Have you dated someone that your parents or friends didn't "approve" of

[Ilove8Trax]

Just curious...

 

[2luvbugs4disney]

LOL, who hasn't? For me it was when I was 14-15 years old. My dad thought she was a tom-girl. And my Mama said she just wasn't lady like. LOL

 

[CourtasanSatine]

DBF and I have had our neysayers but we'll be together a year in less than 2 months!

 

[nativetxn]

What an interesting question. Now that you mention it, NO, I never did date someone who wasn't "approved".

 

[jennyl772003]

YEP! I was 16 and he was 21. My parents tried the "Don't outlaw it, you'll just make her want it more approach" We had a baby when I was 19 and he basically disappeared a couple years later. I now have to live with everyones "I told you so's" for ever!

 

[preshi]

I've dated many "bad boys" my mom didnt approve of.... and none of them worked out... guess there is a reason for it...

 

[Pin Wizard]

I'm sure I dated a couple they wouldn't have liked, but I never gave them the chance. LOL! I kept most of them a secret from my parents. They only met the one I married.

 

[daughter_of_amid_chaos]

My parents really really didn't like my ex boyfriend.
He was a sweet guy but he was 3 years older than me, drove a truck, lived in a different town, and is a firefighter...so i guess I can see why.

 

[SeaShelley]

Oh yeah! That would pretty much describe my high school dating in a nutshell! There was one they liked, but that's about it! Fortunately I saved the best for last! They adore my DH. After I brought him home for the first time I thought that if I didn't marry him, they would adopt him!

 

[Gone Disney]

2luvbugs4disney, that's funny. I have a little tomboy who is 7 yr now and when she went to kindergarten one little boy quickly became very found of her adn still is now 2 yrs later. He doesn't like girls because they are girly. My DD would rather run her MX bike thru the mud any day or traps thru the woods. That's too funny when I think of it. But, his mom gets a kick out of it.


I really hate getting personal but.............


I was dating a guy back when I was 16 and my family didn't care for him at all. They thought I should have been with someone else. Now they had no real good reason for not liking him except 2 things, he was older than me and he was not wealthy. I never was one to do as I was told, kinda had my one mind then to. Well.... 17 yrs later. We are still together, mostly happily .
With 2 pretty good kids ( don't tell them I said that ). Our marriage is the only one that has survived the years. 2 brothers and 1 sister all are divorced, my dad has a rocky marriage, very rocky. I am the only one that actually owns my own home and we are building a new house on 10 acres. We work together and still love each other very much.

Moral to my story...................
follow your heart. It's that simple, if you know you love someone and they truly love you do not let others deprive you of the life you deserve. But, look carefully cause outsiders can see things we can be eagerly willing to overlook.


Patti

 

[Rajah]

Yep. We were both 16-18-ish (we dated for almost 2 years) and none of my friends nor my parents approved. They all supported, but they didn't approve. Once we broke up I saw what a jerk the guy was and how horribly he'd torn down my self esteem, and only *after* we broke up did my best friend and parents tell me just how much they didn't approve of him. They had wonderful restraint, I must say.

My new BF and now DH, though, came with gold stars from everyone.

 

[Miss Behaved]

Pretty much everyone, except for the ex-hubby

Ironic, isn't it?

 

[FOJMO]

Going back 30+ years, I dated a guy in my senior year of HS. He picked me up for our first date in a suit and tie. Very impressive, wouldn't you say? Of course, you have to know that we planned on going BOWLING! So, needless to say, my Dad thought he was NUTS.

Dad never did approve of him and I ended up dating him exclusively for 3 years before meeting my first husband.

Many years later, after I moved away from my hometown, my Dad sends me a newspaper clipping that reported that my ex-boyfriend was arrested -- for INDECENT EXPOSURE! Looks like Dad was right.

Also, my parents did not approve of my first husband, but they didn't tell me that until we were getting divorced. Then they said, "we never liked him to begin with."

They absolutely LOVE my current DH (of 22 years) and my Dad thinks of him as his real son.

 

[Mermaid02]

My Mom pretty much hated EVERYONE I ever went out with. There was one guy she liked okay- he looked pretty innocent.... let me tell you- he was the WILDEST guy I ever went out with.

She liked the Australian exchange student I went out with too (probably because she knew he was going back to Australia ) but with that accent no matter WHAT he said he always sounded polite.

 

[grinningghost]

I had a long-term relationship with someone my parents and friends didn't approve of. I was the only one stupid enough to not see how bad he was. After many years of emotional abuse, I saw the light. I walked out and never looked back.

 

[CamColt]

I was the one who was not approved of.

 

[Eiblis]

lol....like Gone Disney
parents n friends disapproved...

happily ( most of the time ) married, celebrated 18 th wedding anniversary last sunday.
now he can do no wrong...lol.

reason for disapproval was ....he was older than me and had been married b4......but it does go to show, that u do need to follow ur heart sometimes.

 

[Gette88]

Yes, when I was 17-20. We dated for 2 1/2 years and my parents really didn't like him. My best friend also did not like him. Of course they were all right. Looking back it's like, what was I thinking. Chalk it up to life's lessons. They like DH alot. They knew him before I did and were thrilled when we started dating.

 

[scarlett873]

ummmm, well, kind of...

he was approved of way back in high school when we dated..obviously because my parents became his legal guardians back then! but then things happened, stupid decisions were made that led to our breakup...we didn't really have much contact for about 10 years...then he found me over the internet back in 2000. we talked for awhile and i came to realize that i still had strong feelings for him. so i saw him...once we saw each other we knew that we were meant to be together...but when i told me family, they freaked out on me. no one at that point approved...they were all basing their decisions on things that happened many many many years ago when we were kids.

but we stuck it out...and we were married sept of 2002! my family loves him, well, he and my sister still have their differences. but they've always had those... they've come to realize that they were wrong about him and now wholeheartedly approve of our marriage.

 

[Mishetta]

Yep...I met this guy who was 8 years younger than me & he really didn't have "anything" in comparison to the other guys I had dated. So, my Mom didn't really approve of him. We just celebrated our 9th wedding anniversary (& have 2 beautiful boys) & my now cancer stricken Mom lives with us. The guy she didn't "approve" of, helps her get around the house & he serves her something to drink while she's just laying in her bed watching TV, etc...