Has anyone elses dysfunctional family Christmas started yet???

[snowball22]

Mine has big time. My Aunt last year at Christmas accused me of stealing her photos. She did find them later in the year and never said she was sorry. Well guess what???!!! I just received an e-mail asking me if I have seen all her photos from the last 5 years. Yes they have gone missing again and of course she thinks I have taken them. On Sunday, my family all went to the local zoo to see the Christmas lights. My sister and her family spent the whole night walking 50 feet in front of the rest of the family and is now fuming because my kids did not talk to her kids. Then to top it off my grandmother, who I let stay at my home overnight, and brought to the zoo claims that the family never comes to visit her and that she almost stopped talking all together because she is so lonely. We have all tried to visit her and she either gets mad at us for showing up out of the blue or when we say we will be there she is not there. Hey and guess what, we haven't even had our family Christmas get together yet.

 

[FTWFAN]

Snowball, Are you sure you aren't related to my family. Most of my family(aunts, uncles, cousins) never even come around unless they want something. DH's brother and wife never comes to anything they are invited to. Their kids do, but not them!
Oh well, to each his own, I guess! Sometimes it is better not to see family than to fight with them. Oh the joys of the holidays!!!!!!!

My family wishes you family a Very Happy Holiday Season!!!!!!!

 

[Kermit]

Mine starts Sunday. My sister and I both live here in SC, but about 30 miles apart. My parents live in San Antonio but are coming here to visit. (My sister and I are both 8 months pregnant, so it wasn't hard to decide who was going where this year.) My sister makes absolutely every decision in my family, so I'm waiting for her to tell me when my parents are going to stay with me and when they'll stay with her. I talked to my mom last night, and apparently, she already has a plan for Christmas Eve and Christmas day, but I wasn't consulted.

 

[Jeafl]

We celebrated Christmas with my husband's totally dysfunctional family last weekend. I'm kind of glad that it's behind me already so that I can relax and enjoy the rest of the Holiday season.

I couldn't even BEGIN to tell you stories about the cast of characters that was there. I really do think I will write a book about them someday.

 

[snoopy]

We celebrate dysfunction pretty much year round in my family.

 

[caitycaity]

no, but it will be in full swing starting on saturday.

 

[Tiggerkeeper]

Not yet but sooooon! I am being the brat this year. Every year my mom and sister wait for me to mention Christmas and invite them up to our house. With DS off in boot camp our house is very empty. The last two years were a disaster and I was exhausted from playing moderator, cook, maid, etc. So we decided to go spend Christmas in Vail with my dad. That'll get me in mom's doghouse until next Christmas!!

Oh yeah, I haven't told anyone we are going yet! But then, since I haven't mentioned Christmas neither has anyone else. The plane leaves friday morning! BWAHAHAHAHAHA!

 

[Robinrs]

Actually mine just ENDED!!

My aunt, who came down to take care of my Dad, was surprised with the arrival of her "errant" teenage granddaughter, who came toting her, for lack of a better term, HYPERACTIVE 3 year old son....

This is a VERY not happy little boy with absolutely NO discipline. Don't make me go there....

Well, she announces that she is trying to get her diploma so Grandma, who is now retired, can take care of the little angel.

My aunt, who is usually a patient human being, had, like the rest of us, HAD IT with this highly disruptive little human being and last night...

she GAVE HIM BACK TO HER!!



Everyone in my family was just DREADING Christmas with Mr. Is-That-Yours-Now-It's-MINE! He drained all of us the last couple of weeks and I am sooo glad we all don't have to deal with it this Christmas. Christmas will be rough enough without my Mom and we need to concentrate only on my sweet little Daddy... who, by the way, this little angel SLAMMED a door in the face of....

I said DON'T MAKE ME GO THERE!!!!!

 

[CamColt]

Usually we arent very dysfunctional...this year, FORGET IT! Inthe past week Ive fought with DH big time, had a blow out with my sister,a nd now I just found out DH's brother is mad at us too. I think Ill just crawl into a little hole until the stress of the season is over!

 

[Robin]

This year I have a limited number of key players.

My aunt just moved back from El Paso - She is unstable in every possible way. She has MS, smokes continuously, always talks about how broke she is (lives in a very nice home - drives a brand new car) and asks me when I am going to find someone new daily.

My cousin - 30 something divorced twice, meets men on the internet and sleeps with anything that is breathing. She is constantly moving and just can't get her life together. She has three daughters that I adore.. but must admit that they have problems too.

