Grrr...RANT...warning!UPDATE--Pg2

[ChiTownZee]

I've never heard of going to an ob/gyn so often unless there's problems. But I do recommend going now BEFORE you conceive if you haven't already. It's generally a good idea to get a check-up and start on prenatals before you conceive.
And remember, those women are TRYING to conceive. Not having sex and waiting for something to happen. And many have been trying for a very long time, that's very hard.
Would you be upset if you didn't conceive the first few months? If not, I'd just go with the flow, having sex around the time (generally, harder to tell if you are irregular) would be ovulating. Or you could start off temping if it made you feel better about pin-pointing ovulation (it's not that hard) Or get an ovulation kit.

{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}} Hang in there, it's an emotional time, isn't it?

Oh, and I know what you feel about getting pregnant when others can't. It KILLED me to tell my then boss I was pregnant, because he and his wife had been trying for almost 10 years, doing all kids of treatments.

 

[snoopy]

If you are 10 days late on your period and craving ranch dressing, why not take a pregnancy test now? Might take away some of the stress of worrying about it.

You can take a pregnancy test as soon as the first day of your missed period.

 

[UrsulasDaBomb]

*giant huggles for everybody*
I'm going on vac at the end of Aug through the middle of Sept,so I'll *probably*schedule a gyno appt then,IF I can get insurance to pay for it(which I'm sure I can).I hate going to the dr and having some wierdo who I've never met before poking me 'down there' with that giant thing..whatchacallit?Spectatorlum?Anyway...the thought of being poked and prodded by some wierdo doc scares the heck outta me. I haven't bought a preg test yet because I am such a huge procrastinator and I just keep putting it off.I'm now...*counts*almost 2 weeks late and still nada.Maybe when I'm off tomorrow I'll go buy one and take it on Fri morning.I"ll let ya'll know...had I known this was going to be so stressful I"d have never decided to attempt it! But...it's really not in my hands wheter or not I get pregnant..well..ok it's PARTIALLY in my hands. But most of this is up to the Goddess...if I am supposed to get pregnant I will.If not..then I won't.We'll see what She decides.
Blessed BE!

UDB

 

[Jenn]

First of all - RELAX. I assume this is the first time you have tried to get pregnant. When my husband and I decided to start trying I came off the pill and we "tried". That's it - we didn't tell family just in case it took forever - and it actually only took a few months and we were pregnant with our first daughter. When we were ready for #2, same thing, came off the pill and "tried". It took a few months longer that time and daughter #2 turned 1 year old yesterday.

I would say that any doctor is going to tell you to try for a certain amount of time before they are going to consider any infertility treatment. Until then - I would avoid those boards. I was lucky and I never charted my temp, or did any of that stuff to get pregnant. I did try those ovulation kits with my second but they didn't work for me - they never said I was ovulating so after I bought 2 or 3 of them I said forget this. We did the every other day strategy mentioned before and it worked like a charm.

 

[UrsulasDaBomb]

Well apparently it's not going to happen this month.I got my period yesterday while sitting in the optometrist's waiting room while my eyes were being dilated.
Oh well...there is always next month..and the month after that...

 

[Deb in IA]

Sorry about the "nasties" on the TTC board, and sorry about your period, UDB . . .


If it's any consolation, I've been there, done that. I have always been irregular ever since I started (my mom and my sis, on the other hand, are so regular, you can practically set your clock to them!).


Two years after our marriage, when nothing was happening in the baby department, we finally went to the infertility clinic. They were just about to send me out with a prescription for Clomid, when they said, more as an afterthought, "Let's just check a pregnancy test before you start the Clomid, just to make sure . . ."


Well, you guessed it. PREGNANT. Promptly got transferred from the Infertility Clinic to the OB Clinic . . .

DD was born in 1991. Four years later, DS was born. And I was an "older" mom, 31 when I had DD, 35 with DS.

And NO, you do not have to "turn your life entirely around" when your children are born. You can still have a job, have friends, have hobbies, have a life . . . trust me.

Best wishes, UDB . . .

 

[goofygirl]

Just curious as to why this thread from a year ago is back on TODAY's CB??

 

[CEDmom]

I really sorry you were treated so badly on a TTC board. Having been there done that (IUI, IVF & donor egg) I know how high emotions can run over something that appears to be so easy. However, the reality is that the success rate for a couple trying to conceive w/o any problems is only about 10% in any given month. Reproductive problems are so vast and most times have nothing do to with how healthy you are or your age. DH and I were consumed by all this for several years and then decided we wanted to be parents more than we wanted to have a baby so we adopted DD.

Most Dr. will advise seeking medical treatment if conception does not occur w/i 6 mo of trying. Be prepared that if you do seek out medical assistance it is time consuming and your DH will need to be checked out as well.

 

[CRB#33]

I too wondered why this thread was bumped from such a long time ago. It certainly is confusing and a contradiction, but it... *edited because it might not have been too nice*


I just thought this quote from another thread might be very appropriate here.

Best wishes, (name) . . . (and ignore all the negative stuff. Some people have such low self-esteem that they can only feel good about themselves when the tear down and hurt someone else)

 

[lil mermaid]

Does this have something to do with the thread that disappeared yesterday?????

