Got stood up at a DIS meet today

[Pembo]

So much for giving someone the benefit of the doubt. I hope that the person you were meeting is okay. I don't think I'd be dissing someone without knowing what happened to the person.
Maybe they are sick or in the hospital or had an emergency. Maybe they lost/forgot to bring your cellphone number with them. Or maybe they just plain old stood you up. Either way, I'd give them the benefit of the doubt before I started being so nasty and threatening to ban them.

 

[BarryHom]

I'm trying to give the benefit of the doubt, but it's hard given my past experience. In the past, people have stood me up and none of it was because of an emergency. I will keep some faith that it was an emergency.

 

[one_cat]

It's always a bummer to get stood up. Though I don't agree with your painting everyone with the same brush I can understand your frustration. It seems that lack of accountability is epidemic right now. However I have met lots of great Dis folks. One suggestion I have is to make sure when you plan a meet is to be VERY specific about exactly where to meet. For example, meeting at Jellyrolls isn't specific enough. I have thought people hadn't shown only to later find that I had just not found them. A better way would be to meet in front of the popcorn machine at 8:00 wearing an indian headress and mouse ears.

 

[pw2pp]

Did you say that NONE of the people showed up??
Or did some of them show?

 

[Wish I lived in Fl]

Hello, It does stink to be stood up but don't take it personally!
After cleaning my house for 3 days for a cookie baking marathon each person invited cancelled. Some with good excuses(Fifth disease, some not). I have never scheduled one since.
The more work in preparing the greater the letdown when people don't show up. But the worst time was when I was the ONLY guest to show up to a Reiki party. The hostess had prepared beautiful food for 25, immaculate house, and it was only the hostess , the Reiki practicioner and I. Ouch!
Since then I have gone to other parties/gatherings with only about 1/4 showing up , 1/4 not showing up or calling and 1/2 cancelling the very day of the event. At least it is not just me.

 

[tiggersmom2]

I'm sorry you got stood up! I know I'm fairly new, but I can tell you with absolute conviction that I would not stand you up!!
Hope that makes you feel a little better!

 

[goofy4tink]

Bummer. Sorry Barry. I know I've tried to attend Dis meets but something always happens. We were supposed to meet a bunch of folks last August for Spectro, but my dd was really feeling awful, so we had to leave early. And there was no way to let anyone know. But with a cell phone there should be no excuse. A little courtesy goes a long way.

 

[snoopy]

Awwww, sorry Barry.

Since I know you, I can definately say their loss.

 

[Boston Tea Party]

I'm sorry to hear this.

So sorry that I almost signed up to meet with you in Houston. Almost...

 

[Margie J]

Barry, that stinks. From all I know you are a great, reliable guy who enjoys meeting others and having fun. It's really not nice to not even get an e-mail message explaining what happened.

 

[Poohbear123]

I have been the one sometimes who didn't show up at a meet, but it was due to being ill or the last time, I got there late, due to traveling schedule. YOU know I am VERY anxious to meet you, and was a little disappointed I didn't meet you that time I was with Michelle and Christine--you had car problems I think. Hope you feel better, but remember: IT'S NOT YOU! Don't take it personal......Faith

 

[Pam]

I am sorry that you were stood up, Barry. But I am very disappointed in the fact that you decided to publicly flame and embarrass the person before waiting for an explanation from him/her.

 

[Beauty]

I've been stood up before to Barry and it does stink especially since you are wasting time waiting on the people!

I have to agree with Judi! It was their loss, I know what a super person you are from our meet at the Tampa aquarium!!!!

 

[DocRafiki]

That sucks. I can't say anything because I am one of those chronically late people, which is why I rarely commit to anything. Wasn't I supposed to meet you guys at Busch Gardens once?

It's easy for stuff like that to happen when there's a large group involved. The individuals probably assume that everyone else will be there and that their own absence won't even be noticed.

 

[tigercat]

I know what it feels like as well. 3 yrs ago I arranged a meet on the Wonder. There was a very specific meeting place. My dd & I sat and waited for 40 min. and no one. Not one person came. We wore our lime green ribbons the whole trip but no one seemed to notice. I was really disappointed because I had hoped to do some things with some of them, especially since one of them had a dd the same age as my dgrdd.
tigercat

 

[Grog]

It's easy for stuff like that to happen when there's a large group involved. The individuals probably assume that everyone else will be there and that their own absence won't even be noticed.

ITA. I've been involved in a few group get togethers (non-DIS related) that have ended badly for this reason. Afterwards, everyone has the same excuse.... "I thought the others would be there and I wouldn't be missed"

 

[Dan Murphy]

I've certainly been involved with lots of meets, planning them, participating in them. Always a bit of an effort somewhere along the line to get them going, whether big or even one on ones. I have had some fall apart the same day and dissolve into thin air. Sometimes things just happen and sometimes the means of communication are not available (maybe person had number but forgot phone or battery dead or whatever). Try not to let it bug you, Barry, get another meet going, enjoy yourself, let others enjoy you. I've had some good times with you, hope to have more. And I bet this/these person/s will get in touch with you. Hang in there, buddy.

 

[lizdotcom99]

but i did have a family emergancy and lost your cell phone number and did not have access to a computer!!!! I ahve a learned a very important lesson in all of this..as soon as you gt a number...program it into your phone!!!!

Barry,
We did ahve a family emergancy and I was in Orlando a day longer than plnned. My nieces were at NDA Final at Universal when one of them got VERYsick and was dehydrated. Her mother was a chaperone of 4 other girls....... I had to fill in and be the chaperone while her mother and father took her to the hospital to get hydrated!!!

I did not have your number or access to a computer....please forgive me......I feel just awful!! I would NEVER intentionally not show up , just because. There really was a reason for my not making it! I just wish I would have been able to call you to give you a heads up. I did return your call, and there is a message on your voice mail. Again, I am so sorry to have caused you a wasted trip. I can only understand your frustration and disappointment!

Liz

 

[*Fantasia*]

Sorry to hear that they stood you up.

OK GUYS, YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE WHO STOOD BARRY ...Start PM-*** him and apologize. OK...it's not for me to tell you guys what to do, but I am sure you guys feel really bad and ashame for not calling him and letting him know that you guys are not going to show. Now you guys know how upset Barry is.

Sorry Barry...but keep setting up for the DIS MEET, but just don't expect for all to come I guess.

 

[Tinkbell]

lizdotcom99,

I hope everything is ok with your family. Sometimes emergencies come up. It was very nice of you to post on this thread.