H is back.

[Serena]

You can do this. It won't be easy, and you may have to ask for help, but you'll be happier in the long run. I think. I do hope you realize my opinion is based on what you say here.

 

[staci]

Stay strong.

 

[4nana]

Sorry, I'm not doing to well taking in code. My lawyer is drawing up papers to serve to him. I was hoping for a quicker no-fault divorce. But, it looks like he won't agree to that. At-fault divorces seem to be much more time-consuming and costly. Regardless, I'm done. I want out. I just don't want ot leave the house, and my lawyer advises the same, for a number of reasons. One of htem being I really can't afford to live on my own and still pay 1/2 the mortgage.

So, to recap. He's home, but I'm not "taking him back." I've seen lawyers, got a counselor for my DD and am still following htrough on my plans. His return makes it more difficult, uncomfortable and agonizing, but does nothing ot change my mind. It only "cements" my decision.

What a very sad situation . Shame on him! I can't imagine the mysery he is going to keep putting you and the children through, now that he is back home. You and your family deserve better and I hope you stick to you guns.
Stay strong and stay safe.

 

[OceanAnnie]

go run your car into his

You are bad Pop Daddy! But it would be effective!

I can't believe he is back!!! What is he thinking?! Does he really think so much of himself that he could just return and all would be ok?? Crazy!

 

[Steamboat Marti]

He says he's dying and I made a vow to take care of him in sickness and health.

Let me make sure I have the facts right... HE left you for his GIRLFRIEND...

didn't your vows also say something about staying true to each other????

Lots of

 

[raammartin]

Be strong and do what's best for you and DD.

 

[goofyshell]

to you and I think it's great you're getting counseling for your dd.

 

[crazee4mickey]

Hugs to you!
Wow! He's got some nerve!
Don't let him make you feel guilty at all, am glad to hear you are continuing to look out for yourself and kids.
Can't believe your lawyer told you to suck it up!!
Hmm, I'll be thinking of you during this whole "mess"--I think Pop Daddy has the right idea about running your car into his not that you'd ever do anything like that!

 

[ericamanda01]

Way to stand your ground! Good luck to you and DD. I am sending so much pixie dust your way!

 

[2BigKIdz]

Sorry, I'm not doing to well taking in code. My lawyer is drawing up papers to serve to him. I was hoping for a quicker no-fault divorce. But, it looks like he won't agree to that. At-fault divorces seem to be much more time-consuming and costly. Regardless, I'm done. I want out. I just don't want ot leave the house, and my lawyer advises the same, for a number of reasons. One of htem being I really can't afford to live on my own and still pay 1/2 the mortgage.

So, to recap. He's home, but I'm not "taking him back." I've seen lawyers, got a counselor for my DD and am still following htrough on my plans. His return makes it more difficult, uncomfortable and agonizing, but does nothing ot change my mind. It only "cements" my decision.

Good for you! to you and your daughter

 

[Rowena]

I won't go into a you vs him thing...

I do want your DD to find a safe place to land though, where ever that may be...who ever needs the pd during and after...

I make no prior judgements.....but hope for the best....pray for the best....for everyone...

 

[Freyja]

Good luck with anything that happens.

 

[Bella the Ball 360]

Isn't it sad that the old adage, "only the good die young" seems to be true? You know you would like to think that there is a reason you are stuck with this idiot but for the life of me I do not understand what life lesson you are supposed to derive from this experience. Good luck, stay strong and most of all know that there is some sort of light at the end of the tunnel, might be a long one but there is a light.

 

[Kitty 34]

go run your car into his

Jason, you're not a marriage counselor are you?


OP.....good luck.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

you can do it!!!

 

[Marseeya]

What??? That's not right at all! I can understand it if he'd never left that you can't kick someone out on the street, but he left! That should have forfeited all his rights to ANYthing! I'm just outraged.

to you.

 

[Pam]

He says he's dying and I made a vow to take care of him in sickness and health.

I think he made a vow to LOVE, HONOR, and CHERISH (which I intrepret as being FAITHFUL!)

Give him the chilly reception and don't nurture him.....
if all else fails, do what Pop Daddy suggests!

 

[grlpwrd]

At least you didn't refer to him as a dear husband ... j/k

Hope it works out for you however you want it to turn out!

 

[kdibattista]

Stay strong... you can do this!!!! It's great that you are standing your ground... a lot of women would have caved. You are truly a great example for your DD!!!!

 

[Christine]

Do you think he is *really* sick? Or do you think he's had time to think about this and realizes that by him leaving the house it puts *him* in a bad position. I wonder if someone advised him to come back to the house?