grrrr vent about parents sending sick kids to school!

[binny]

Ok I realize that there are reasons for everything. Sometimes you dont realize your child is sick when they leave, fine I totally understand and can relate. Sometimes you dont think its as bad as it is ( Karissa has allergies and often has as runny nose but NO other symptoms) so I can understand that too.

I know there are Parents that work full time too and dont have back up care ( there has to be something that can done though I hope)

BUT in the last 2 weeks, I have gotten notes from Karissa's teacher saying

1) a little boy had croup ( ) and came to school anyway
2) a child had to be sent home because of a raging fever that she showed up to school with
3) 113 children were out of school on Monday due to sickness!
4) a reminder to Parents that have been sending their kids to school way before they should be back and if the chihld acts sick to please keep them home.

I realized Karissa wasnt acting right this morning so I kept her home just in case, purely on a hunch, and was so glad I did! She isnt feeling well at all she doesnt have much of an appetite at all and shes just not herself I called her teacher and she said it was just as well then told me about 113 kids out on Monday and said they have every kind of virus running through the school right now, from stomach stuff to raging fevers. She warned me that the little girl with the fever on Monday was playing with Karissa.


Why dont people just keep sick kids home??????

 

[rae519]

Boy, do I agree with this post! DS got sick in January - told me his friend came to school sick a few days before - high fever, sore throat, cough ---- out for nearly a week! Went back and a few days later said he felt ill again. Again, he was out for a few days. Then the school notified parents that there was a very vicious virus running amok - as if I wasn't aware of it by this time!!!

Spent the past 3 days with him home again - same thing, fever, sore throat and cough.

Personally, I think it's awful for parents to send their children to school sick and I do understand from my years of being a working RN that it's hard to call in when your child is sick, but....and here's the BIG BUT if your child is sick, you need to be with him/her!

I'm not concerned about the school requesting a note because if they won't take MY word for my child's condition, I'll have a little talk with them...

Feeling PMS - over this whole topic and I'm too old for that!

Rae

 

[CourtasanSatine]

I went to school during allergy season complet with hacking cough(but it was either miss standardlized test or else)

 

[Mskanga]

Binny
My DD age 6 stayed home last week for 4 days with nothing else but a high fever and a virus, she finally went to school on thursday after she had broken the fever wednesday AM.
I realize sometimes parents don't have another choice but sometimes it's just too much.
I just came back from the doctor myself after spending the night with 104 fever myself and guess what?? I have a double ear infection and possible strep. Where did this come from??

 

[rae519]

Mskanga - it's just not fair for parents to have to take care of sick ones then end up with it themselves - where's the justice!!!

Hope you are better,
Rae

 

[Piglet]

Just posted about this myself a couple weeks ago.

A little boy in my DD's Kindergarten class kept coming to school with a high fever and would end up throwing up and being sent home something like 3 days in a row.

I was so ticked off, my DD has a medical condition that requires her to be hospitalized when she gets ill and this boys parents know this.

He didn't want to miss any days, he wants the perfect attendance award. Well, the next week he was out all week, he had strep throat!!!!!!

Melinda

 

[vickyBaby]

if your child is sick, you need to be with him/her!

Absolutely. A child needs to rest and get some TLC from Mom or Dad. Not be forced to attend school when they can spread their germs and not get the rest they need.

Unfortunately, some people are selfish, and just don't get it.

 

[Jeafl]

I just got home from my kids' school where I volunteer every Wednesday. The teacher had me giving spelling tests to a few of the kids at a time (each group had different words), and I can't tell you how many times I was sneezed and coughed on today! I swear I wanted to take a shower when I got home! One of the little girls was all flushed so I felt her head, I swear she was burning up! I wish these parents would have some compassion for their own kids and keep them home.

Which brings me to my other pet peeve...PLEASE REMIND YOUR KIDS TO COVER THEIR MOUTHS WHEN THEY COUGH!!! You wouldn't believe how many kids cough all over everyone else.

Thank you.

 

[cgcw]

Originally posted by vickyBaby
A child needs to rest and get some TLC from Mom or Dad. Not be forced to attend school when they can spread their germs and not get the rest they need.

Unfortunately, some people are selfish, and just don't get it.

Boy, do I agree with the above.

It doesn't just happen at school....it happens many times at daycare. Since I have a home daycare, I see it all the time. And, it burns me.

It's the parents responsibility to care for their sick kids. They just don't get that maybe if they stay home, their kids will get better quick. I really have to hold my tongue when parents say they don't have time to take off to be with their kids when they are sick....these are usually the same people who bring their kids to my home when they (the parent) are off of work -- after all, it's their vacation day!! Ugh!!

But, many times, parents are too busy and/or selfish. I love it when kids start running a temp around lunch time -- hmmm, just in time for the AM dose of tylenol to wear off.

 

[rae519]

Any child that wins an attendance award for the year has either been isolated from others or gone to school feeling sick. I think this is the worst award the school can offer since parents have a tendency to see "perfect attendance" as something more than what it is ...... let the child win an award for citizenship, academic achievement, etc, but for attendance?! No way.

