Got called an ******* for getting off bus before the ramp was down for scooters

[Genie+]

i would call out their behavior and explain to them how inappropriate their remarks was and tell their dad and mother who were waiting in an EVC how disrespectful their adult child was.

Please explain why calling out bad behavior toward someone wouldn’t end well for either of us? If you don’t address bad behavior on the spot they will continue to do it. What do you think will happen?

The real winners at WDW are the people who do not escalate, even when given a reason.

You cannot control other people. You can only control yourself. Responding to inexcusable behavior with more negative behavior doesn’t seem the best way forward.

The best thing to prove at WDW is that you can be gracious to a fellow human, especially when they have lost their self control*. Show them the way. With a smile and compassion that maybe this is not their best moment. Because in the big picture what is WDW? A place we bring our children to dream big and be inspired by humanity. Where adults can tap back in to the wonder of their own inner child.

*obviously not if they are being dangerous, which did not seem to be the case here

 

[Isthisnormalatdisney]

Because you don’t know how that person will react. Maybe they would further insult you. Maybe they’d get physical with you. Maybe they’d say something that would trigger you to further react. Who knows? Things can happen quickly and someone might say or do something they’d regret in the heat of the moment.

You just never know. Lots of loose cannons out there.

I’m 6’2 220 pounds and bench 300 pounds, thank you for your concern but I think I can manage myself. Plus they were just coming back from the parks so it’s not like they had any weapons on them. They already escalated things. You can live your life being everyone’s doormat but I won’t.

 

[Isthisnormalatdisney]

The real winners at WDW are the people who do not escalate, even when given a reason.

You cannot control other people. You can only control yourself. Responding to inexcusable behavior with more negative behavior doesn’t seem the best way forward.

The best thing to prove at WDW is that you can be gracious to a fellow human, especially when they have lost their self control*. Show them the way. With a smile and compassion that maybe this is not their best moment. Because in the big picture what is WDW? A place we bring our children to dream big and be inspired by humanity. Where adults can tap back in to the wonder of their own inner child.

*obviously not if they are being dangerous, which did not seem to be the case here

Telling someone their behavior is unacceptable is not “negative behavior” if it was then all parenting is negative behavior. If a child bits anther kid you need to explain why that is bad behavior. This person was acting like a child therefore same strategies need to be used.

I’m sorry but I hear someone call my wife negative names, and I hear them, I will not just look at them and smile, that’s absurd.

 

[SirDuff]

Telling someone their behavior is unacceptable is not “negative behavior” if it was then all parenting is negative behavior. If a child bits anther kid you need to explain why that is bad behavior. This person was acting like a child therefore same strategies need to be used.

I’m sorry but I hear someone call my wife negative names, and I hear them, I will not just look at them and smile, that’s absurd.

YOUR child - fine

Otherwise, nope and you're just trying to use your size to intimidate others. Had I seen a scene you described above (where you told off others and waited to further tell off their parents), you're the one I'd thing was behaving badly and whose upbringing, manners, and morality, I'd be questioning.

 

[Isthisnormalatdisney]

YOUR child - fine

Otherwise, nope and you're just trying to use your size to intimidate others. Had I seen a scene you described above (where you told off others and waited to further tell off their parents), you're the one I'd thing was behaving badly and whose upbringing, manners, and morality, I'd be questioning.

Huh? How am I using size to intimidate others when this person called in the hypothetical situation my wife an “*******” clearly my size didn’t prevent that in this hypothetical situation.

if you judge the person politely telling that person how inappropriate that comment was worse then the person who needlessly made the comment then I question your judgement. The scene I described had no shouting or anything stop making assumptions. Based on what you are saying I honestly wouldn’t care what you think in that situation because apparently someone can say whatever they want to you or your family and you won’t say anything back.

 

[Disneylover99]

I’m 6’2 220 pounds and bench 300 pounds, thank you for your concern but I think I can manage myself. Plus they were just coming back from the parks so it’s not like they had any weapons on them. They already escalated things. You can live your life being everyone’s doormat but I won’t.

Taking the high road (especially in a non confrontational incident such as this) is not being a doormat. Just know, it doesn’t take a heck of a lot to get yourself trespassed from Disney. But you do you.

