Have you noticed the attitudes

[mickeyfan1]

Originally posted by Doesney
I am neither a liar nor a troll. What I choose to disclose on a public bb is entirely up to me. I am sorry that it bithers you, but just please can you let it go.

Many would vouch for me and say I am a nice, honest and real person as well. But also one who does not wish to share every facet of her life here. I'm sure you can appreciate that sweetie.

I am sure helenabear meant "you " in general not you specifically, however, now that you have laid all this out, there will be plenty of people who will search out every post you have made and may bring the conflicting ages and genders of your children, and other other thing that strikes them as odd up in either this or another post. I personally don't see you as a troll, and your explanation for not wanting to give personal info as the reason your children have aged and transgendered, well if that makes you feel ok, than good. I would have stuck with my kids, no age, no gender, that way it would never have come out.

 

[lilboo]

Originally posted by katerkat
I would just like to point out, with all this attitude on the CB, that over on the DB, we have a hugging thread.

So that's where all the lovin' is!

Doesney...I don't think helenabear meant to single you out specifically. I know it can feel that way especially when you're new-ish...

I'm not sure of the thread in question, but no one will dispute the need for privacy on the internet. They WILL however question a poster whose posts don't seem to correspond from thread to thread (again, not about you specifically, the DIS- as is probably the case with many bbs- does have a history of posters with questionable motives whose posts have conflicted.) People get suspicious when they see such patterns. Don't take this all too personally.

 

[helenabear]

Thank you Marsha... you helped clarify what I was trying to say.

Doesney, I never said you *were* any of that, but I said it *can* make you (collective, not specific "you") *LOOK* like you are... huge difference there. And I truly apologize if you felt I was being mean or attacking you. As you said yourself before though, you were rather newish to this so I was giving advice.

I admit, I have a very big problem with people who tell untruths, even if it is to hide things and be safe. I am like Marsha, and my advice is just that... it is advice and not attacking... but if you (and that is a collective "you" to all reading) want to not disclose, don't make up fabrications on the ages, sexes, locations, occupations, I would find a better way of giving gereralities without being specific.

I do not trust people on the internet as much as some would think, and I have learned how to protect myself from others due to that. None of what I have done though, would be change things about me... it gets too hard if you can't be your real self and have to try to remember what you've said in the past, and I know many won't trust me if I did do just that.

I'm getting off my soapbox now, but I just felt like you (and yes this is a direct "you" now, Doesney) were owed an explanation as to why others did not like all you had to say or do, and why they "attacked" you the way they did.

*edited for a half thought of a sentence*

 

[snoopy]

Doesney, I can vouch for Helenabear, she is a very gentle and kind person. I know she didn't mean to hurt your feelings or call you a troll. The scenario seems odd to me as well that you didn't want to differentiate between sons and daughters and/or ages, but you are certainly entitled to present any part of your life that you wish to divulge. It just may not be well received, I think that is all Helenabear was trying to say.

I never did get a chance to post on your thread in question, but I gotta say, I bet your daughter is stylin'! I never could resist Gymboree when my boys were little, its a good thing I didn't have girls or we might be in the poor house right about now.

As far as attitudes, I think I have been around long enough to definately say it comes and goes in cycles. To the newbies, please do stick around - this place is very community oriented most times. I have made some very dear friends on the DIS, ones I can't imagine my life without. I hope you stick around and realize those same benefits.

 

[Lewski709]

Originally posted by Doesney
I am neither a liar nor a troll. What I choose to disclose on a public bb is entirely up to me. I am sorry that it bithers you, but just please can you let it go.

Many would vouch for me and say I am a nice, honest and real person as well. But also one who does not wish to share every facet of her life here. I'm sure you can appreciate that sweetie.

I personally could care a less how old or what genders your kids are, but when you talk about things people can relate to, they also notice what user they are referencing.

Protection of the innocent is one thing, telling stories is another. That is why you are getting such a hard time, no one knows which portion is true or isn't.

I think your username protects you pretty well, not to mention the optional (OPTIONAL) info that you can post with it (ie. allow emails, locations, interests, other info in user profile).

