Girls Only Trip. OLD THREAD! Please see first post for link to new one, thanks!

[MamaKate]

I guess two of us could start a pool . .. . or maybe we should start a pool on the birthdate of the new baby? I'm excited for you . . . how are your son and daughter taking the news of the impending little one?

No names planned yet, but I told my doctor if this baby isn't born by 12/29 he is enducing me so it's born before the end of the year. I really need the tax deduction . My due date currently is 12/26. One of the girls at my work really gets mad everytime I say this because she says the baby will come when it's ready & I'm being selfish .

Oh, and if you can sew on a button, then you are doing better then me.

Beth you are such a domestic Goddess .

I know I haven't been on in a bit. I'm currently in NY with dh's family. On Sunday we're headed to NJ to visit with my family. I'll be back on around the middle of August.

steph

Have fun back home . I know you were really missing it.

Hi guys-
I am another one who cannot sew for beans. I can attach a button, but other than that, I take things to a tailor. In fact, in school I got all A's, a few B's and one C in my life. And it was in sewing. I swear I tried so hard and failed miserably. I probably should have truly failed but the teacher took pity on me gave me a C.

My tailor is my mother & I'm sure she loves it . Also in school I was the same, I tried but I just wasn't good at it. I guess my fine motor skills are off .

Who knew that I would end up being the domestic arts queen now!! I sew, I iron EVERYTHING (I think that is the Ohio in me), and am known as Becky Crocker at work for my baking!! Tiramisu or cheesecake anybody?

AMY

I can cook, clean and I'm also an ironing fiend (but I don't iron my PJ's), however sowing is a different animal .

 

[MamaKate]

To all the ladies with preteen kids, can I just tell you I hate how fast kids grow up these days . I've always tried to keep my kids as young and carefree as I could. But it gets harder and harder, especially when so many of their peers are so fast.

Let me start off by saying my son will be 13 next month and he's a good looking kid. However, he is very shy and immature for his age. He still plays with action figures and even wears spiderman t-shirts in Jr. High. Before the summer his only cares in the world were playing with his best friend, riding bikes, watching wrestling and playing Pokemon video games.

Well I put him in the YMCA this summer because I thought it would be good for him to have structure during the summer. Boy this is one of the biggest mistakes of my life. The first month was fine, he hung out with the kids that like to play Pokemon video games and soccor. However, the YMCA has no structure except for field trip days. They let the kids wonder all over the school property with no adult supervision. I've seen kids "making out" with no worries of getting caught.

Then my son starts hanging out with the older, cooler kids and things get worse. He doesn't want me to come around when I drop him off or pick him up & I then start finding notes from little girls with sexual content. Then when I pick him up on Monday, I find him with about 3 other boys and 4 girls way off in a field with no supervision. I immediately told the teacher that I put my son in this program to have adult supervision and that he is not to be running freely around the school . Yesterday I go in the class to pick him up and on the way to the car there is a little boy and girl hugged up outside. The little girl stops Devin and asked him if he gave his girlfriend a hug and kiss goodbye. Here's the conversation I have with the little girl:

Me: "Excuse me, what did you ask my son!"
Girl: "UMMM??"
Me: "I'm his mother and it is very rude that you'd make a comment like that in front of me. How old are you?"
Girl: "12."
Me: "You are too young to put so much effort into boyfriends & girlfriends. You should really respect yourself and enjoy being a child while you're a child."

She looked stunned and we left. I may have overreacted but I was caught off guard and not expecting to hear that. I actually refrained myself from what I really wanted to say.

I decided to take my son out of the YMCA since it's actually making him worse instead of molding him into a young man. I know my kids have to grow up, but I think they are still too young to be worrying about sex.

Sorry this is so long, but I really had to get it off my chest .

 

[grizbuzz]

To all the ladies with preteen kids, can I just tell you I hate how fast kids grow up these days . I've always tried to keep my kids as young and carefree as I could. But it gets harder and harder, especially when so many of their peers are so fast.

Let me start off by saying my son will be 13 next month and he's a good looking kid. However, he is very shy and immature for his age. He still plays with action figures and even wears spiderman t-shirts in Jr. High. Before the summer his only cares in the world were playing with his best friend, riding bikes, watching wrestling and playing Pokemon video games.

Well I put him in the YMCA this summer because I thought it would be good for him to have structure during the summer. Boy this is one of the biggest mistakes of my life. The first month was fine, he hung out with the kids that like to play Pokemon video games and soccor. However, the YMCA has no structure except for field trip days. They let the kids wonder all over the school property with no adult supervision. I've seen kids "making out" with no worries of getting caught.