 

[Isthisnormalatdisney]

Taking the high road (especially in a non confrontational incident such as this) is not being a doormat. Just know, it doesn’t take a heck of a lot to get yourself trespassed from Disney. But you do you.

He called me an ******* infront of my wife……. If he called my wife an ******* infront of me that would be an issue too……

Apparently calling someone an ******* for no reason isn’t a reason to trespass me, so why would my non-vulgar response get me trespassed…. It’s victim blaming at its finest.

Anyways these comments have been eye-opening and showed me that I haven’t actually been missing much on these forums, I don’t have the time or power to argue with someone who has averaged about ten posts a day on a Disney forum for the last 12 years. I think you have a warped view of reality at Disney because you spend so much of your day focusing on Disney, most people don’t have their daily life revolve so much around Disney.

 

[SirDuff]

Bye bye!

 

[sam_gordon]

Anyways these comments have been eye-opening and showed me that I haven’t actually been missing much on these forums, I don’t have the time or power to argue with someone who has averaged about ten posts a day on a Disney forum for the last 12 years. I think you have a warped view of reality at Disney because you spend so much of your day focusing on Disney, most people don’t have their daily life revolve so much around Disney.

With all due respect, it's been made known for a while that "there's no pixie dust on the Transportation board".

The world, the country, and by extension Disney, is a different place. Not as many people "filter" themselves and have no issues being rude. And yes, you are correct that the more they don't get "called on it", that will just encourage them for the next time. The REALITY though is you don't know what a person will do if challenged.

Yes, it would be nice if everyone followed Disney (any locations) behavior guideline. However, going to security over someone calling you an ******* is an extreme step. Let's say, just for the sake of argument, security actually did go through the cameras, figured out who this person was, tracked them down, and had a talk with them. "Did you call someone an '*******' when getting off the bus this morning?" "Who, me? Couldn't be." Now what? "Oh, sorry for interrupting your day."?

THATs what people are responding to. Just because you don't like it doesn't mean it's not true.

And criticizing someone's post count is also rude. Should you be turned in to Dis "security"?

 

[traveler9]

Maybe they were still unhappy from when they found out they couldn’t get a free front of the line pass for having a scooter.

 

[titojackson84]

This is why when I commented, I said based on the information provided. I strongly feel there is another side to this story that was left out.

 

[Minnie1222]

Maybe they were still unhappy from when they found out they couldn’t get a free front of the line pass for having a scooter.

I don't think the OP had a scooter. From what I read, he was just an ambulatory guest who got off the bus as soon as the door was opened. The other passenger probably thought that the scooters get to leave first and OP was being unkind.

 

[traveler9]

I don't think the OP had a scooter. From what I read, he was just an ambulatory guest who got off the bus as soon as the door was opened. The other passenger probably thought that the scooters get to leave first and OP was being unkind.

I wasn’t referring to the OP. I was referring to the person who called them a name.

 

[Mouse Tracker]

one of the members in the party of 14

After I left he apparently called me an *******

Late to the party........As long as a Disney CM didn't call you the name, I think your over reacting to an everyday type of behavior that now exists everywhere. Security isn't responsible for enforcing manners. You should have anticipated that behavior from someone in that party based on your description of them. Life's short, ignore the "passive-aggressive" types.

 

[Woodview]

Because you don’t know how that person will react. Maybe they would further insult you. Maybe they’d get physical with you. Maybe they’d say something that would trigger you to further react. Who knows? Things can happen quickly and someone might say or do something they’d regret in the heat of the moment.

You just never know. Lots of loose cannons out there.

O.P. How would you react to Road rage ?

 

[gottalovepluto]

It is never too late to learn!

This classic childhood lesson is “sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me”. Internalize it. Now going forward whether you’re called a name at Disney or on the NYC subway your day will no longer be ruined!

 

[Sparrow'sLady]

Yea it is odd the type of gatekeeping. The rest of the trip was pretty swell.

https://disneyworld.disney.go.com/park-rules/#guest-courtesy-and-attire-policies
“

• Please show common courtesy to fellow Guests and our Cast Members by not using profanity or engaging in unsafe, illegal, disruptive or offensive behavior, jumping lines or saving places in lines for others. For your safety and the safety of others, please refrain from running except in designated areas.”

That’s what it says on their website. I honestly just don’t encounter it very often. Maybe it’s because I look intimidating, would probably explain why they waited until I got off to say it……….

