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IF a single mom makes enough money to pay for rent, electricity, car note, insurance, medicines, gas for the car, water, sewer, phone bills, food then that is awesome!!!
The rent on a one bedroom vs two bedroom. Food is clearly more for two, especially if baby food is involved or formula. Clearly different groceries for different people. Diapers, clothes, gas and electricity to run twice as many loads of wash, sometimes more in the case of a messy toddler or potty training. Gas to shop different stores, different doctors, school, day care, evening care, more clothes because the clothes he or she was wearing last tuesday no longer fit, more toddler decongestant, more shoes because the shoes he or she wore yesterday don't fit, winter coat in size 2 for this winter, winter coat in size 4 for next winter (hopefully, the woman's coat size will not change), same thing for pants, paint for the walls because child used a marker on the baseboards, money for an ER visit because child stuck an unpopped kernel of corn up his nose and it's now stuck, etc. You get the idea.
How does it NOT double is the question.
(Disclaimer: My kids would like everyone on the DISBoards to know that the events described above are not necessarily my experiences and no inference to that effect should be made, especially with the unpopped corn kernel
When I chose to have a child, I did so with the attitude that I wasn't going to rely on ANY man for support. You can't imagine how much easier it was for me, even as poor as I was, than it was for my friends who were under constant stress and pressure waiting for checks that never came, and going to court every time the issue came up.
Do I think every mother should be this way? No. But it worked for me, and it's what I base my opinions on. If somewhere out of the blue, my DS's sperm donor sent me a big fat check, every penny of it would go to DS happily. I've done my job and I don't consider it the least bit of a "sacrifice."That's just me.
I don't know how to explain this, and I'm not sure I really want to, considering I'll probably have my post ripped to shreds by the screaming mob, and I'm not quite in the mood for it.
When I chose to have a child, I did so with the attitude that I wasn't going to rely on ANY man for support. You can't imagine how much easier it was for me, even as poor as I was, than it was for my friends who were under constant stress and pressure waiting for checks that never came, and going to court every time the issue came up.
Do I think every mother should be this way? No. But it worked for me, and it's what I base my opinions on. If somewhere out of the blue, my DS's sperm donor sent me a big fat check, every penny of it would go to DS happily. I've done my job and I don't consider it the least bit of a "sacrifice."