D1 - 15, Is a straight A student that spends hours in her room studying. She also closes her eyes every couple of minutes to pray.

D2 - 12, A good student that wants to be a missionary when she gets older, she hopes to marry and have children with a black missionary... to reduce racism.

Grandma - 80 year old nudist that loves to talk about the good old swinging days.

Kid Sister 16 year old poster child for ADHD and Bipolar disorder... add a huge lizard in the picture for good measure.

Mom - She has high hopes of giving me the best Christmas present in my life. I hate snowman decorations and she bought me a life-size lawn art snowman for my yard (I live in an apartment)

My DD Caitlyn - 4 years old and told Santa that she wants her Dan Daddy back. She wakes up everyday asking if he is here yet... I explained a million times that once you go to heaven you can't come back.

NOW THE GOOD NEWS... I am having surgery on Thursday and will be in the hospital for 4 days.. then I get to come home with great pain meds. I am ready for a peaceful Christmas now.

 

[Scratch42]

Glad to hear I'm not the only one!

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
(as best as we can!LOL)

Scratch

 

[sharbear]

Oh Robin,

Just reading and thinking about your family (the smelly grandma thread) and I have tears in my eyes from laughing. I'm really sorry but ROFLOL!!!!

Good luck on your surgery. I'm glad you have a positive spin on it. (being on pain medication keeps you from dealing with your family!)

 

[kinlaw6450]

Yes!!

My sister, who hasn't spoken to me since Nov 22, said she is not coming to Christmas at all. then proceeded to say that her husband and boys would not be coming either.

She is mad at me over a comment that I made AND apoligized for...that she freaked over...I refused to keep apologizing. But I will miss the boys.

My brother noticed the other day that the B-day present I gave her is out...LOL wonder when the Christmas presents will get unwrapped??

 

[rbuzzotta]

Mine starts this weekend when MIL visits. she is confined to a wheelchair and needs alot of care. DH has ordered a chair car to pick her up (even tho medicare will contribute it is costing us 130. becuase SIL won't gives us her medicare info.) SIL is very selfish with MIL.....I don't know why now, she got the house, the jewels, the money etc....DH has been removed from the will!!

We have MIL here because we want our 3 DD's to get to know her. We can't do that at her house (only 7 miles away) because SIL won't let my kids in any room but the kitchen, family room, and bathroom. There is nothing for my girls to do there but sit like lumps on a log and try to converse with their grandma that can't speak. It is very sad!

SIL is a lonely (almost 40 year old) with no boyfriend, kids , etc....We did invite her to Christmas Eve and Christmas dinner but says she has a "her" house full of people and couldn't possibly leave. BIL is flying in with his 2 DD's and will be staying with them. BIL and nieces will come for a visit on Christmas Eve. We will then visit them at MIL/SIL's on Christmas day only to find out that no-one has been there...........Strange..........

It's like she is holding MIL hostage or in aa bad divorce situation...........

Let the Dysfunctin begin.........

Happy Holidays to you all!

 

[snowball22]

Thanks everyone for making me laugh. Robin, I really feel for you. It is nice to know that I'm not alone when it comes to the dysfunctional families.

MERRY DYSFUNCTIONAL CHRISTMAS TO ALL!!!

 

[Keli]

Not that dh and I don't have our share of disfunctional folks in the family 'cause we do but thankfully they aren't the ones we spend christmas time with so I'm not expecting anything terrible to be going on this year.

 

[tedsmom]

We had "Dusfunctional Thanksgiving" this year, with my kooky SIL. Christmas should be OK, because it'll only be the reasonably normal relatives.

 

[snoopy]

Robin, I am so sorry about Caitlyn. Poor thing, she hasn't adjusted to Dan being gone. Give her time, sweetie, kids are very resiliant. The real question, is how are you? Hope the surgery is not for anything serious.

(and its so great to see you back, taking part in the dysfunctional family stories! Just love hearing about Nudie Granny! )

 

[Robinrs]

Originally posted by Robin



My DD Caitlyn - 4 years old and told Santa that she wants her Dan Daddy back. She wakes up everyday asking if he is here yet... I explained a million times that once you go to heaven you can't come back.

Wow! Robin, I thought my family was a hoot.

Hug little Caitlyn for me. God bless her she's had some life already and she's only 4. I know with a Mom like you she'll be alright, you always put her first and let her know so.

Have a good holiday, and LOL about Grandma and DD12!