Has anyone ever pulled this off? Ditching DH? LOL

[Goldilocks07]

My husband IS Grumpy. I really want to go to WDW without him. First off he is difficult, secondly because I'd rather go with my DD and my girlfriend and her DD, and on my points we could go for a WEEK! Because we are willing to do what we have to do to cut costs, stay in a smaller room, eat in, etc- to enjoy Disney for longer.
If I go with my DH, I have to get a bigger room (he won't tolerate sharing a room with our DD) and go for less days because he refuses to do Disney on the cheap. Not that he needs the red carpet rolled out or anything (though I'm sure he wouldn't mind), it's just that he doesn't do 'traveling on a budget' like I can do.

Anyway, what I'm asking I guess is- has anyone been in the same boat and gotten to take a trip to Disney without the legally bound counterpart?

Oh, and I might add, he WANTS to come on the trip because he doesn't want to be left out of any experience with our 3 year old.

Advice?

 

[BellsFam]

Haha... If your dh's name is rich were married to the same guy!

Dh refuses to stay in a value, a moderate, etc. wants a sit down meal once a day and breaks during every day to swim and drink a beer, etc.

I don't have the option of taking a gf but I did go l/y w/my mom and he stayed behind mostly because mom treated and wouldn't treat him (for stated reasons above!).

He and I planned a separate trip that year to go to the beach w/dd...

This year I'm stuck with him... I told him if he's grumpy I'm ditching his patoot!!!

 

[scdak]

My best friend would NEVER allow her grumpy husband to come to WDW with us, heck, she and I take vacations all the time without him! Even when we travel with him and his adult son, we split up part of the time and go our seperate ways, thats the only way he would come back alive! We just returned from a 12 day trip to Seattle and Alaska (cruise) and we saw each other at dinner most nights, that's about it and our vacation was great because we all were able to do what we enjoyed.

 

[Zooshoveller]

My husband IS Grumpy. I really want to go to WDW without him. First off he is difficult, secondly because I'd rather go with my DD and my girlfriend and her DD, and on my points we could go for a WEEK! Because we are willing to do what we have to do to cut costs, stay in a smaller room, eat in, etc- to enjoy Disney for longer. If I go with my DH, I have to get a bigger room (he won't tolerate sharing a room with our DD) and go for less days because he refuses to do Disney on the cheap. Not that he needs the red carpet rolled out or anything (though I'm sure he wouldn't mind), it's just that he doesn't do 'traveling on a budget' like I can do. Anyway, what I'm asking I guess is- has anyone been in the same boat and gotten to take a trip to Disney without the legally bound counterpart? Oh, and I might add, he WANTS to come on the trip because he doesn't want to be left out of any experience with our 3 year old. Advice?

He won't tolerate sharing a room with his 3 year old DD?

 

[PennockFive]

Hard for me to give advice, since my husband is the exact opposite. Very frugal, and always looking to be able to save money. But maybe if you tell him you want a week long vacation without all the frills, and spending a lot of money, maybe he'll understand?? Or maybe do some sort of split vacation, spend a couple of days with him and then a week long vacation with your friend and dd??

 

[kristenrice]

My DH is not a Disney fan either. Every time I talk about it, he rolls his eyes and tries to change the subject. He has no interest in planning the trips, but he reluctantly goes along "for the kids". When we're there, he has no interest in setting alarms or getting out of bed before 10am. I'm not a rope-drop kind of person, but I know that getting to the park early is paramount if you don't want to stand in hour-long lines. DH won't even get in a line if the wait time exceeds 45 minutes.

My solution was to find a "trip" that he likes to take...without me! Bingo! Every year, in November, he goes deer hunting up north with his brother and niece. I have to take time off of work and stay home with the kids and he takes off for 4-5 days to hunt. That is his vacation. That way, when I want to go to WDW for my birthday (in October...the BEST time of year to go to WDW), I can go guilt-free. I have always been able to find a friend to go with me. Although we own DVC, I only use points if we happen to have extra (which is usually never!). Otherwise, we stay at a value resort. I don't do a lot of dining, I don't need souvenirs, and I can do what I want to do on the schedule that I choose.

This way, we both get a vacation and we both have to sacrifice equally so that the other one can have a vacation. We also take a family vacation once a year too. Since we own DVC, we either go to WDW or HHI. DH loves HHI because he never has to get up early and he can enjoy the pool and the hammock. The "rule" for the family trips to WDW is that he can sleep in if he wants to...but the girls are given the option. They can either get up with mom and go to the park or they can wait until dad gets up. The thought of having to help prepare two girls (9 and 11) by himself is usually enough motivation for him to get out of bed.

As we go more often, I plan "less". Ok, with FP+ and ADR's and all that, I still "plan", but I plan on doing less each time. I try to schedule in at least one new thing that we've never done, just to keep it interesting. We have a trip coming up in October and I actually have one day that I have NOTHING planned! I don't know what park we will go to, I have no ADR's and we are just going to "wing it"!

