Girls, why do we do this to ourselves?

[disneychick2721]

Honestly, people make fun of me for this but, I love myself.
Not in the Zomg I love myself im perfect way, but in the, I know I have flaws and I've fully excepted it kind of way.
Are there things I wish I could change about myself, yes, Im a sorta chubby and I've got some acne. I'd love to change those things.
But who doesnt have things they wish they could change?
As cliché as it sounds it really is on the inside that matters.
Wouldnt it be easier and waste less energy if everyone was just happy with themselves ?

 

[Cinderelli16]

Honestly, people make fun of me for this but, I love myself.
Not in the Zomg I love myself im perfect way, but in the, I know I have flaws and I've fully excepted it kind of way.
Are there things I wish I could change about myself, yes, Im a sorta chubby and I've got some acne. I'd love to change those things.
But who doesnt have things they wish they could change?
As cliché as it sounds it really is on the inside that matters.
Wouldnt it be easier and waste less energy if everyone was just happy with themselves ?

High five on that one!
I agree with everything you just said.

 

[BabyPiglet]

Wouldnt it be easier and waste less energy if everyone was just happy with themselves ?

Haha, definitely. It'd also be easier if people didn't murder each other, there were no prejudice, and everything was made out of chocolate and gold.

I'm agreeing with you, I just let my sarcasm overpower me sometimes.

Life isn't easy, it takes a lot for a person to love themselves. And sometimes it never happens. It's a mental thing, you can't just wake up one day and dismiss all your flaws. Believing in yourself is hardwork.

 

[disneychick2721]

High five on that one!
I agree with everything you just said.

whoooo !

Haha, definitely. It'd also be easier if people didn't murder each other, there were no prejudice, and everything was made out of chocolate and gold.

I'm agreeing with you, I just let my sarcasm overpower me sometimes.

Life isn't easy, it takes a lot for a person to love themselves. And sometimes it never happens. It's a mental thing, you can't just wake up one day and dismiss all your flaws. Believing in yourself is hardwork.

Its cool im the same way with sarcasm. haha.

Well of coarse its not easy. Were only human. And your right it doesnt just happen and it is hardwork.
For me it started last summer, I basically lived behind my computer most days because I didnt have many friends to hang out with anyway. So I think being by myself a lot and able to think about whats really important kind of made me realize that it doesnt matter, you just need to love yourself inside out no matter what you'd like to change. No matter how many friends or family you have you have to live with yourself everyday.

 

[topaz_onyx]

Well I don't really wear that much make up, but tbh, at our school everyone wears it, and most people wear loads. I sort of feel pressured to wear more. Some people look ridiculous though, they put so much foundation on that they're bright orange. I normally wear neutral eyeshadow, brown eyeliner and false lash effect mascara, just eye make up because its only really the make up that I look good in, it makes my eyes look quite nice, but foundation is always too dark for me. I don't straighten/curl my hair either. I did used to go through a stage where I thought I was really overweight (was 8 and a half stone, still am) so then I would starve myself, I stopped doing it after I fainted during Geography and was told it was due to not enough food. I still dont eat breakfast though :/

 

[life of the party]

Honestly, people make fun of me for this but, I love myself.
Not in the Zomg I love myself im perfect way, but in the, I know I have flaws and I've fully excepted it kind of way.
Are there things I wish I could change about myself, yes, Im a sorta chubby and I've got some acne. I'd love to change those things.
But who doesnt have things they wish they could change?
As cliché as it sounds it really is on the inside that matters.
Wouldnt it be easier and waste less energy if everyone was just happy with themselves ?

your really lucky
i wish i could believe in myself like that

Well I don't really wear that much make up, but tbh, at our school everyone wears it, and most people wear loads. I sort of feel pressured to wear more. Some people look ridiculous though, they put so much foundation on that they're bright orange. I normally wear neutral eyeshadow, brown eyeliner and false lash effect mascara, just eye make up because its only really the make up that I look good in, it makes my eyes look quite nice, but foundation is always too dark for me. I don't straighten/curl my hair either. I did used to go through a stage where I thought I was really overweight (was 8 and a half stone, still am) so then I would starve myself, I stopped doing it after I fainted during Geography and was told it was due to not enough food. I still dont eat breakfast though :/

you lose more weight when you eat breakfast
http://www.webmd.com/diet/features/lose-weight-eat-breakfast

 

[disneydance]

Don't. It will harm you more than help.

If you really want to lose weight, then eat healthier & work out. Being thin takes a lot of work.

You think you're taking the easy way out, but seriously, it will not help.

I was eating healthier, and working out...
I cant do much currently since I retore my ACL 2 weeks ago (I'm getting really good at that is the third time...)
So I'm not really sure what I can do since I'm not supposed to run, I can walk and that really about it...

 

[bananda]

I was eating healthier, and working out...
I cant do much currently since I retore my ACL 2 weeks ago (I'm getting really good at that is the third time...)
So I'm not really sure what I can do since I'm not supposed to run, I can walk and that really about it...

walking is really good for you. get one of those step counter things

 

[chisnpeke]

your really lucky
i wish i could believe in myself like that



you lose more weight when you eat breakfast
http://www.webmd.com/diet/features/lose-weight-eat-breakfast

I've read that several places.

 

[BabyPiglet]

I was eating healthier, and working out...
I cant do much currently since I retore my ACL 2 weeks ago (I'm getting really good at that is the third time...)
So I'm not really sure what I can do since I'm not supposed to run, I can walk and that really about it...

So.

Excuses are no good, honey.

Walk. Walking is good for you, and will help you heal. If you sit around on that couch all day meaning to take the easy way out, it won't do any good.

 

[Do_u_beleive_n_magic]

So I've read this thread from the very beginning but haven't posted up until this point. I usually dont talk about my past but I feel like this thread needs a testimony from someone who has actually suffered from an eating disorder.

