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[Tinkerbell424]

guys my friend, john paul,well his grandmother died 2 hours ago.
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Aww, I'm sorry.

Prayers for him and his family.

 

[ginnygirl102]

Hey if anyone is on

 

[Tinkerbell424]

Hey.

Ugh...I hate that I am so shy. People think I'm a stuck up witch because of it. :/

 

[pigletgirl]

Its hard for me to imagine somebody who is shy, to be called a stuck up witch....maybe my brain isn't working, but that really doesn't comprehend too well.

And yes, my periods are crazy too.

 

[ginnygirl102]

Aww I'm sorry! I went through that once. But I became more outgoing. and people started to like me sooo much more!

 

[pigletgirl]

True!! People think you don't like them if you're quiet or don't care...ect.

 

[ginnygirl102]

Yeah! I know what you mean!

 

[Tinkerbell424]

Its hard for me to imagine somebody who is shy, to be called a stuck up witch....maybe my brain isn't working, but that really doesn't comprehend too well.

And yes, my periods are crazy too.

Mhm..well, I just normally sit in class and observe. I don't normally talk unless someone speaks to me or I'm with friends/people I know. I got that in a truthbox message on Myspace, as well as some other things. Even though, I know what the stuff said is not true and shouldnt matter, it still really hurts.
I've been having major self-esteem issues and this just didnt help.
I don't get it either.

Aww I'm sorry! I went through that once. But I became more outgoing. and people started to like me sooo much more!

Thanks. I have friends, lots of people like me and think I'm nice and sweet. But I guess you cant please everyone, huh?

I think I know who may have wrote it. But she never liked me for no apparent reason. Should I just look at this as a building block to achieve being outgoing and more nice to people and to build up my self-esteem?

 

[pigletgirl]

Self-esteem stuff is soooo hard to work through!! I had it really bad in 8th and 9th grade. I was so hard on myself, and the only thing I could control was what I was eating...alas it turned into an eating disorder.

Most days I had to dig real deep inside myself just to put a smile on my face. My parents were never happy, I only had superficial friends. Its like the world hated me. I learned though, that the world did NOT hate me, but I hated it.

Its so hard!! Do you have someone to talk to about this?? Friend, family member, counselor, teacher, pastor, ect??

 

[Tinkerbell424]

Self-esteem stuff is soooo hard to work through!! I had it really bad in 8th and 9th grade. I was so hard on myself, and the only thing I could control was what I was eating...alas it turned into an eating disorder.

Most days I had to dig real deep inside myself just to put a smile on my face. My parents were never happy, I only had superficial friends. Its like the world hated me. I learned though, that the world did NOT hate me, but I hated it.

:hugs: Its so hard!! Do you have someone to talk to about this?? Friend, family member, counselor, teacher, pastor, ect??

Aw, I'm sorry to hear that!

I have my mom. She's my best friend. I have been talking to her a lot about this stuff. She wants me to go back to this doctor I was seeing last year, for depression. I think this year it's..much more real then it was in the 9th grade? I'm drawn back, I don't talk much, I never want to leave my house, Self-esteem, Constant sadness, major anxiety/nervous issues.

I think I need to try harder..and learn how to build myself up again and learn how to put a smile on my face.

May I ask, how you got through your self esteem problems?

 

[pigletgirl]

Well I did see my doctor who had me fill out the survey for depression. I made the criteria for medication, however, right before that I was diagnosed with anorexia. My psychiatrist wanted me to try and recover and heal from that before starting meds. He said that in the beginning it could of made my anorexia worse.

I was taken under the wing of my youth pastor, who would counsel me 2x/week, and then I had my psychologist who helped me also with the depression and eating disorder.

But I have to say, my pastor made the biggest difference. He showed me what was/is beautiful about my body, inside and out. Through tears, the bible, my parents and friends, I slowly started to recover.

It took almost 6 months for me to fully be back to myself.

Even to this day though, I still have issues with body image, and I have to remind myself I am NOT fat, but am a beautiful woman. the girls/women on the magazines arent even all that real (I mean they are, but the flaws are removed)....