 

[Goldilocks07]

Ha!
I knew I couldn't be the only one out there.

All I want is to go to WDW for a FULL WEEK (without him) on my own terms. I don't want to have to cater to all his needs - and there's a long list!

I can only afford to go for that long if I do it on a budget. And budgeting is not really in my husband's DNA. Annoying.

 

[Goldilocks07]

He won't tolerate sharing a room with his 3 year old DD?

NO! He doesn't like to have to 'bend' to any situation. He doesn't want to be quiet, or have the lights out at 8 pm, or have to tip toe around. Plus he HAS to watch TV to go to sleep (ridiculous!) and refuses to actually have to go to bed like a normal person, with the lights/tv off.

Meanwhile, I have to sleep with an eyemask because of the tv. And when we travel, I choose to sleep in the other room with my DD to get a great nights' sleep.

Oh, did I mention that he snores???!!!

Sounds miserable. I know. IT IS.

 

[Goldilocks07]

Hard for me to give advice, since my husband is the exact opposite. Very frugal, and always looking to be able to save money. But maybe if you tell him you want a week long vacation without all the frills, and spending a lot of money, maybe he'll understand?? Or maybe do some sort of split vacation, spend a couple of days with him and then a week long vacation with your friend and dd??

Actually, THIS sounds like an AWESOME idea.
I never thought of this!
I could easily go Sunday night, stay in a value room until Thursday, and he could fly in Thursday night through the weekend.
This is totally affordable for me- not the cheapest because I'd be switching into a one-bedroom, BUT, it's a happy medium.
GREAT IDEA!!!

 

[Goldilocks07]

My DH is not a Disney fan either. Every time I talk about it, he rolls his eyes and tries to change the subject. He has no interest in planning the trips, but he reluctantly goes along "for the kids". When we're there, he has no interest in setting alarms or getting out of bed before 10am. I'm not a rope-drop kind of person, but I know that getting to the park early is paramount if you don't want to stand in hour-long lines. DH won't even get in a line if the wait time exceeds 45 minutes.

My solution was to find a "trip" that he likes to take...without me! Bingo! Every year, in November, he goes deer hunting up north with his brother and niece. I have to take time off of work and stay home with the kids and he takes off for 4-5 days to hunt. That is his vacation. That way, when I want to go to WDW for my birthday (in October...the BEST time of year to go to WDW), I can go guilt-free. I have always been able to find a friend to go with me. Although we own DVC, I only use points if we happen to have extra (which is usually never!). Otherwise, we stay at a value resort. I don't do a lot of dining, I don't need souvenirs, and I can do what I want to do on the schedule that I choose.

I wish that solution would work. I BEG DH to go away. I need a break! He just doesn't go anywhere or do anything unless I plan it and am a part of it.

For his birthday last year, I flew (shipped) him to Florida for a 'guys trip' with his friends. Meanwhile my girlfriend came and stayed with me for the weekend, and I had my SIL take care of my DD. It was a total staycation and amazing.
Husband was so offended that I 'got rid of him' for the weekend. Meanwhile it was FEBRUARY in NYC and he was in 80 degree weather Fort Lauderdale and no baby, no wife, and relaxing. REALLY???!!!!!

 

[Lupeix]

You are far form the only one, DH is the same way, except that he will happily go on a guys trip alone
We cannot even stay at a family suite in art of animation because it doesn't have a fitness center. We only stay in suites or 1 bedrooms, which is very expensive if you stay onsite. I do understand his point of view. He said he travelled on a budget when he was a student, that after all his hardworking he has earned the right to vacate as comfortably as he wants. except we do have a budget, so he has to compromise on some things and so do I. Have you asked your DH about his priorities and what is he willing to compromise on? Just an open discussion

We have stayed off site before, to get the separate room and fit our budget, that was our solution. And I gave up on hitting all the rides and fireworks and did a more relaxed pace, which was good for out toddler on our last trip anyway.
If you are doing a split stay you may want to consider one of the villa resorts nearby that are not Disney hotels, like Vistana or Bonnet creek if budget is an issue
I am trying to see if next time we can stay DVC and leave him to make rope drop, since he can then take Disney transport and join us when he wants to

 

[scrapquitler]

Ha!
I knew I couldn't be the only one out there.

All I want is to go to WDW for a FULL WEEK (without him) on my own terms. I don't want to have to cater to all his needs - and there's a long list!

I can only afford to go for that long if I do it on a budget. And budgeting is not really in my husband's DNA. Annoying.

Find a way to schedule a guys trip for him (and a friend or two) doing something that will interest him, and then you go to Disney at the same time he's doing that.

 

[TheSixOfUs]

My DH doesnt' like Disney as much as me. He would probably be ok with it if I were going with some girl friends. If there were other men coming along, or if I wasn't going with anybody but me and the kids, he's probably be a bit offended.

