Have you spent any/or many nights away from your Spouse?

[tink_lover]

I cover a large midwest territory that includes many states, so I am gone for work. Lucky for me dh is great and can hold down the fort while I'm gone.

 

[MichelleVW]

Honestly I find the thought of never having been apart horrifying . Holy claustrophobia Batman!

I guess we average about 3 weeks a year.

I agree....I adore my husband, but sometimes it's nice to be alone.

I was military living in NC when I met DH who lived in Texas...we were actually married for almost 4 years before we lived together!! It was crazy, and hard to do, but when I would get discouraged I would think of the deployed people that never got to see their spouse and I would see him at least once a month.

Thankfully I am now retired and we have lived in the same house for over a year and it's been awesome!! But even now that we live together finally, I've gone to Disney without him once, my mom's once, and to NC to visit friends.

 

[Lovely2CU]

What does TDY stand for?

We also have spent a year apart. DH just came back from a year deployment. I can't even think of how much time total in our marriage, with him going TDY, I sure it adds up to more then another year!

 

[MiniGirl]

What does TDY stand for?

Temporary Duty

Add me to the list of pilot wives. LOL!!! I also used to be a f/a, so many, many nights away from each other. I will often take a trip with our girls and try to do that on days when dh is at work. It doesn't always work out that way though, so we are away from him on those nights as well.

Now, if you were to ask if I'd ever been away from my kids, I;s answer very little. Just when I was in the hospital giving birth to the second one and 1 night away at a hotel for a race at WDW.

 

[lynxstch]

We will have been married 10 years next Sept..and the first time we EVER were apart..was when he was in the hospital last April..for 3 nites..that was the first (and hopefully last) time!

 

[DISNEY1975]

Only if me falling asleep downstairs on the couch while he's upstairs in bed counts....then yes, many times!!

 

[THE HAT]

In January we will be married 16 years, and together for over 17 and we have NEVER spent the night apart since we moved in together in June of '93. We also have never gone to bed without each other. To each their own....I say whatever works for your marriage is what is right...........=)

 

[Sleepy]

I am married to a career navy guy (24 years). He was always stationed on an aircraft carrier that was never home. We learned to live seperate lives. Since retirement, he is home everyday. I don't think he is happy with the adjustment of having to share or participate in real life and the problems associated. I miss the alone time. I suppose being apart too much can be a bad thing.

 

[rparmfamily]

I am married to a career navy guy (24 years). He was always stationed on an aircraft carrier that was never home. We learned to live seperate lives. Since retirement, he is home everyday. I don't think he is happy with the adjustment of having to share or participate in real life and the problems associated. I miss the alone time. I suppose being apart too much can be a bad thing.

DH is heading to his last command in a few months. He's been home most of this year due to equipment issues (was supposed to be gone nearly all year) and the bolded part my DH has a hard time with too. He's just too used to me taking care of everything, and lord knows I just want a break from doing it all! I've been trying to get him to get more involved in his OWN life details (like registering the car, paying his speeding ticket LOL) but he's so used to me just taking care of everything while he does his Navy thing.

Good luck to you! Retirement is around the corner for us, so I worry about the adjustment too!

 

[Micca]

Longest was when, for career reasons, we lived in separate cities for two years. We saw each other several times, but it was rough. OTOH, compared to those who are in the military at least we weren't living in life threatening situations. I don't know how they do it.

 

[Becky2005]

Plenty of times....

I have gone on vacation with the kids without DH.

The most recent event was our oldest DD had surgery & I never left the hospital. Not only did DH stay here & work -- my mom came over and spent the night to get the kids to school because DH had to leave before they had to go to school. It was a feat in coordination.

I have an upcoming Cub Scout sleep-over event that it will be me and the 2 older boys while DH stays home with the oldest & youngest.

Then this summer my niece is getting married -- we are all going out to her wedding, except DH is staying home and working.

 

[ginna74]

we have been married for 14 years now and he is in the military. Been alone a lot lately and he will be leaving again very shortly for a depoyment

 

[GaSleepingBeautyFan]

We are apart around 3 weeks a year usually.

DH has an internet business besides his full time job and travels for that, plus I have started doing a solo 4 or 5 days a year trip.