Hardened hearts

[agnes!]

They were sneaky 40 years ago too. How old are you?
And I think the only time I've seen bullying as the 'give me your lunch money or else' scenario has been on TV or in movies.

In elementary school a girl tried to blackmail DD...she said she would tell all the kids which boy my DD 'liked' if my DD didn't give her money (I think it was supposed to be $5). DD had been friendly with her but gave no quarter after that. Told her "Go ahead, I don't like him any more any way."
I know it's petty but I never did like the kid after that...she was a goody two-shoes to teachers/adults but kind of a creep/snot to other kids, especially the ones she thought she could push around.
Ended up getting in to the local 'best in the country' public high school.

agnes!

 

[NotUrsula]

He's said to him "well, I'd rather be fat than a crybaby like you." And they just laugh at him and continue to do it. It's like his responses are just showing them that they are getting the reaction that they want. He ignores them, it continues. He responds, it continues. We've talked about this kid alot and he's just really a PITA. That's why I'm getting close to telling his mother just what he's doing when she's not looking.

That's because the whole object of the game is to get him to take it seriously and respond; to make him lose control or "say something dorky". DS gets this all the time (he has Asperger's. Most older high-functioning Aspies will tell you that this is just par for the course. IME, it will happen to every single one of them sooner or later.) Be aware that if you involve the kids' parents, your son WILL catch more crud for it, and it will be all about needing to run to his Mommy for protection.

We've found that the best reaction is a small Mona-Lisa-type smile and nothing else. Drives them nuts because they can't figure out what it means.

 

[agnes!]

That's because the whole object of the game is to get him to take it seriously and respond; to make him lose control or "say something dorky". DS gets this all the time (he has Asperger's. Most older high-functioning Aspies will tell you that this is just par for the course. IME, it will happen to every single one of them sooner or later.) Be aware that if you involve the kids' parents, your son WILL catch more crud for it, and it will be all about needing to run to his Mommy for protection.

We've found that the best reaction is a small Mona-Lisa-type smile and nothing else. Drives them nuts because they can't figure out what it means.

Yeah, give them a smile (but all-the-while you're mentally shooting them the finger ).

agnes!

 

[momz]

They were sneaky 40 years ago too. How old are you?
And I think the only time I've seen bullying as the 'give me your lunch money or else' scenario has been on TV or in movies.

Really...how is this helpful? It just don't see the point in continually posting "it's not new"...ok, ok, ok...I understand that...bullying could be said to go all the way back to when Cain killed Abel...fine...but how is that helpful?

There is, inarguably, an entirely new way of carrying out an old practice. Bullying is not new, but it has changed over the years. Please stop hounding me about this opinion of mine.