Then my son starts hanging out with the older, cooler kids and things get worse. He doesn't want me to come around when I drop him off or pick him up & I then start finding notes from little girls with sexual content. Then when I pick him up on Monday, I find him with about 3 other boys and 4 girls way off in a field with no supervision. I immediately told the teacher that I put my son in this program to have adult supervision and that he is not to be running freely around the school . Yesterday I go in the class to pick him up and on the way to the car there is a little boy and girl hugged up outside. The little girl stops Devin and asked him if he gave his girlfriend a hug and kiss goodbye. Here's the conversation I have with the little girl:

Me: "Excuse me, what did you ask my son!"
Girl: "UMMM??"
Me: "I'm his mother and it is very rude that you'd make a comment like that in front of me. How old are you?"
Girl: "12."
Me: "You are too young to put so much effort into boyfriends & girlfriends. You should really respect yourself and enjoy being a child while you're a child."

She looked stunned and we left. I may have overreacted but I was caught off guard and not expecting to hear that. I actually refrained myself from what I really wanted to say.

I decided to take my son out of the YMCA since it's actually making him worse instead of molding him into a young man. I know my kids have to grow up, but I think they are still too young to be worrying about sex.

Sorry this is so long, but I really had to get it off my chest .

Go Mom!

I have two young boys (3 and 5) who are growing so fast I just can't believe it. I'm already planning to send them to an all boys outdoor survival camp when they are teens. My DH was sent there when he was a teen (somewhere in Quebec!) and I'm hoping it's still around when my kids get older. Keep their minds focused by having them cut their own firewood and skin their own dinner! I guess we can't keep them from growing up, but we've got to take the opportunity to mold and shape them while we can.

Just a question...what was your son's reaction when you spoke up to that preteen girl? Is he OK with not going to YMCA camp anymore?

I'm not looking forward to those teenage years. I've already told my DH that we are going to need a bigger house by them time their socks start smelling.

-Jen

 

[mommaU4]

I decided to take my son out of the YMCA since it's actually making him worse instead of molding him into a young man. I know my kids have to grow up, but I think they are still too young to be worrying about sex.

Sorry this is so long, but I really had to get it off my chest .

First of all, a hug for you because it is so hard to raise kids these days.
Second, for what it's worth, I think you did the right thing by taking him out. I can't believe those sort of things were going on there. I'm sure if more parents knew about it they'd be pretty upset. I know I would be.

My son Adam is 13, (he'll be 14 in Dec) and I worry about the same things as you. How to keep them from growing up too fast.

I was watching a movie the other day and he wanted to watch it but it had some sexual situations and comments in it so I said no. He said to me, "Mom, you know all that stuff you used to hear in high school? Well, that's all in middle school now, so I'm sure there's nothing in that movie that I don't hear at school or on the bus."



I still didn't let him watch it, but I believe what he said. Kids are just exposed to so much more now then we were. Not that any of us were saints growing up, at least I wasn't. But it was much later on.......around 16 or 17, NOT 12 and 13.

Adam gets almost daily phone calls from some girl in school. He likes her but she had a boyfriend. The they broke up and he was thinking of asking her, well.......asking her what I'm not sure. To be his girlfriend I guess, what ever that means at age 13.
Anyway, he waited ONE DAY, and it was too late. She'd already gotten a new boyfriend. After one day! Of course, like I said that doesn't stop her from calling Adam every day.

I'd say just keep the lines of communication open. Make sure he knows he can talk to you openly and you won't get mad (ahem, lol). Tell him why you took him out of the Y, and what you expect from him at this age. Maybe you can just let him know that while you don't expect him to be a saint, 13 is simply too young!!

Watch shows with him if he is willing to do that about teen issues. I watched the Baby Borrowers with my two older ones so they could see how hard it is if you want to play grown up, it comes with responsibilities.

I guess all we can do is try to guide them in the right direction and hope for the best. Good luck!!!

Oh, is he getting mouthy yet with you??? OMG, my 13 year old has such a mouth on him!!! Not bad words, but just really sarcastic. 'Course, I have no clue where he gets that from......

 

[mommaU4]

Hi Girls!

It's been a hectic week since we got back from our weekend quickie to DLR!

We had a great time, just the two of us. Since I was up all night with insomnia, we left the house around 5 am, and were at the park in time for a corny dog lunch. But the first thing we did is head over to TSMM. All I can say is WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We loved it. The wait time said 60 minutes, and we were on the ride in about 35. We rode it about 5 times over the weekend, but used the single rider line. We always got on within 10 minutes and were in the same group of 8 passengers. It worked perfectly for us!

We went to the Billys show at Saddleback College, and that was also tons of fun. We had front row seats, but they were very strict about taking pictures, so I only got a couple.