Most of us come here for advice, comradery and friendship. I think all of those involve truth. If you are going to falsify information, it's difficult for anyone to relate with you or believe anything. I hardly see posting the sex and age as a threat. If they are, the people who post photos, real names like Dan Murphy, and real life stories which easily link to their neck of the woods are more likely to be preyed upon than you who lives on Main St, USA.

Oh, and it isn't sluething that people do to find the info out about your posts. It's just memory, again they relate to the "story" and hence remember the poster and details of the posts.

BTW, I am not attacking you...just trying to point things out that are considered odd.

 

[Doesney]

Thank you for understanding. It almost feels like a relief "coming clean". Do you think I will still be welcomed?

And Helenabear I too want to apologize, I did get a bit unerved.

Snoopy, Yes she looks adorable, (btw I did return about $100.00 worth just to assuage the guilt)

Lewski, I totally understand what you mean, however when I first started asking resort questions and such, I had no intention of staying. But like many of you found myself drawn here.

 

[Kimberle]

Originally posted by Doesney
Lewski, I totally understand what you mean, however when I first started asking resort questions and such, I had no intention of staying. But like many of you found myself drawn here.

It's like a drug, baby!!!!

 

[Lewski709]

Originally posted by Doesney
Lewski, I totally understand what you mean, however when I first started asking resort questions and such, I had no intention of staying. But like many of you found myself drawn here. [/B]

Coincedentally, I came upon the boards the same way you did and started at the RB's too. Now, I avoid them like the plague. They can be worse than the DB. Just some friendly advice. Stick around, it's addicting and fun.

 

[snoopy]

Do you think I will still be welcomed?

You certainly are as far as I am concerned. And a person who would not accept your heartfelt apology is probably not someone you want to associate with anyway.

Welcome to the CB and a fresh start, Doesney.

 

[Lewski709]

You are welcome to come by the Tagliarchy Mansion anytime. Maybe you'll like it there. Warning: we are

 

[Pete's Mom]

HUGGING ON THE DB?

FIGHTING ON THE CB?

Well, I am logging onto www.weather.com to see if HELL has frozen over too!

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

Pete'sMom!

but so true.

 

[Lewski709]

Oh and imagine, any user on both boards. Do you think maybe everyone should just stick to one or the other?
Just kidding.

 

[Planogirl]

I think that some people might be taking some of this a little bit too seriously. I suggest just ignoring the posts that bother you or wading in and giving as good as you get. Use the neat "ignore" feature for those really annoying posters.

Some people just come across as abrasive but probably don't usually mean to be. You can't see facial expressions so a lot of times people give the wrong impression IMO. That's not to say that there aren't creeps too but that's inevitable.

Doesney, I see nothing wrong with making up the ages of your kids; just be consistent!

 

[luv2nascar]

sometimes you just need a time out or a good spankin
now mind you some of us like a good spankin now and then

 

[Lanshark]

Nope.

We're singing Kumbayah over on the DB. Come and join us

I can feel the love....

 

[castlegazer]

Hey Doesney, come on home - I am supposed to the houseguest not the sole occupant.

You fit right in here, you started what has turned out to be quite a popular idea and has brought together a lot of people. These people are sweet and kind, there is very little harm I can see - AND DON'T YOU PEOPLE MAKE ME EAT MY WORDS - to providing sex and age of your children as long as you hide the rest of your info. I certainly will not be drawing a map to my house anytime soon. Heck, you never know who you will meet here. I tell you the truth I ran into my fourth grade friend here who I have not seen since fourth grade - I put two and two together with her posts about our childhood hometown - and voila, we now are renewed buds. Its a magical place.

Come on home.

 

[Tea Please]

This turned out to be a very nice thread. I'm feeling a renewed sense of comradery. I was starting to get too caught up in the bad which is far out weighed by the good people here on the dis

Thank you to all that posted. My faith is restored.

 

[Tea Please]

Originally posted by Lanshark
Nope.

We're singing Kumbayah over on the DB. Come and join us

I can feel the love....

I just wet my pants.. I know, I know TMI

 

[grinningghost]

Now that everyone is warm and fuzzy, shall we go and join the DB and sing Kumbayah, like lanshark suggested?