My recommendation: do it as long as other men aren't coming, and as long as you aren't doing a solo trip.

 

[krisbars]

I actually read this to my husband right now, and he laughed. We are in a somewhat similar situation. Deep down he secretly loves DW, but while on vacation with our two kids, he acts like a total BUTT. It really makes me angry every time. I tell myself I will never do that again, but I do! I want to vacation without him, but there is no one else to go with. I'm actually wondering if I should do a separate vacation with each person in my family. I wouldn't even mind vacationing alone.

 

[stasijane]

Sounds like you just need to tell him what you are doing and be done with it. Have you ever traveled without him? If you have then just tell him you are doing a female trip and he can do something he wants.
Thats something I don't have to worry about and from the sound of it I have never been more happy about that. My other half dont like to travel and I'm glad because he doesn't get invited anyhow. I love my solo trips where I get peace and quiet and he gets dog sitting duty

In all honestly though it sounds like you need this trip. Just be open and honest. Hopefully he understands.

 

[Stigsmom]

I have done it!! Took my daughter and my mom 2 mos ago, and called it "girls' weekend." He had no problem with it, nor did my 2 sons I left behind! Just bring them a souvenir. It was TONS of fun, would do it again in a heartbeat!!

 

[ancestry]

I go to DW all the time without my husband - taking various combinations of my kids. I do bring him occasionally but frequently leave him at home because he is grumpy as well. I love him but he has ruined many of my vacation with his moodiness. It isn't bad when we travel alone together but when the kids are with us he can be miserable.

 

[krismanda]

I've never been to DW without dh but I would love to ! I did do a girls weekend with friends to DL once and it was so fun. Dh and I have very different vacation styles. I like to go go go and he is impossible to hurry along or get on a plan. It can be frustrating (for him too I'm sure).

 

[Toffeewoffy]

Goldilocks, your husband sounds like a right immature jerk! He needs to grow up and realise that the world doesn't revolve around him. At the same time, to expect lights out and absolute silence in the hotel room at 8pm is totally overboard. I was told long ago that you need to 'teach' your baby to sleep through noise and disturbance or you'll never get a minute's peace or be able to live your life. My DD, when she slept, would sleep through anything. OH is a snorer too so I have to sleep in earplugs. He also works shifts which means I don't get to watch TV in bed very often (only when he's on nights).

I had to go to sleep with the TV on for a few weeks last year - after my brother died - but that was all.

I took DD to CBR for a week this February. We couldn't afford a full holiday and DD was really upset to be missing out a year. I secretly costed up a quick week on site with DDR and basically told OH that I was taking her for a girly bonding break (she's now 20). He agreed on the basis that he comes with next year when we go over for 2 weeks for DD's 21st birthday.

Even then he won't be staying on site with us!!! I've booked him into the Radisson at the bottom of Sherbeth Road, and he'll be driving up every day to meet us and take advantage of his QSDP which I've included him in.

It was such a relief to go away without him, though. Tbh he's a real freeloader and never pays his way. I've paid for all 8 of our trips to Florida!!

 

[Goldilocks07]

Sounds like you just need to tell him what you are doing and be done with it. Have you ever traveled without him? If you have then just tell him you are doing a female trip and he can do something he wants.
Thats something I don't have to worry about and from the sound of it I have never been more happy about that. My other half dont like to travel and I'm glad because he doesn't get invited anyhow. I love my solo trips where I get peace and quiet and he gets dog sitting duty

In all honestly though it sounds like you need this trip. Just be open and honest. Hopefully he understands.

If I were going without my DD, it wouldn't be an issue. He just wants to do EVERYTHING with her (us)- meaning, he would NEVER take her out without me ---oooooh noooo. That would be too much trouble. LOL. I'm basically the wife aka nanny.

And YES. I take girls-only vacations 4 times a year sometimes more. If I didn't I might drink myself to death!! He drives me bat-sh*t!!!

It's taking a trip with the DD without him that he has a heart attack about. Meanwhile, if he wanted to take our DD away I would be like, OMG- time alone at home with no child or husband? YIPPPPEEEEEE!!!!!! I think I might just sit naked and watch the OWN network and go get my nails done (with my clothes on).

So he's a total pain in the you know what.

KRISBARS, your post made ME laugh. Butt is a funny word. The curse word of that is what my husband is. AKA Donkey. hahahaaaaa.

KRISTENRICE, my husband actually likes Disney. No where NEAR as much as I do (I'm more the obsessed Disney fan)- he likes it because everyone is overly friendly and nice and caters to all his needs- it's about the only place on Earth that can tolerate his bad attitude with a smile and a 'have a magical day!'. BUT, he makes it so stressful because all my planning has to be perfect down to the wire or he has a meltdown. So, he will ask me a million questions throughout the days we vacation there, but wants nothing to do with the planning and no interest in talking about it either, until we get there. UGH.

***They offer child swap on the rides, right? What about husband swap? hahahaaaaaaaa