We also got to ride in the Lily Belle. I went up to the Main St train station during the parade and just asked the first person I saw. He said he had to check and was back within a couple of minutes and said it was on its way in. It was really a neat experience!

We ate at the French Market for dinner one night, and it was really good. I had Roasted Chicken with mashed potatoes, veggies and corn bread, and Marty had Salmon with rice, veggies and corn bread. It was not cheap, but it was good.

We also ate at Riverbelle Terrace for breakfast and lunch and Rancho del Z for dinner one night. The rest of the time, we just "snacked around." I did notice that the bakeries at the resort all featured a variety of cupcakes ranging from around $2.75 to $4.50. I'm not really a cake person, but they sure looked cute.

Well, that's it for my mini TR. If you have any questions, fire away.

I'm feeling a little sad, because this is the first time in literally years, that I don't have specific plans for my next trip. We always go during the Christmas season, so I better get planning.........

Hey Tina, thanks for the mini TR!!! I'm glad you had a nice trip and liked TSMM. It's so fun, isn't it??

Sounds like the Billy show at the college was really good. I love the pics! Thanks for sharing. That one with your DH is great.

And that's so cool you got to ride in the Lilly Belle! I want to do that. So if you just ask, they'll let you? Or was that sort of a lucky fluke?
In any case that's great, and the pic came out really good.

I'm glad to hear you liked the French Market. I was thinking of trying it on our next trip. Oh, and this is so embarrassing to admit but I was excited to hear about the cupcakes! Those are one of my favorite desserts.

Thanks again for sharing and welcome back.

 

[toocherie]

To all the ladies with preteen kids, can I just tell you I hate how fast kids grow up these days . I've always tried to keep my kids as young and carefree as I could. But it gets harder and harder, especially when so many of their peers are so fast.

Go Katie! I don't have kids, but really admire that you spoke up to that girl. Her Mom probably doesn't care.

Did you tell the YMCA why you took Devin out of camp? I would be talking to the head of the program about your disappointment. Probably (right--in our spare time?) even writing a letter to the regional director or something. I'm sure there are a lot of parents who don't realize what is happening (or not happening).

Cheryl

 

[MamaKate]

Go Mom!

Just a question...what was your son's reaction when you spoke up to that preteen girl? Is he OK with not going to YMCA camp anymore?

I'm not looking forward to those teenage years. I've already told my DH that we are going to need a bigger house by them time their socks start smelling.

-Jen

You could tell he was also a little shocked I said something, but it didn't bother him too much, since he's used to my mouth . He's also fine not going to the YMCA. He wasn't too thrilled to go there in the first place, but I thought it would be good for him ~ WRONG!!.

I also told him that girls who are easy and willing to give themselves to anyone are not the type of girl he should want. He agreed and said he didn't even like the girl, but she kept pursuing him.

NOTE TO SELF: Look for outdoor survival school for son .

My son Adam is 13, (he'll be 14 in Dec) and I worry about the same things as you. How to keep them from growing up too fast.

I was watching a movie the other day and he wanted to watch it but it had some sexual situations and comments in it so I said no. He said to me, "Mom, you know all that stuff you used to hear in high school? Well, that's all in middle school now, so I'm sure there's nothing in that movie that I don't hear at school or on the bus."



Watch shows with him if he is willing to do that about teen issues. I watched the Baby Borrowers with my two older ones so they could see how hard it is if you want to play grown up, it comes with responsibilities.

Oh, is he getting mouthy yet with you??? OMG, my 13 year old has such a mouth on him!!! Not bad words, but just really sarcastic. 'Course, I have no clue where he gets that from......

Scary isn't it . Some of the content I found in those notes shocked me. I don't think my son knew what a lot of it was anyway, since it was slang words for different types of sexual acts, but now he's exposed.

We also watch Baby Borrowers and Nanny 911. Between both of those shows, my kids swear they will never have kids .

My son isn't too mouthy yet (only when he's really tired and I ask him to do something). He's always been a mama's boy and my helper so he's usually pretty good with me. My DD on the other hand . Like your son she doesn't curse or get vulgar, but she sure knows how to pick those words that really push my buttons & her brothers. For example, I rarely spank my kids because in the past they have been really good kids (up until puberty), but last week my DD kept back talking me so I firmly (not hard) spanked her on the bottom. Her reponse laughing, "that didn't hurt at all." I wasn't trying to hurt her, I just wanted to make it known it's not OK to back talk. So I responded to her "Oh you want one that hurts" and gave her a REAL spanking & lets just say she got the point.

 

[MamaKate]

Go Katie! I don't have kids, but really admire that you spoke up to that girl. Her Mom probably doesn't care.

