Guy Help yet again!

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Ok guys here we go again ! As you all probably know mf bf and I broke up 3weeks ago today and it's been and still is a bumpy ride. Things actually had started looking up for us as a couple last week. He had told many many people that he wanted to get back together. . .just not immediatly . Well on Thursday night his "best friend" so to speak started sending me provocative texts. He was calling me "baby" and asking for "favors" from me . I called my best friend crying because he wouldn't leave me alone. The next morning she went to my ex and told him what was happening. But the other guy talked his way out of this tight spot yet again. He also started a rumor that got all but two of my friends mad at me and has once again turned my ex against me. My best friend has hit some pretty tender spots with my ex the past few days. She has repaetedly reminded him of how his "best friend" admitted he liked me and of the way he protected me by deleting his number from my phone and keeping him away from me at all costs. My ex refuses to see that his "best friend" will do anything to get what he wants (me. . .not trying to be concieted!). He will destroy friendships and relationships as long as he ends up on top. He's done it before and I have a feeling he is doing it again. His "best friend" has told me that he Never wants to see me or date me again but he never said that. Maybe I am completely crazy but I honestly think his "best friend" is the cause behind our break up and also I think he's the reason we haven't worked things out. Any help or thoughts on this subject are GREATLY APPRECIATED!

 

[Berlioz70]

This is going to be hard to hear, because obviously you still really care about your ex, but you have to let him go. It doesn't matter what he is saying to anyone else, it only matters what he says to you - if he doesn't want to talk to you then you'll have to take that as his hint.

It's really easy to want to place blame and try to figure out who it was the broke the two of you up - but the truth is, you broke up and you should not dwell on the past. If that so called friend was able to convince him to end the relationship then you should ask yourself if you even want to be with someone that can't seem to think for himself.

Also, don't get hung up on getting together again in the future. It will be easier if you try to get over him now, find someone new and go on. If he really cares about you then he'll come back fighting, but you should never waist your time waiting for that because you may only get your hopes crushed!

As for that friend - guys try really hard and will do anything to get a rise out of a woman (especially if he's interested). It's that kind of male behavior that drives me nuts. Don't get sucked into his overdramatic world, just try to ignore him (I know that want he says will hurt, but try not to respond). As for your real friends, you need to call them individually and just try to explain the truth, if they refuse to believe you - then I don't think those are probably your friends anyway!

I promise in two years you'll be laughing at this and will be proud of yourself that you were able to just walk away from the drama.

 

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Thanx for the advice. My ex actually called me last night and explained that the reason he wouldn't talk to ME about what was going on is because of the he said she said junk. He told me that he still cares about me but with all drama thats going on his life (his grandma had a stroke and his dad might have cancer) he couldn't deal with all of the drama that was going on at school and I totally understand that. As for his friend. . .well we are discussing that at this exact moment. Our goal right now is just to be able to be friends.