Gloomy people

[la79al]

I am sitting here listening to the music from Wishes. I put it on and then the baby fell asleep and if I turn it off she will wake up so I am listening to it over and over and over again....Anyhow, I'm just wondering if anyone else has someone like this in their group-my husband gets grouchy at DW. Why? Because there is so much about dreams coming true and he feels like none of his dreams have ever come true and it's all a big lie. I try pointing out that while he might not have everything he wants, he has a lot others would love to have. It doesn't really help so I ignore him and enjoy DW. Just wondering if there are others out there.

 

[8disneyfans]

I am sorry I don't have that with my husband. He enjoys making others dreams come true more then his own. But I just wanted to say that is one of the saddest things I have heard. I am sorry he feels that way.
I think DW is such a special place! I don't care if my dreams don't come true, but enjoy watching my children and their dreams come true. Simple ones like meeting Mickey Mouse or Tinkerbell. Sometimes it isn't about us but those around us.
I think your husband needs to open his eyes and look at you and your baby if that isn't a dream I don't know what is.

I hope you have a good day.

 

[jj1403]

Sorry to hear that..it makes me sad.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Sounds like a man that needs to be reminded how important having a loving family can be. Have him watch "It's a Wonderful Life" repeatedly until he repents...

 

[brockash]

I am sitting here listening to the music from Wishes. I put it on and then the baby fell asleep and if I turn it off she will wake up so I am listening to it over and over and over again....Anyhow, I'm just wondering if anyone else has someone like this in their group-my husband gets grouchy at DW. Why? Because there is so much about dreams coming true and he feels like none of his dreams have ever come true and it's all a big lie. I try pointing out that while he might not have everything he wants, he has a lot others would love to have. It doesn't really help so I ignore him and enjoy DW. Just wondering if there are others out there.

I also somehow got one of those DH's, and is a big reason on why if I can help it, I try to go without him. He and I went to the world once for a day and a half, and he wasn't too bad, but we went to DL with the kiddos for a few days, and he was a grouch, and gets grouchy at me because of my love for Disney. Sometimes I swear my 6 year old is more mature than him... it's not all about "me me me." Good luck... I personally am hoping that as he gets older he may come to realize a few things, we'll see.

 

[ilandrazdsw]

Awww...
I would ask DH what was I...and the kids...his dreams did come true!

 

[wdwmom0f3]

We have been to Disney several times but there was one trip when my DH was a grouch. You could just tell that he didn't want to be there. In fact, he tried to talk me into canceling the trip but I refused.

It turned out that he was borderline depressed. We were in debt, he HATED his boss and other things. I had no idea. So, we took control of the debt, now all gone, took a job transfer and life is good. Since then we have been back to Disney a few times and he has been great.

All I am saying is that in the happiest place on earth, if he is not happy, there may be another reason. It was for us.

 

[astine75]

I agree with WDWmomof3. I think there is something to be said for the male idea of wishes and reality. Some times they wish for just don't match in the here and now. My husband does wacky things where he gets anxious because we don't have X, Y, or Z and it turns out it stems from feeling like he isn't providing enough. If you read the 5 Languages of Love, it can give you some good ideas on how to communicate on things like this. It is amazing. I advise you to check it out because it sounds like your dh is trying to communicate something else that is wrong. (Every male I have convinced to ready it agreed too. That says something, I think.) HUGS!

 

[krismom]

My DH calls Disney "manufactured happiness" to which I say, what's wrong with that?

 

[ScrapperBelle]

Many of the dreams I had at 16 didn't come true. Life happens and your dreams change. At 16 I never dreamt I'd be a stepmom oneday. I never dreamt I'd be a SAHM to my son...but those things happened and my dreams changed.

I know my hubby never dreamed of being divorced and remarried. We both never dreamed we would lose his son (my stepson...who lived with us for years...so just like my own) in a car accident last year.

I surely didn't dream that my sister would get cancer and spend most of this last year fighting for her life.

Disney is about CONTINUING to dream...even when things go wrong. It's about changing your dreams and realizing that even on bad days you're luckier than a good deal of the people sharing the planet with you. It's about not letting the bad stuff get to you and still believing in and seeing all the good, beautiful things in this world everyday.

& to you.

 

[DWFan4Life]

I am sitting here listening to the music from Wishes. I put it on and then the baby fell asleep and if I turn it off she will wake up so I am listening to it over and over and over again....Anyhow, I'm just wondering if anyone else has someone like this in their group-my husband gets grouchy at DW. Why? Because there is so much about dreams coming true and he feels like none of his dreams have ever come true and it's all a big lie. I try pointing out that while he might not have everything he wants, he has a lot others would love to have. It doesn't really help so I ignore him and enjoy DW. Just wondering if there are others out there.

Sad to hear that. But I just wan to ask, having you and your baby, isn't that a dream for him?