Have you spent any/or many nights away from your Spouse?

[phorsenuf]

Lets see. Black Friday of 2008 my husband moved to Florida for a new job. We are still in NH. So yeah, we've been apart.
This is nothing new for us though (well, maybe this length). He's always had to travel for his job so it wouldn't be unusual for him to leave on a Monday morning and come home Friday night. Other times he's been gone for months at a time.
This one is definitely the longest though.

I have taken a few girls only trips too.

Maybe that's the success to our 26 year marriage. We don't have to live with each other every day.

 

[Planogirl]

Dh has traveled a lot for his job. I have also made trips without him over the years. He doesn't like WDW so he hasn't come with us very often.

 

[BYC]

We have been together over 30 years. Our secret is separate vacations. He adores fishing. I hate it. I love to go to dog shows. They bore him. So, he goes fishing, I go to dog shows, and we are a happily married couple!

 

[momrek06]

We have lived apart for much of our 29 years of marriage.

My DH is a railroad (high speed as well as light rail) design/construction (civil) engineer. He has designed and built rail in MI, Maine, Ohio, CT, NJ, MA, NY, and now we are in CA. I lived in our MA home with our DS' while he built rail in the Maine, NY/NJ, MA, CT locations. He would commute home on weekends from time to time. We lived in Ohio when he built the MI & Ohio rail lines and now we are in CA until at least 2012.

 

[Karalea]

DH travels extensively for work and has for most of the last 9 years. He is gone 2-3 nights each week.

 

[krcit]

I chose other because 'not enough' wasn't an option

 

[samshane]

2009 has been particularly bad... he was gone for about 2 months, then returned and has been gone over 6 months now (he's in the Navy). But - we'll get to see him next month! WooHoo!

So - being military - yes, many is what I voted!

 

[SleepyMom]

For us, that is how we met and started dating... he was in another state, and so we only saw each other on weekends. Once we got married and lived in the same place he still had to travel (a lot) so we mostly saw each other only on weekends for the first several years we were married. He is at the same job, but doesn't travel as much anymore, maybe 25% of the time. He goes on 60 day details once a year or so, but thankfully can get home most weeknds (sometimes every other).

I have made many trips to see family without him, sometimes I go when he is gone anyways, instead of staying home alone. He travels with his bowling buddies once a year for about a week at a time and I have made 2 trips to Disney without him and am planning the 3rd right now.

We will celebrate our 19th anniversary in a couple of weeks, so even though it is not perfect, it has worked for us.

ETA: I forgot about the 6 weeks I spent in the hospital while pregnant with DD (now 15) and the handful of overnight stays in the hospital here and there for both of us.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Let's see...22 days (total) in the hospital, a weekend visiting family and then about a month and a half (total) of business trips. Not much in over 17 years!

 

[rparmfamily]

Many, years actually. We've done 6 deployments (6-8 mo each) plus all the training time, which amounts to years as well.

 

[pilotwife_02]

DH travels for work M-F. I call him my 48-hour husband.

When it starts to get to me, I think about military spouses and that turns me right back around. My DH may be gone, but his biggest worry is a bad hotel or delayed flight. I'll count my blessings.

This is us too! DH is a pilot and is usually gone 3-4 nights a week, sometimes less. We joke on our anniversaries that we need to cut them in half since it seems like we have only been together 1/2 the time.

But I am the same way about getting discouraged when he's gone so much and things happen (something breaks in the house or I need a break from the kids for a few minutes and can't get - like to shower)...that there are people out there separated from their spouses for months so it's not that bad. I just don't tell my DH that or he'll "use it against me" when I vent to him

 

[dislaney]

We sometimes take separate vacations or I will go with kids without him. Don't worry we also go together too!

 

[blanq]

I spend at least 7 nights a month away from my DH as he is a shift worker and does work overnights. When DH was in the military, early in our marriage, we would spend up to a month apart if he was training in Panama or something. We spent our first four months of marriage apart as he was stationed in CA and I was finishing my college degree in WI. So, I answered, yes...I spend quite a few nights away from my spouse.

 

[clovergirl5]

about 3 weeks through our marriage. He went on a week vacation fishing and a week hunting and I went for a week with my parents to Florida.

 

[disney1990]

I wish your categories has numbers. Like how many is "Yes, not many though". This is the category that I picked. Over the course of the 26 years that we have been married, we have probably been apart about 25 days total -- an average of less than 1 a year.

I remember when Linda McCartney there was an article about Paul & Linda McCartney.
"The only 11 days we ever did not spend the night together," Paul told PEOPLE in 1993, "was when I got put in jail in Japan for pot. That's quite amazing." Says their close friend, stained-glass artist Brian Clarke: "Paul and Linda were like teenage lovers, holding hands, giggling. They were fascinated with one another."

 

[Louiepipbgeeco]

My husband is a fulltime professional Firefighter. So, yes we have spent many nights apart. Several every month.

 

[3boymthr]

He gets more vacation than me so he takes that extra week and takes the kids off somewhere. Plus two or three times a year he goes camping for a weekend with Oldest DS and the rest of his boy scout troop. Once every couple of years he'll have to travel for a conference for work.

 

[ElizK]

He camps, and I prefer not to, plus he visits his mom out of town several times a year. I did a week in Germany back in March with our girls, but it's usually him going somewhere and me staying home. We've been married 21 years.

 

[Meriweather]

Many, many over 35 years of marriage.
He travels for work, sometimes 3 weeks at a time.
I travel for fun without him Either with girlfriends or to see our kids.

 

[BelleWDW]

This year 3 days-I went to NYC

In years past 2 or 3 days each year-him hunting every year