Happy or unhappy marriage? One or two incomes?

[MAKmom]

Very happy. 2 incomes I work for my husband 30 hours a week.

 

[Aimeedyan]

Happy, married, 2 income.

We would NOT be happy if one of us was at home LOL

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

Divorced - we were a 2 income household.

 

[Madi100]

Married for 19 years, 2 kids and 2 incomes, one for each kid
and 1 housekeeper to keep the health dept. at bay

Happily married at the moment, ask me tomorrow
Actually, like most long term marriages we have had our moments/months and yes even the occassional bad year or so thrown in for good measure.

Divorce has never been an option for me, my spouse is not abusive, a drunk, a gambler, an adulterer or subject to any other destructive habits (all very good reasons in my book).

There is however his fondness for Ebay and Home Depot...... I am sure there is a 12 step program for him

We both work really hard at our marriage and I can say without hesitation that we are happy.

I think divorce is so complicated and it is hard to put a finger on what the true problems really are.

Ditto to this. We have been together for 14 years, married for 12. We have two children. I stay at home. I work a little bit from home, but nothing that pays any bills.

We are happy most of the time. I'd say that the things that get me most stressed out are not being appreciated, but I think that is my type. I need the praise, and a job would probably be good for me. But, I really enjoy being home for my kids and husband. I help him with his job, and I get involved with out community and PTO. That helps some.

Like above poster, divorce just isn't an option. You work through the bad. I think that if a few more people would let on to the "bad days" there wouldn't be so many people in this world leaving because the grass is greener.

 

[Tasha+Scott]

Very happy, 1 income, 1 child. We have been married nearly 6.5 years now.

We have been on 2 incomes before as well and I don't think that had any true effect on our marriage. We were happy either way. That is a good thing too since I do plan to go back to work when dd starts school.

 

[agotta]

Like above poster, divorce just isn't an option. You work through the bad. I think that if a few more people would let on to the "bad days" there wouldn't be so many people in this world leaving because the grass is greener.

I think that divorce is not that simple. It's not about "bad days" or just simply running away from the small stuff. You are completely entitled to your opionion but I think the 2 posters who made the comments about divorce are being slightly judgemental.

 

[DVC Sadie]

Married dinks and happily married 20 years this Holloween. I wasn't sure marriage would be a trick or a treat therefore our date. J/K

 

[KelNottAt]

The OP stated that she knew of 5 couples splitting up, and all of them were 1 income families. I guess she's wondering if couples with 1 income are more likely to divorce than couples where both spouses work, and started a poll to see if it was the case, at least among the Dis?

I think that divorce, for a variety of reasons, is so common in our society that it's impossible to point to one factor.

However, I do feel that a marriage where the spouses are not on the same page about how their family is going to function, both emotionally and economically, is going to be an unhappy one.

Hi. OP checking in.

Thanks for posting this reply, Froglady. You hit the nail right on the head. I couldn't have answered better myself (on all points).

BTW, at this time, according to your responses,
1 income marriages are about 83% happy (happy/total n 1 income)
2 income marriages are about 82% happy (happy/total n 2 income)

As this is highly unscientific, I'd call it a draw. Thanks for participating.

 

[slo]

We have 2 incomes and are happy

 

[Madi100]

I think that divorce is not that simple. It's not about "bad days" or just simply running away from the small stuff. You are completely entitled to your opionion but I think the 2 posters who made the comments about divorce are being slightly judgemental.

Let me restate. For ME, divorce is just not an option. I came from a divorced family. My parents still don't get along great. And, we are still in the middle. If we visit one family for a holiday, then we like them better. If we go and see the other one, we get to hear about it from the opposite side. It was easier when we were kids. That is probably my number one reason to make sure that our marriage makes it. I would work through the huge stuff and the worst days to make sure we've got it.

 

[Lynn CC]

I don't think it takes a lot money to make a couple happy. I've seen happy couples with little money and happy couples with lots of money.
Same with unhappy couples.

 

[mamacatnv]

I think that divorce is not that simple. It's not about "bad days" or just simply running away from the small stuff. You are completely entitled to your opionion but I think the 2 posters who made the comments about divorce are being slightly judgemental.

I stated

Divorce has never been an option for ME, my spouse is not abusive, a drunk, a gambler, an adulterer or subject to any other destructive habits (all very good reasons in my book).

I also stated that I thought Divorce was very complicated and that we BOTH work really hard at our marriage.

I in no way meant to be judgemental and am sorry you took it that way. The divorce of my parents was the best thing that could ever happen to my brother and I and it was not for any of the "obvious" reasons.

 

[ktink]

We have 2 incomes and are very happy most of the time. We do have our moments on occasion. But I've tried staying at home and it just wasn't for me.

 

[barbeml]

Deliriously happy DINKS!

 

[Cantw8]

Self made millionaire.....retired living the good life. Eat your heart out!!!!!

The only thing I'm missing is my own set of teeth.

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