Have you ever gone to a function where you had to PAY for soda???

[malibuconlee]

I don't think we provided soda at our reception, I honestly don't remember. I believe we provided punch, beer, coffee, and tea. There was a cash bar for anything else you would want. It's pretty typical of how things are done where I'm from. Although soda is provided at many receptions as well.

 

[rotundofmordant]

Was there not water served at all? What is wrong with drinking water?

Upthread someone posted that the hall wanted $12 per person to serve soft drinks. For 120 people that is $1440 for person. At the usual markup of $2 per can of soda at these functions, that is six cans for a two-three hour event.

I don't know about you, but we would rather take that $1440 and spend it on our honeymoon.

We aren't soda or alcohol drinkers anyway and did not provide it at our wedding. We could care less what the people thought as we were the ones paying for it. We were just happy they were there to help celebrate our day. We did have water, tea and coffee though.

 

[mjkacmom]

Hahaha, AMEN, sister! I agree 100%!

Couldn't agree more! The whole thing is bizzare!

 

[Nana Annie]

wow, you have the time to do that?

About as much time as you have to start a whole 'nother thread on the subject of what is appropriate for parties.

 

[1PrincessMomma1]

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[lillygator]

About as much time as you have to start a whole 'nother thread on the subject of what is appropriate for parties.

starting a thread and researching someone's posts in a 10+ page thread are pretty different!! But you go ahead and think what you may!

 

[SeaSpray]

Was there not water served at all? What is wrong with drinking water?

Upthread someone posted that the hall wanted $12 per person to serve soft drinks. For 120 people that is $1440 for person. At the usual markup of $2 per can of soda at these functions, that is six cans for a two-three hour event.

I don't know about you, but we would rather take that $1440 and spend it on our honeymoon.

We aren't soda or alcohol drinkers anyway and did not provide it at our wedding. We could care less what the people thought as we were the ones paying for it. We were just happy they were there to help celebrate our day. We did have water, tea and coffee though.

That is correct; water was not SERVED at all. And I said this earlier; had there been pitchers of ice water on the table, that would've been GREAT. There would've been no need for DH and I to drink anything else. I didn't feel comfortable with the idea of trying to hunt down something cold to drink that didn't include paying cash for, and since DH did want a diet soda and was willing to run to the ATM, he did just that. Nobody even noticed his absence.

The reason I posted this thread in the first place is because I thought it was ridiculous that we were put in a situation where DH had to go get cash, in order for us to have a cold drink to wash our dinners down with. Nothing more, nothing less.

 

[rotundofmordant]

Bolding mine. That is very inconsiderate of you as a host. It shows very poor manners to treat invited guests in such a way.

Because we didn't serve soda or alcohol? Both of our fathers are/were alcoholics, we felt it our right paying for the wedding not to have gasoline at a fire.

We feel soda pop is completely unhealthy as are other foods, so we did not serve it. Some of the posts above have indicated that it was important to have a wedding that was just so because of whatever one else would think. It is not about THEM, IMHO. A wedding is about what the bride for the most part wants. You are of course entitled to your own opinion, but we disagree.

 

[SeaSpray]

Because we didn't serve soda or alcohol? Both of our fathers are/were alcoholics, we felt it our right paying for the wedding not to have gasoline at a fire.

We feel soda pop is completely unhealthy as are other foods, so we did not serve it. Some of the posts above have indicated that it was important to have a wedding that was just so because of whatever one else would think. It is not about THEM, IMHO. A wedding is about what the bride for the most part wants. You are of course entitled to your own opinion, but we disagree.

Not for nothing, but my MIL is an alcoholic and DH and I NEVER EVER order alcohol when we go out to dinner with them, and we never drink alcohol in front of them at our own home, and we won't even drink it in front of them if we're with them at an event or function. I think you had a valid reason to not want alcohol at your wedding.

I personally don't like soda, although DH will order a diet coke when we go out to eat. I would've appreciated a pitcher of ice water yesterday at the reception...that's all!

 

[1PrincessMomma1]

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[Stella3]

starting a thread and researching someone's posts in a 10+ page thread are pretty different!! But you go ahead and think what you may!

Oh yeah, reading and quoting what someone posted in a 10 page thread definitely elevates someone to "stalker status".....

 

[SeaSpray]

Hey everyone.... this thread has been definitely entertaining!

But it's also leading some people to be not nice...and I'm going to ask that it be locked. Whether the moderators lock it or not, is up to them, not me.

No matter what you wrote, thanks to everyone who posted here.

 

[stitchlilo]

Was there not water served at all? What is wrong with drinking water?

Upthread someone posted that the hall wanted $12 per person to serve soft drinks. For 120 people that is $1440 for person. At the usual markup of $2 per can of soda at these functions, that is six cans for a two-three hour event.

I don't know about you, but we would rather take that $1440 and spend it on our honeymoon.

We aren't soda or alcohol drinkers anyway and did not provide it at our wedding. We could care less what the people thought as we were the ones paying for it. We were just happy they were there to help celebrate our day. We did have water, tea and coffee though.

I have read the entire thread and the only post on the cost of soda was $2. Where did you get the $12 from.

Nice host/hostess - your honeymoon is more important than your guest's comfort.

 

[rotundofmordant]

We come from alcoholic familes too however when inviting people one should cater to them not yourself! Not punishing because your fathers can not control themselves. That is being a proper host/hostess.

So would you go to a Jewish wedding expecting pork ribs?

How about meat at a wedding between two vegetarians?

 

[Nana Annie]

Bolding mine. That is very inconsiderate of you as a host. It shows very poor manners to treat invited guests in such a way.

This is a joke, right? I missed the sarcasm smilie.

 

[mjkacmom]

For those of you who are okay with not serving soda at a party/reception, are you in areas that typically serve punch and tea? From these threads, the beverage choices of water/punch/tea/coffee seem like standard fare in some regions. Just want to let you know that in my area, it's rare for punch or tea to be offered, and coffee is just with dessert. Water and soda are what is usually offered.

 

[lillygator]

Oh yeah, reading and quoting what someone posted in a 10 page thread definitely elevates someone to "stalker status".....

call me whatever Stella!!!! I am following the thread....not researching it!!

 

[Nana Annie]

Not for nothing, but my MIL is an alcoholic and DH and I NEVER EVER order alcohol when we go out to dinner with them, and we never drink alcohol in front of them at our own home, and we won't even drink it in front of them if we're with them at an event or function. I think you had a valid reason to not want alcohol at your wedding.

I personally don't like soda, although DH will order a diet coke when we go out to eat. I would've appreciated a pitcher of ice water yesterday at the reception...that's all!

In your case, I think you were right to be miffed. To not have even a pitcher of water easily found by the guests is tacky.

 

[rotundofmordant]

I have read the entire thread and the only post on the cost of soda was $2. Where did you get the $12 from.

A post upthread said that the charge at the hall was $50 per person for an open bar, but $12 a head to have free flowing soft drinks. I can think of a much better way to spend $1440 in my 120 person example.

Nice host/hostess - your honeymoon is more important than your guest's comfort.

While I certainly did have tea, water and coffee available at our reception, if you are uncomfortable by the lack of soda, then I don't care if you are there or not.

 

[Nana Annie]

We come from alcoholic familes too however when inviting people one should cater to them not yourself! Not punishing because your fathers can not control themselves. That is being a proper host/hostess. Besides my problem is you attitude about not caring what your guest thought that IMO is horrible and poor manners.

It is even more horribly rude and poor manners to critique what others choose to serve at their parties.