First off
Secondly, don't show your DS this thread--maybe he will fare better than many of us.
Third, I had my four impacted wisdom teeth extraced when DD was 6 months old. I truly feel (and felt then when drug free child birth was still fresh in my mind) taht hte pain from the extraction was the worst pain I have ever been in (my pain meds wore off before the pharmacist had filled my perscription I left the oral surgeon's with). SO I recomend getting the oral surgeon to prescribe the pain meds BEFORE the surgery so you can fill it before surgery (this is what I am doing for DD who is having oral surgery tomorrow).
I was unable to chew anything for the first four days and then moved on to scrambled eggs, mashed potatoes and the like for another week.
Here are the things DD's doctor suggested for her (keep reading it is not all dairy):
Milk shakes, smoothies, sorbet, ice cream, etc. (I found the cold numbed the pain and was good--seems to vary with the person) and popsicles
Yogurt, pudding, etc.
Soups without chunks (broth, cheese soup, tomato soup, onion soup without the pieces of onion or the cheese, cream of ____soups)
jello, even spoonfuls of jelly if the taste sounds better
small amounts of soft cheese or peanut butter on a small spoon to lick off
chunk free spagetti sauce--she said to lick it off the tip of a bread stick that kids often like the taste of that
lots of different juices and even soda if it gets a few calories in her
any sauce or gravy she really likes--just let her eat it plain with a spoon
applesauce
ONCE SHE CAN CHEW A LITTLE:
eggs--scrambled soft of boiled
pasta--overcooked to mushy
cream of wheat
canned fruit--the really soft stuff like pears also soft fruits like over ripe bananas or nectarines
mashed potatoes
beans cooked super soft (she's not going to touch those--but maybe your kids will)
very flaky soft white fish
veggies cooked really soft (carrots, sweet potatoes, peas, etc)
chicken soup (soft meat) with dumplings
peanut butter (she can lick it off a spoon)
soft cheeses like cream cheese, brie, camambert etc. (again she can even lick it off a spoon)
I hope this helps
Edited to add--I forgot to say that she suggested that if opening the mouth wide enough for a breadstick is not too painful, then eating any of the above with that instead of a hard spoon may be more comfortable and to at least use platic spoons instead of harder metal ones.