So, yeah, hopefully you got thru that!!

btw, i never went on meds. I still meet with my psychiatrist and pastor 2x/year, just as a check-up. It gives me alot of security.

 

[Tinkerbell424]

I'm glad you got through that, Emily!

Thank you SO much, you just gave me a couple of ideas of how I could possibly help myself, a bit.

 

[pigletgirl]

I'm glad!! Just know you're not alone!!!

 

[Tinkerbell424]

That's someone I need to keep in mind, and try to think about when I'm trying to be better.

 

[3mtn-kate]

Self-esteem stuff is soooo hard to work through!! I had it really bad in 8th and 9th grade. I was so hard on myself, and the only thing I could control was what I was eating...alas it turned into an eating disorder.

Most days I had to dig real deep inside myself just to put a smile on my face. My parents were never happy, I only had superficial friends. Its like the world hated me. I learned though, that the world did NOT hate me, but I hated it.

Its so hard!! Do you have someone to talk to about this?? Friend, family member, counselor, teacher, pastor, ect??

i know how you feel
i've lived pretty much my whole life hating everything about myself and i really do mean absolutely everything

i saw a psychatrist for a while but she didn't really get to what was really going on so that was when i tried to connect with god again and that helped A LOT i mean i'm not saying that everyone who's sad should go out and be super religious but it's what has helped me through a lot and i have two REALLY AMAZING friends that i go to with everything i can't work out on my own so you really have to know who your friends are

hope that helps a little you'll get through it

 

[Tinkerbell424]

i know how you feel
i've lived pretty much my whole life hating everything about myself and i really do mean absolutely everything

i saw a psychatrist for a while but she didn't really get to what was really going on so that was when i tried to connect with god again and that helped A LOT i mean i'm not saying that everyone who's sad should go out and be super religious but it's what has helped me through a lot and i have two REALLY AMAZING friends that i go to with everything i can't work out on my own so you really have to know who your friends are

hope that helps a little you'll get through it

Thank you!

Im sorry about how you felt, but I am glad you got through it as well with the help of your friends and God.

I am not religious by any means, but I want to try and get closer to God and connecting with angels. I hope that will help me some.

 

[3mtn-kate]

Thank you!

Im sorry about how you felt, but I am glad you got through it as well with the help of your friends and God.

I am not religious by any means, but I want to try and get closer to God and connecting with angels. I hope that will help me some.

that's really great i think it will totally help you

i'm not over myself by any means but i think god has just given me a new perspective on everything and helped make myself kind of less important *if that makes sense* so i don't dwell on what i hate about myself

but on other, better stuff

 

[Tinkerbell424]

that's really great i think it will totally help you

i'm not over myself by any means but i think god has just given me a new perspective on everything and helped make myself kind of less important *if that makes sense* so i don't dwell on what i hate about myself

but on other, better stuff

Aw thats good.
This may be a stupid question, but how did you connect to God and become closer with him?

I usually only pray at bedtime, but like I said..I want to have a better relationship and connection with God. I'm just not sure how to.

 

[pigletgirl]

No, it isn't a stupid question at all!

Be like, Dear God, thank you so much for (*insert here, whatever your thankful for, like a beautiful day, ect), but God, I just pray that you could help me with my self-esteem issues. I'm feeling pretty down on myself right now and I just want to be healed from my hurts and issues. Help me to find the right counselors and people who can help me thru this journey...
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Something along those lines. I get closer to God especially when I'm praying and when reading my bible.

HTH!

 

[3mtn-kate]

Aw thats good.
This may be a stupid question, but how did you connect to God and become closer with him?

I usually only pray at bedtime, but like I said..I want to have a better relationship and connection with God. I'm just not sure how to.

that's totally not a stupid question i didn't know how either...

well for me it was going on a mission trip over the summer where i went to maryland and did communinty service for a week. it was run by this catholic orginazation and it was absolutely amazing we went to mass every day and had speakers at night it was fantastic it just helped me realize that i didn't have to change who i am i just had to live a little differently.

there are deffinitally easier things to do than that but that was what did it for me.