesn't bother me.

 

[Disney Doll]

We've been apart a few times for work-related conferences.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Pretty much all for work. Several Field assignments (like TDY's, but he got to come home once a month and we could feasibly visit) and now a new job due to a layoff so he's not here.

It stinks, but we are blessed that it is not due to the military and aside from my freaking out if there is an ice storm, his job won't put him in harms way.

 

[ilovejack02]

Hubby works shift work, it includes nights. Ds7 and I visit his family and my family out of state every year. Usually gone about 2 weeks total, the first cpl of days is a nice break, but after that I start to really miss him.. but I like to visit the family without him so we don't have to use all his vacation doing this.

He hunts and fishes so he is off the the camp prob three times a year for a long weekend with the guys. Other times he takes me.
He also has traveled for business, but not often.

I take time to go places with the girls also .


Funny thing is several of you all have mentioned that the only time spent apart was for a hospital stay giving birth or otherwise. He has never left me alone in the hospital .
I spent 4 nights this spring and tried to get him to go home, he wouldn't even consider it .

 

[Judy from Boise]

Honestly I find the thought of never having been apart horrifying . Holy claustrophobia Batman!

I guess we average about 3 weeks a year.

 

[Ember]

A week after returning from our honeymoon, my husband was accepted for his PhD in Montreal. I couldn't go with him, but it was an amazing opportunity with a prestigious researcher in his field. We spent the first two years of our marriage living across the country from one another. We tried to bring him home ever 6 weeks or so, but it was hard, particularly as we had just gotten married.

He is home now after cutting his PhD short (at least the time he was in Montreal) to be with me as I care for my mum during the end stage of cancer. He came home the day we found out.

EDIT: In the 10 years before we got married, we did spend time apart, too. I went to Europe for a month with a girl friend, and he's gone to several scientific conferences. Even after life settles down, I'll continue to have a life outside my marriage. I think it's healthy!

 

[MomofKatie]

DH spends 2 or 3 nights away from home every week for his job and has for the last 14 years or so.

We go on 2-3 day trips to see my family without him a lot- he usually has to work when we can get away (and sometimes he just wants to stay home and avoid the IL drama ). The only other vacations we take separately are when DD and I go to WDW without him. He isn't a big Disney fan, and DD and I could go 2 or 3 times a year if we could.

When I was pregnant with DD, DH got transferred to another state. We lived apart for 3 months until I finished work at my job and our house sold. That was tough, being 5 to 8 months pregnant without DH around to feel the baby kick or come along to the OB appointments.

 

[jsmith]

im in the years not days or months group-between deployments and TDYS i dont even want to think about how much time we have spent sleeping apart in 26 years. I keep hoping this deployment will be the last one.

 

[dismom2]

Yes, for work and vacations.

 

[Stephanie218]

We've been apart about half our marriage already...and I just found out yesterday he'll be gone for most of 2010 as well. It's been a rough few days.

 

[Momof2princess]

Yes, quite a lot. My DH is a commercial pilot so he is gone for way over half the month.

 

[Danauk]

I voted a few. As DH and I are teachers we have to take out classes away on over night field trips each year, so we will spend maybe a week and a half apart over the year.

 

[GJM]

We also have spent a year apart. DH just came back from a year deployment. I can't even think of how much time total in our marriage, with him going TDY, I sure it adds up to more then another year!

 

[emma'smom]

I take business trips a few times a year. DH travels for work....usually 2-3 nights a month. In the summer, I take my dd's up to our cottage for a month. DH doesn't have summers off---so he stays home.

 

[englishteacha]

This past summer, I took classes for grad school and stayed near campus a total of 9 nights. That was tough. I got a bit homesick, which has never happened before! Until then we'd spent a few days/nights apart but not many in a row.

We also volunteer together at a summer camp, and when we're counselors we are in separate cabins. We get to see each other during the day, though, so I don't consider that being "away." Conveniently, this summer my DH is volunteering an extra week at camp while I'm in class, so it will minimize the time apart we have. That makes me happy, but he won't have access to phones or internet so I can't call him or chat with him online from school.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

We've been apart about half our marriage already...and I just found out yesterday he'll be gone for most of 2010 as well. It's been a rough few days.

But I must say--I LOVE your wedding pic in your signature!

 

[MIGrandma]

DH travels for work a few times each year, so I'm home alone then.

I've done a cruise with my Mom, and a Disney vacation with her too.

I rented a cabin up north once for two weeks a few summers ago, my parents rented the one right beside it, and DH came up for the long weekend in the middle.

My parents used to rent cabins up north a lot and I would go up and spend a few nights with them.

I even used to spend 2-3 nights every summer with my grandparents at their cottage.

And now that we have our own place up north, I go there sometimes when DH can't.