Have you noticed the attitudes

[grinningghost]

I must be one who either subconsciously ignores mean people, or else I'm just oblivious. I haven't noticed the tension, or maybe I'm just not reading the nasty threads. Sorry to those who were hurt along the way.

 

[Pongo69]

I don't know if it's too much pixie dust, hugs or what but for the life of me I DON'T SEE HOW A THREAD ASKING A SIMPLE QUESTION COULD TURN INTO SOMETHING SOO UGLY

 

[Winka]

Nastiness happens on most boards I think. I'm not a "regular" here but at some of the other bbs I frequent, there's often a long history of contention between old members that not all newer members are privy. It can be shocking...but you get used to who can't stand whom and you learn to just step back...and enjoy the fireworks.

 

[damo]

I see no difference from when I joined.

 

[Crankyshank]

I think if more people celebrated the holiday that fell on this past Sunday more often, the world and this board would be a better place.

I also think that some people get off on the conflict and the drama they stir up and others just love being martyred.

 

[IloveDMB]

Originally posted by Crankyshank
I think if more people celebrated the holiday that fell on this past Sunday more often, the world and this board would be a better place.

What holiday are you referring to? I looked through my planner to make sure I didn't miss something, but I couldn't find anything.

 

[Melora]

I can tell a thread is getting controversial just by looking at how many views it has..when the views start going out of proportion to the replies I know something is going on. I usually try to stay away from those.

I know the back button very very well! I cannot tell you how many times I have written a long reply and reread it and then hit the back button and continued on with my life. I realize it doesnt do any good to try to change anyones opinons because if someone is outspoken enough to be slamming someone they don't give a hoot as to what I think.

All I wish is that people would go by the Live and Let Live dictum. Unless someone is getting hurt just relax!

I think posting is like driving a car, it makes you feel like you can be rude just because you are not face to face with the person. So you can call them names, cut them off, be aggressive and it deosnt matter because somehow you are invincable behind either the keyboard or the steering wheel. (and you can log off or turn the corner and not see how upset someone is!)

 

[MosMom]

There are nasty people in "real" life so it would only make sense that some of those nasty people find their way onto the internet and the DIS. AND I'M ONE OF THEM!

 

[suzannen]

It has amazed me a few times how QUICKLY an innocent question suddenly turns into Internet Road Rage.

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

Originally posted by IloveDMB
What always gets me is how often a thread can turn nasty! When does asking a simple question make it optional for you to be insulted or your morality questioned? Sometimes makes me nervous to post a simple question.

That's too bad. I think a lot of people are made to feel that way. Nobody wants their posts disected word for word and then twisted and fed back to them out of context.

 

[Doesney]

Originally posted by Tea Please
One poster called on the carpet for not disclosing full names, date of birth and sex of her children. This post resulted in 2 other posters getting into a fight with threats and name calling

Well that would be me you are talking about. I still cannot get over some of the lenghths people went through to pubilcly try to humiliate me. The ridicule was totally inappropriate as far as I am concerned. I just do not feel comfortable providing too much info. I don't understand why that would hurt anyone In my posts I always referred to having 2 kids to get a feel for the situation. Does it matter that I did not post exact ages and names? My loyalties are to myself and my family first and foremost. I will provide details as I see fit. How many people here give out too much information; in my opinion too many. I do not need to know where you live, your kids names what your husband does or doesn't do for a living etc. I used the CB yesterday to bounce something off some people. I certainly wasn't expecting anyone to agree with me or give me their approval just some feedback. What happened next was totally provoked by one person. Then a few posters just wouldn't let it go. When I read it this morning, I couldn't believe the mayhem caused by my not disclosing by kids birth certificates on the internet.

Didin't mean to hijack this thread and I apologize but I needed to get it off my chest.

 

[helenabear]

Originally posted by mickeyfan1
Diane, I take great exception to this statement. This is a community board. In a community, friendships are formed based on common interests. The "Clique" threads are formed the same way. The "Angels" started when several of us were reminded over and over again that we were way off topic on the morning riddle, a lot. SO to keep the chatting down, we formed a new thread. We still have fun on the riddle, we just keep to the topic. THe "Humphrey's Home" was started for the same reason, too much personal chatting on the WL FAQ thread, so they moved the chat to the CB, and the FAQ is more about Q and A now. I have yet to feel unwelcome anywhere I have posted. I have popped in and read on most every thread on the CB. I have posted on many, too.

Yes, sometimes there are attitudes, but that is also human nature. What I see is that on many threads, a select few people seem to want to bait others into a fight, and if no one takes the bait, then they turn on someone and see if that leads to a fight.