Were you expecting them to ban him from the parks because he called you a name? I understand it got under your skin and it is apparently still bothering you, but they are not going to give him the boot because you got your feelings hurt. You talk about being big and strong, but you are being very overly sensitive about this. So what if he called you a name? If you are that fragile that you need to tell security, public places in this selfish world will always let you down. It is time for you to move on from this situation. There are much worse things that could have happened.

And just a note - I know antisemitism is on the rise. I can understand that you may feel a heightened sense of awareness of how people treat you if they can determine you are Jewish (you mentioned wearing a kippa), but sadly, many people are just jerks and they do not care what religion you follow or what your ethic background is. I am a Christian. If I heard somebody attack you, a complete stranger, because you are Jewish, you can bet I would stick my nose in as I am aware of what is happening in the world. However, if I heard somebody call you a bad name not related to Judiasm, I would keep walking and shake my head. I think you should just let it go.

 

[AstroBlasters]

The person who called the OP a bad name probably hasn’t given it a second thought. Whereas the OP seems to still be upset by it and it’s negatively impacting him.

When I was younger, I felt the need to respond to any perceived slight.

As I have aged I am settling into taking a beat to consider “does this actually matter”. With perspective, I am finding that most things don’t fall into the “actually matter” category.

 

[Isthisnormalatdisney]

Late to the party........As long as a Disney CM didn't call you the name, I think your over reacting to an everyday type of behavior that now exists everywhere. Security isn't responsible for enforcing manners. You should have anticipated that behavior from someone in that party based on your description of them. Life's short, ignore the "passive-aggressive" types.

Being called an ******* isn’t an everyday behavior I experience. Nor was it something I would have anticipated, guess I will for now on though.

O.P. How would you react to Road rage ?

Depends on the facts and circumstances.

Were you expecting them to ban him from the parks because he called you a name? I understand it got under your skin and it is apparently still bothering you, but they are not going to give him the boot because you got your feelings hurt. You talk about being big and strong, but you are being very overly sensitive about this. So what if he called you a name? If you are that fragile that you need to tell security, public places in this selfish world will always let you down. It is time for you to move on from this situation. There are much worse things that could have happened.

And just a note - I know antisemitism is on the rise. I can understand that you may feel a heightened sense of awareness of how people treat you if they can determine you are Jewish (you mentioned wearing a kippa), but sadly, many people are just jerks and they do not care what religion you follow or what your ethic background is. I am a Christian. If I heard somebody attack you, a complete stranger, because you are Jewish, you can bet I would stick my nose in as I am aware of what is happening in the world. However, if I heard somebody call you a bad name not related to Judiasm, I would keep walking and shake my head. I think you should just let it go.

It is not in face still bothering me. They could speak to him, I never suggested banning him, but most of the time when people make those comments they aren’t one off’s they do it regularly. It was just something odd that happened, prob why they waited till I got off, but then subjected my wife to it.

The person who called the OP a bad name probably hasn’t given it a second thought. Whereas the OP seems to still be upset by it and it’s negatively impacting him.

When I was younger, I felt the need to respond to any perceived slight.

As I have aged I am settling into taking a beat to consider “does this actually matter”. With perspective, I am finding that most things don’t fall into the “actually matter” category.

I am not in fact still upset by it, nor am I allowing it to continue to upset me. I posted this trend to see what the policy was for the rest of my vacation and share this negative experience. I don’t know if they gave it a second thought, maybe they have if they think I skipped them, maybe they were angry about it for awhile, idk.

 

[Sparrow'sLady]

Regardless of how one perceives policy, Disney does not care if somebody called you a name. Period. Putting that verbiage out there about to treat other guests is not to protect you. It is to protect them should something turn legal. It does not matter if he called 20 people a name. Disney is not going to do anything about it.

I personally do not cuss nor do I care to hear it, but some people just have a nasty mouth and that is just who they are. Some cultures also speak trashy because that is their culture. You just have to avoid it where you can and move on from them. At the end of the day, Disney is not going to control language. They allow people to wear disgusting things on shirts, shorts that are almost bikini bottoms, smoke in non-smoking areas, wear Heeleys in the park and more, all which are against their rules, yet they do not do anything to enforce it. I have watched CMs look, shake their head and walk right past it for the last 10 years or so.