Rae

 

[CRB#33]

A few years ago, I was in a long term substitute position in a first grade class.

I sent a little boy who was not feeling well to the nurse one afternoon and he went home with a 101º fever. He showed up the next morning in class! I was shocked. I put my hand on his forhead and sent him right to the nurse. His temperature was 103º!!! He was out the rest of the week. I ran into his mother the next week and she told me she sent him to school, because he was just fine! I don't think so! 98.6 to 103 in an hour? When it was 101 the day before? I had to bite my tongue.

Anyway, most parents think their child can handle it and they can go to work or not have to change their plans. I see it all the time. It's one of the reasons, we get such large absentee rates in the winter.

 

[Dizzy-Disney4]

My DS (9) has been home all week, after being on vacation all last week. He had a slight fever on Monday that is gone, but he has this horrible, dry, hacking cough that just won't quit. I spoke with his principal this morning and she said try for tommorrow.
I do home daycare now, and one of my little ones that I take care of has been sick with two different colds for about a month now. Not sick enough to be home, but sick enough to be coughing and sneezing all over the house. I'm trying so hard to get them all (2 years and under) to cover their mouths when they cough or sneeze, but they're just so young. I'm going through hand soap, tissues, and Lysol like crazy.
Hopefully Spring will come soon and I can open some windows and air out the house.

 

[Pin Wizard]

We were at the pediatrician's yesterday. DS has a double ear infection. I sat him on the "well" side of the office. The witchy nurse came out and asked if he was sick. I told her it was his ear. NOT INFECTIOUS! She made us move to the "sick" side of the office where they were coughing their heads off, sneezing, and one poor little girl looked soooooooooo miserable. I wanted to spray them all with Lysol! It's a joke anyway. There is no sick or well side in a doc's office!! You'll run into the germs no matter where you go in there. But he didn't need to be directly with the "sick" ones.

 

[rae519]

pin wizard - as cruel as this may sound, I never allowed my children to play with the toys that are at the Doctor's office. Can you think of a better way to spread germs?!

I'm not much on drinking fountains either after seeing how some people take the faucet completely into their mouths. YUCK!

Rae

 

[Gail T AGAIN]

I agree with you. I dont have little kids anymore but when my son ws in school, he is now 20 that was also happening. I really used to get mad, even more mad when a kid was sent to school with conguntivitist (sp)

 

[bumcat]

My son is finally going back to school this morning after missing 3 days due to high fever.

Here's something to think about: sick kids at church.
I use to work in the toddler room. 23 toddlers with 2 adults and a few teens that helped off and on.
We had a few parents that always brought their sick kids, high fever and all. We had two foster kids that were hiv positive.
We were told to chase after them and sterilize any toys they put in their mouths. Do you know how impossible that is?
And there is no way of knowing if the kids are up to date on their shots.
After 2 sundays of sterilizing toys, I quit and took my son to church with me.

 

[rae519]

Yes, absolutely! Like God wouldn't forgive a parent for staying home with a sick child, or staying home due to self illness! It's just awful that people think they have to drag their sick selves or children to Church - AND then they want to shake hands with us!
No way! And forget the toys! Breeding ground for bacteria!

I'm getting to be a germ phobic and I'm sorry if I sound paranoid but we've had enough illness and doctor's bills this winter alone to make up for our yearly medical budget!!!!

Going to make myself a big bubble to live in!

Rae

 

[Mskanga]

Rae, I didn't mean that it's ok for parents to take their sick children to school, I hate that as much as you do when people do it . I know one thing, if dh was a single parent and he had to take days off everytime they are sick, he would be out of a job real quick, his company does not care.
I never send my kids sick to school , I'm a SAHM during the week , yes I would love to be working mon-fri instead of weekends but my kids need me during the week and on snow days and vacations so I will sacrifice until they are older.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by rae519
pin wizard - as cruel as this may sound, I never allowed my children to play with the toys that are at the Doctor's office. Can you think of a better way to spread germs?!

When I saw DS put his hand on the Lego table, I reminded him not to touch anything. The first thing he got when we got back to the car was a wipe.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Germ-a-phobic...that's me. Not really, but after working in a hospital 8 years, I'm very aware of germs! After all, that was where I learned to wash hands, then use the paper towel to touch the door handle! I don't touch it with my bare hand. Plenty of germs there. I agree...sick people should stay home from church. If I get cornered with a sick person around, I don't shake hands with them. Even if they're healthy I'll stop in the bathroom after church to wash up. And on occasion, I have changed seats with a sick person sat near. I've had the fight within on whether or not to send DS to school when he was sick. The hospital didn't pay me when I stayed home with him...couldn't use my sick days for that. I've given him Tylenol before school and have told him that he should see the nurse if he feels badly and she would call me. He never went to the nurse. School will take them with a fever up to 99 I believe. He's never gone in if it was above. But it's a shame that parents have to decide between their job and staying with their kids. And being a single parent, I've always felt I had to go to work.