I also think there are times when people are too nice, too much pixie dust and sugary sweetness makes for bad feelings, too.

The majority of the posts on the CB are nice, fun, and friendly.

Well said Marsha... you were able to put in words what I tried to but wasn't able to before (and decided not to post because of it)

Doesney, I read through the thread in question you are referring to and I think there is a small difference between not telling everything about yourself and telling conflicting information that make you either look like a liar or a troll. *DO NOT TAKE THIS AS AN ATTACK PLEASE!* Many would vouch for me and say that I am a nice, honest and real person so I have no ill feelings here. Just a word of advice, if you don't want to let us know about your life, don't stay you have 2 kids (boys) or my 2 sons, then go back and edit your post and say "oops slip up there" in the post as well as the new thread that was calling you out... simply say "My Children" You can also say "toddler" "preschool age" "elematary age" "preteen" or whatever if you don't want a specific age to be known. No one will judge you for that... but to change sexes and ages so often puts a level of distrust out there and makes it hard for people to take you seriously at all.

I don't mean to hijack this thread either or humilate you as well, but I know many don't take kindly to being played with, and testing the waters (as you say) made some feel like they were being played with or taken for a ride. I hope all that made sense.

 

[AirForceRocks]

Well said, helenabear. I don't think anyone should be expected to post all of the details about their family, but children that change sex, whose ages go up and down...yeah, that's going to raise red flags with many people.

 

[debster812]

Perfectly said Elaine. Nicely done.

I agree with many other posters, I don't notice the 'attitude' much more than normal. But since we are at the end of a long cold and snowy winter, there might be a bit of cabin fever playing into it, and people are a bit more edgy than normal.

This too shall pass........

 

[Tea Please]

Originally posted by AirForceRocks
Well said, helenabear. I don't think anyone should be expected to post all of the details about their family, but children that change sex, whose ages go up and down...yeah, that's going to raise red flags with many people.

That would raise with me as well. What I don't get is how people know this.
And does it really matter how old his/her kids are? It didn't seem to me that they were trying to get one over. Oh well, maybe I'm to naieve.

I am really glad to see I am not alone in my thinking. I'm a relative newbie and just starting to get involved, so maybe that is why I noticed it. From the looks of it, it is a common occurence. I guess just something I nver paid much attention to.

Thank you for not flaming me

 

[ByTheSea]

Originally posted by BedKnobbery2
What I've found really weird is after posting an opinion on one thread, where many people strongly disagreed with me (which is A-OK! I don't want, need, or expect everyone to agree with me!), some of those same people have popped up on other, unrelated threads I've posted on to make subtly smarmy remarks directed towards me. As though my single opinion on one topic was the sole and final judgement of who I am as a person/poster, and therefore made any comment I had on anything else ridiculous.

I see that all the time. And certainly if any poster ever changes an opinion or contradicts themself (ages of children etc) then they are sure to be subsequently subjected to "swarmy remarks" called names, sent nasty PM's from people they dont even know.
I see it almost every time I check the DIS and I have tried hard to ignore it for a long time, but frankly, maybe if more who find this behavior offensive said something??? Maybe that would just make it worse... who knows. Personally, I can't grasp the idea of searching past posts of any poster to find a contradiction to be able to jump on... wouldn't it be nice if more people put that level of energy into being nice to other posters?

 

[katerkat]

I would just like to point out, with all this attitude on the CB, that over on the DB, we have a hugging thread.

 

[HappyMommy2]

I haven't noticed anything terribly unusual. The vast majority of threads (and posters) here are pleasant and fun; I just try to avoid the few yucky ones. Compared to another board I frequent, the CB is like---well---Disney!

I think the more you draw attention to the nastiness/grumpiness, the more noticeable it becomes. I tend to dislike the "Look how bad things are on the CB" or "Stop attacking me personally, please" threads as much as I dislike threads that started out nice but turned nasty. Guess that means I shouldn't be contributing to a thread like this! Oh well, just this once.

 

[Doesney]

Originally posted by helenabear
that make you either look like a liar or a troll.

I am neither a liar nor a troll. What I choose to disclose on a public bb is entirely up to me. I am sorry that it bithers you, but just please can you let it go.

Many would vouch for me and say I am a nice, honest and real person as well. But also one who does not wish to share every facet of her life here. I'm sure you can appreciate that sweetie.

 

[ScarlettO]

I agree, Doesney. Don't let out too much information about your kids. You never know what evil lurks on the internet.