Did you tell the YMCA why you took Devin out of camp? I would be talking to the head of the program about your disappointment. Probably (right--in our spare time?) even writing a letter to the regional director or something. I'm sure there are a lot of parents who don't realize what is happening (or not happening).

Cheryl

Your right that her parents probably don't care. A lot of parents are so busy these days that they leave their kids to raise themselves and it shows. I did let the YMCA know why I pulled him out and they just said they completely understand, but they only have 2 teachers for about 50 kids so it's hard for them to keep an eye on all of them. But if they had a more structured day filled with different activities, it would give the kids less of a chance to wander around.

The whole program just wasn't what I expected .

 

[mommaU4]

OMG, TWO teachers for 50 kids?!?!?! Good grief. Even still, they could have more structured activites to keep a better eye on the kids.

Well, I'm sorry the Y didn't turn out to be what you'd hoped for. But how were you to know? And now that you do know, you did the best thing which was to get him out of there.

You're DD sounds a lot like my son. LOL He's really a good kid, and he's smart too. All A's. But of course being smart makes him think he knows it all. And he likes to debate me on everything. Make me nuts.

Kids!

 

[DangerMouse]

Hi ladies! Just checkin in from Colorado. I have my laptop with me in the park across from my mom's house. This is the closest place I have found with a wi fi hot spot. Oh the lengths I'll go to for my internet fix. . .

It's actually pretty hot here (90's) but I'll take it over the 113 in Phoenix. And the kids are enjoying the change in scenery.

I'll be driving back to Phoenix next Wednesday. So I'll have time to catch up with everyone then! TTFN!

 

[mommaU4]

Hi Callie, thanks for checking in. I hate to say it but I'd be sitting in that park too if that's what it took to get online for a little while. LOL

Glad to hear the kids are enjoying themselves. See ya when you get back!

 

[Jenn1116]

DD 4 already gets very sassy with me. I make it clear she is not allowed to talk to me that way. She's good about apologizing but how do I stop this? I'm extra worried about the teen years

 

[disney-inspired]

Hello everyone!

Happy Friday! I woke up at 12:45 but in my defense I did go to bed at 2:30am.

Wish me luck, I entered my application for Cal State Fullerton online last night. Now all I can do is wait.

 

[mommaU4]

DD 4 already gets very sassy with me. I make it clear she is not allowed to talk to me that way. She's good about apologizing but how do I stop this? I'm extra worried about the teen years

She's young enough that she still probably really craves your attention and approval, so why not see what happens if you ignore her? If you're home and she says something sassy to you, tell her you don't appreciate being spoken to like that, and until she can talk to you in a nice and pleasant manner then you don't want to talk to her at all.

I bet after awhile, especially when she's excited to tell you something and you won't talk to her, she'll be nice.
I don't know. It worked with my DD because she was ALWAYS eager to talk to me about something at that age and hated it when I wouldn't respond. She's 11 now and really good. A total momma's helper and rarely talks back. So I hope it stays that way. Something just seems to happen when they turn 13. It's weird!

You could also just pray that you make it through the teen years!!

Hello everyone!

Happy Friday! I woke up at 12:45 but in my defense I did go to bed at 2:30am.

Wish me luck, I entered my application for Cal State Fullerton online last night. Now all I can do is wait.

Oh, here's lots of luck for you!!!!

 

[disney-inspired]

So where is everyone?!

 

[Stacerita]

So where is everyone?!

At work

 

[disney-inspired]

At work

I'm actually doing math homework

 

[disney-inspired]

I'm not sure if you all have seen this but a couple of girls (cousins) are doing some Disney-inspired (haha, my name!) make-up. I doubt you'd wear the more "creative" make-up to work (although it'd be neat for Halloween!) but the princess ones are very pretty.




Hope you all like my Snow White font!

 

[stacielee]

Hi ladies! Just checkin in from Colorado. I have my laptop with me in the park across from my mom's house. This is the closest place I have found with a wi fi hot spot. Oh the lengths I'll go to for my internet fix. . .

It's actually pretty hot here (90's) but I'll take it over the 113 in Phoenix. And the kids are enjoying the change in scenery.

I'll be driving back to Phoenix next Wednesday. So I'll have time to catch up with everyone then! TTFN!

Well, you definitely haven't missed anything with the weather here! I think today was the hottest, and for the next week, it's all pretty much the same, around 105 and "Times of clouds and sun with a thunderstorm in the afternoon." I would be enjoying the cooler weather, like it was in Michigan! So much nicer! Is it humid there?

Have fun! Be careful driving home!

 

[mommaU4]

At work

I'm actually doing math homework

I took my kids back-to-school clothing shopping tonight. Wow, we all had real exciting Friday nights!!!

Cristabel, I've seen their make-up thread and it's great. No way could I do that.