I am 15 years old and have suffered from anorexia nervosa sub type 2 (meaning with binge/purge) since I was 12 years old. I have been to rehab 3 times and am now in recovery from the illness. Most people dont know that eating disorders are genetic. They are caused when an individual with this latent genetic vulnerability goes on a diet, exercises, or throws up. The disease works in much the same way as alcoholism: yes the individual has to take that first drink but after that something turns on in their brain that causes them to not be able to stop.

When I was a child I was overweight. Then when I was 8 my mom was diagnosed with cancer and to comfort myself I started eating. After I gained a good amount of weight I started dieting and exercising. I developed anorexia and a severe exercise addiction. I was compelled to exercise ALL the time. I could not be at home without running, doing crunches, etc. So when I was 13 I was admitted to an inpatient treatment center. Then when I was released I began binge eating and to combat that I began throwing up, then starving again. So 1 year later I was again admitted to rehab at 14, weighing only 72 lbs. at 5' 3". Well then after getting out of rehab I again relapsed. And for the first time I was begging to get help. I knew how awful I looked. I knew how unhealthy I was. And I knew that without help I would die. The problem was that after two treatments and thousands of dollars wasted with no success in treating me, neither my family nor my doctors wanted me back in rehab. So I took the step to admit myself. I had quite a large stash of money in the bank that my grandfather had left me so I used this to pay for another treatment. I was admitted April 1 and discharged June 5. I am now at my ideal body weight (115 lbs. and 5' 3") and am the happiest ive ever been.

I hope that through my story people will realize that an eating disorder is not a choice but a MENTAL ILLNESS. People with eating disorders have a distorted body image. Many sufferers see themselves as fat even when they are dieing of starvation. They cannot control their disease anymore than an untreated schizophrenic can control their disease. I did not choose to almost die; I just wanted to lose 10 lbs. The general population needs to be educated on what eating disorders really are A DISEASE that kills.

For more info on eating disorders go to:
http://www.something-fishy.org

or to see how many sufferers view themselves go to:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XtcV_3lLrF0

feel free to message me

 

[Do_u_beleive_n_magic]

So I've read this thread from the very beginning but haven't posted up until this point. I usually dont talk about my past but I feel like this thread needs a testimony from someone who has actually suffered from an eating disorder.

I am 15 years old and have suffered from anorexia nervosa sub type 2 (meaning with binge/purge) since I was 12 years old. I have been to rehab 3 times and am now in recovery from the illness. Most people dont know that eating disorders are genetic. They are caused when an individual with this latent genetic vulnerability goes on a diet, exercises, or throws up. The disease works in much the same way as alcoholism: yes the individual has to take that first drink but after that something turns on in their brain that causes them to not be able to stop.

When I was a child I was overweight. Then when I was 8 my mom was diagnosed with cancer and to comfort myself I started eating. After I gained a good amount of weight I started dieting and exercising. I developed anorexia and a severe exercise addiction. I was compelled to exercise ALL the time. I could not be at home without running, doing crunches, etc. So when I was 13 I was admitted to an inpatient treatment center. Then when I was released I began binge eating and to combat that I began throwing up, then starving again. So 1 year later I was again admitted to rehab at 14, weighing only 72 lbs. at 5' 3". Well then after getting out of rehab I again relapsed. And for the first time I was begging to get help. I knew how awful I looked. I knew how unhealthy I was. And I knew that without help I would die. The problem was that after two treatments and thousands of dollars wasted with no success in treating me, neither my family nor my doctors wanted me back in rehab. So I took the step to admit myself. I had quite a large stash of money in the bank that my grandfather had left me so I used this to pay for another treatment. I was admitted April 1 and discharged June 5. I am now at my ideal body weight (115 lbs. and 5' 3") and am the happiest ive ever been.

I hope that through my story people will realize that an eating disorder is not a choice but a MENTAL ILLNESS. People with eating disorders have a distorted body image. Many sufferers see themselves as fat even when they are dieing of starvation. They cannot control their disease anymore than an untreated schizophrenic can control their disease. I did not choose to almost die; I just wanted to lose 10 lbs. The general population needs to be educated on what eating disorders really are A DISEASE that kills.

For more info on eating disorders go to:
http://www.something-fishy.org

or to see how many sufferers view themselves go to:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XtcV_3lLrF0

feel free to message me

 

[BabyPiglet]

I'm not sure why you posted this twice?

This thread is really old.

I know about eating disorders, and that wasn't what this thread was about.

 

[Do_u_beleive_n_magic]

I'm not sure why you posted this twice?

This thread is really old.

I know about eating disorders, and that wasn't what this thread was about.

sorry about posting twice my computer was being really screwy.

As for the threads purpose: In my view this thread was about girls torturing themselves to attain an ideal of beauty that is promoted in the media by which we are all surrounded. The media promotes dieting and thenceforth eating disorders. Therefore I fail to see how eating disorders aren't relative to this thread.

 

[BabyPiglet]

sorry about posting twice my computer was being really screwy.

As for the threads purpose: In my view this thread was about girls torturing themselves to attain an ideal of beauty that is promoted in the media by which we are all surrounded. The media promotes dieting and thenceforth eating disorders. Therefore I fail to see how eating disorders aren't relative to this thread.

Okay, true. This thread was me being frusterated that woman torture themselves to attain standards of beauty that aren't really possible. It happened to be after my sociology class, and I was in a mood, lol.

To me, eating disorders fall into a different category. The category of a true mental illness/disease.

I can see how some people might see a connection, but I don't. Skipping meals and having let's say anorexia nervosa are two totally different things.

I know you're not new, but I haven't seen you around much, so welcome to the TB.