 

[Toby'sFriend]

Does this have something to do with the thread that disappeared yesterday?????

I imagine that's a pretty good bet.

 

[UrsulasDaBomb]

I know why it was brought up. A year ago, DH and I were trying to get pregnant and couldn't. So I gave up hope of EVER getting pregnant and figured, 'If it happens it happens, if not oh well. Nothing to cry about."

But now I might be pregnant and I am scared poopless.



Gayle(UDB)

 

[lil mermaid]

Gayle,

You HAVE to take the test!!

 

[maleficent1959]

Originally posted by lil mermaid
Gayle,

You HAVE to take the test!!

Ditto to that. You need to know for sure one way or the other. I don't know why your other thread disappeared, but don't let people beat you up over your fears and doubts. Heck, I wanted my DS at 33, and I still had plenty of doubts. It's perfectly normal.

 

[UrsulasDaBomb]

Dh is going to the grocery on Sat to buy food while I'm at work. He's promised to buy the test then and I'll take it on Sun morning, with a follow up call to a doctor on our list (since I have no Primary Care Physician) on Mon if needed.

If it turns out neg, oh well...I'm sure my period will show up eventually. It's not like Mother Nature hasn't played this trick on me before.


Gayle(UDB)

 

[UrsulasDaBomb]

Well, I took the pee test tonight. It was positive. I guess I"m happy, it hasn't really all sunk in yet. I'll let you know how I feel tomorrow. My mom and stepsister (who are the only people we've told so far in case the test was wrong)are excited. We're going to call the Dr tomorrow and make an appointment for sometime this week to take a blood test to be positive and to ask some questions because I don't know how to be a good pregnant woman. I know there are som changes I'm going to have to make in my diet, caffeine consumption, etc....oh boy.

I don't know whether or laugh or cry or do both at the same time.


Gayle(UDB)

 

[Planogirl]

You likely feel kind of weird right now because it's so scary. At least it was like that for me. Just give it some time to sink in and then get busy.

 

[CRB#33]

UDB, being a mother is the most wonderful thing that has every happened to many of us here.

Congratulations, take care of yourself, read baby books (it helps ), and relax. It's okay to be scared....it makes you want to work harder to do the right things (which are sometimes hard to figure out).

Congratulations again

 

[Keli]

Congratulations Gayle. I can see why you aren't sure how to react. Motherhood is a pretty big irreversable step for most people but speaking from experience, it is one of the most rewarding things you will ever do.

 

[UrsulasDaBomb]

This really explains why I've been so weepy lately. EVERYTHING has been making me cry. I sat down to watch one of my favorite movies, Steel Magnolias, on cable the other night and used an ENTIRE box of Kleenex! It also explains why I've been totally exhausted all the time for the last couple of months or so. I thought it was just work. This also explains away the ever-present morning nausea I've had for the last couple of weeks or so. I couldn't figure it out, couldn't figure ou t why EVERYTHING I had been eating for breakfast was making me feel so icky, even if I didn't hork,I'd feel pretty lousy.

I just hope I do ok as a Mom. I didn't have the world's greatest example growing up and I"m really scared I"ll screw up badly. I don't know ANYTHING about being a mother to anyone except my two cats, and they're pretty easy to be a mommy to. What little I DO know about babies, I've learned from watching "A Pregnancy Story" on TLC and what I remember from "Parent and Child Development" which I took as a joke back in High School.

DH seems..well..he's happy but he's not sure how to react either. The main thing is he wants the baby to be happy and he doesn't want MY pregnancy to overshadow that of my little sister, who is about 5 mos pregnant right now. He's afraid (as am I) that my mother will go bananas over me and not so much over my sister. He doesn't want Lizzie's feelings to be hurt when stuff like that happens, as I'm sure it will, esp with my Grandmother Anderson. Let me explain. Grandma Anderson went totally unhinged when she found out DH and I were engaged, spending thousands of dollars to help furnish our first apt, groceries, that sort of thing. We didn't even ask her to, even though we were extremely grateful. I guess she did it because I"m the only grandchild out of the bunch who hasn't gotten their lives totally ruined by one thing or another. Somehow, I did it right, even though I"m not even sure how that came to be.

I guess as soon as we find out for sure with the blood test (which DH is going to call the dr and schedule for sometime this week), we can start shopping for baby clothes, baby furniture and maternity clothes. I also get to tell my boss, which I"m sure he'll be thrilled.

We've also got names picked out already,which is something DH and I actually discussed a long time ago. If it's a boy...his name is going to be James Anthony (Anthony is his dad's middle name). If it's a girl, it's going to be Rebecca Ann (which is my aunt's middle name, my sister's middle name AND DMIL's middle name). I've also already decided if it's a girl, I'm going to order that cute Princesses border in pink from the Disney Store catalog and paint the room pink. If it's a boy...I found a cute cute CUUUUUUUUUUUUUUTE Peter Pan border at Home Depot and I want to paint the room kind of a dark foresty green.

I can't wait to register for baby stuff at Target. This is going to be so much fun, even if it IS so much work in the end.


Gayle(UDB)